Anonymous wrote:“So a guy your age who’s a teacher or a firefighter is doing a lot of things wrong. Got it! Stay classy there. #Priorities”

Well that’s a really silly red herring. Not many single male teachers out there. But yes, I would one my age to be maxed out on the district pay scale and to have some summer or after school side hustle. Either to support his kids or to be well prepared for retirement.

And I have no interest in firefighters.

90 percent of my kid's high school teachers are men.

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Anonymous wrote:I know what various industries and roles pay, as well as what degrees actually required hard work and a brain.
Why marry someone dumb, lazy, or unmotivated?
Would you want your son or daughter marrying that?

Or maybe you want your son marrying a nice traditional woman that can take care of him, the house and the kids?
Or your daughter to marry some workaholic “income provider.”

LOL there are people(men and women) who are extremely rich and dumb, lazy or unmotivated. I guess you would tell your son or daughter to not marry someone worth a few 100 million.

You mean they inherited $100 million and are so dumb, lazy and unmotivated their trustee didn’t demand them get a prenup? Wow. What a catch. What a life partner.

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Anonymous wrote:No, but if I ever get remarried, I will require a prenuptial agreement. I wouldn't want to marry a gold digger. So he can come with what he comes with and I come and leave with what I came with. Also, not a chance in hell would I ever pay a penny of spousal support.

Prenups do not eliminate the possibility of spousal support.

Depending on the state you are in they most certainly can. Child support can't and shouldn't be avoided, but a prenup absolutely can eliminate alimony.

I have known several men who had prenups, and still paid alimony. The prenup also didn't protect the assets they named in it (their houses), either.

Well of course. All premarital agreements are different. Some people prenegotiate alimony. If they paid alimony it is because their prenump called for it. I have one for my 2nd marriage (in Virginia), it protects both of us, but additionally in our case, future rights to spousal support are waived by both of us. All assets coming into the marriage (including all retirement savings) have been declared and are separate and all future retirement growth going forward for monies saved are joint, provided both parties remain working and contributing at the annual maximum.

The agreement is much more comprehensive, but once again, a prenump is whatever both parties and their SEPARATE counsel agree too.

When I met my husband, he was looking for a job and the. Was a post-doc for a long time. I wasn’t sure he’d every make decent money and didn’t care since I can support us if needed. However he was debt free - no student loans, no car note, and had a retirement account started. So I at least knew I wasn’t going into debt marrying him and that he could live within his means.

Anonymous wrote:I know what various industries and roles pay, as well as what degrees actually required hard work and a brain.
Why marry someone dumb, lazy, or unmotivated?
Would you want your son or daughter marrying that?

Or maybe you want your son marrying a nice traditional woman that can take care of him, the house and the kids?
Or your daughter to marry some workaholic “income provider.”

LOL there are people(men and women) who are extremely rich and dumb, lazy or unmotivated. I guess you would tell your son or daughter to not marry someone worth a few 100 million.

No. But I have always liked smart men. Apparently smart + ambitious = $$$.

“So a guy your age who’s a teacher or a firefighter is doing a lot of things wrong. Got it! Stay classy there. #Priorities”

Well that’s a really silly red herring. Not many single male teachers out there. But yes, I would one my age to be maxed out on the district pay scale and to have some summer or after school side hustle. Either to support his kids or to be well prepared for retirement.

And I have no interest in firefighters.

I know what various industries and roles pay, as well as what degrees actually required hard work and a brain.
Why marry someone dumb, lazy, or unmotivated?
Would you want your son or daughter marrying that?

Or maybe you want your son marrying a nice traditional woman that can take care of him, the house and the kids?
Or your daughter to marry some workaholic “income provider.”

I know a women who has a number figure in her head. If their job doesn’t come close to said number she won’t date them.
I never had a number in my head. My thought was as long as you are determined and hard working it’s fine. My husband makes a good amount but it wasn’t really anything we talked about until right before we got engaged. My husband worked his ass off to get his job. He worked construction jobs through grad school and now working towards his dream job. I dated a guy who worked for a chain restaurant. He started out at ad a server in college or high school and worked his way up to upper management. He worked hard and was determined and achieved his goals.

I have an ADHD test and family mental health histories requirement.

Anonymous wrote:Of course I did. Who wants to marry someone who you have to bank roll? At least equal - salary and education - was a must. Better than me in either? Definite plus. I don’t care about luxury cars, clothes, expensive vacations, or living in a $2 million dollar house, but financial security, education and a good job was definitely a requirement for a mate.

+1. And almost every woman I know did the same. I wanted someone who was equal-or better- than me in terms of salary and education. This was not exceptionally difficult to find and everyone that I dated easily checked this box.

Of course I did. Who wants to marry someone who you have to bank roll? At least equal - salary and education - was a must. Better than me in either? Definite plus. I don’t care about luxury cars, clothes, expensive vacations, or living in a $2 million dollar house, but financial security, education and a good job was definitely a requirement for a mate.

There are still many women who see men as the provider or the breadwinner, they want to be taken care of and are still very into traditional gender roles. Some men like to be the provider and breadwinner and to take care of their woman so as long as these two find each other all good. They are usually the woman who post pictures of their engagement rings on social media.

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Anonymous wrote:No, but if I ever get remarried, I will require a prenuptial agreement. I wouldn't want to marry a gold digger. So he can come with what he comes with and I come and leave with what I came with. Also, not a chance in hell would I ever pay a penny of spousal support.

Prenups do not eliminate the possibility of spousal support.

Depending on the state you are in they most certainly can. Child support can't and shouldn't be avoided, but a prenup absolutely can eliminate alimony.

I have known several men who had prenups, and still paid alimony. The prenup also didn't protect the assets they named in it (their houses), either.

“Yes, of course I do. No where near my salary, because that would eliminate most of my dating pool. But if a guy my age isn’t pulling near to $150k, he’s been doing a lot of things wrong over the years, and it’s likely a big red flag that somethings wrong with him.


The percentage of people who gross $150K+ is around 10% for this area. If you’re eliminating 9 out of 10 prospects based solely on income, and your dating plan isn’t working, you might want to look at that.“

Lucky for me that my critical thinking skills and knowledge of statistics are better than yours. But I’m sorry you’re feeling so butt hurt.