But he’s also doing the generalizing in other posts here, stop being stupid and obsessing about your ex-wife yourself.

He was responding to a generalization about men. I got cheated on and don’t bleed in public about it, the way women on this thread seem to. Move on.

Anonymous wrote:DWs, if you love your DHs, you will have sex with them. You will make an effort to teach them to be a good lover to you if they are not. If you are not willing or able to do this, then let him know that your marriage is companionate and you do not expect sexual fidelity. If you refuse sex on a regular basis when it is important to your spouse, either you need to be GGG or you need to him/her and out. Marriage is not the priesthood. I certainly did not sign up for a life of celibacy.

Translation:

DHs, you have no agency or responsibility for happiness in your marriage. Your DW is responsible for figuring everything out and telling you, a grown man, what is going wrong. You don’t have to agree with her. Your behavior outside the bedroom is irrelevant and doesn’t weaken your entitlement to her services in the bedroom. If she is “unable,” as you say, to convince you to change your technique/grooming habits/behavior outside the bed (including your abuse if any), then you are entitled to find an AP.

DWs, if you love your DHs, you will have sex with them. You will make an effort to teach them to be a good lover to you if they are not. If you are not willing or able to do this, then let him know that your marriage is companionate and you do not expect sexual fidelity. If you refuse sex on a regular basis when it is important to your spouse, either you need to be GGG or you need to him/her and out. Marriage is not the priesthood. I certainly did not sign up for a life of celibacy.

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I was none of these things, and was still cut off, and pushed away from any affection at all. I also did most of the housework and earned most of the money.

My girlfriend is thrilled I'm divorced. She doesn't play any of the games that the ex did.

So you generalize from your own anecdote to all relationships everywhere and make all-encompassing pronouncements about all marriages?

He wrote about his specific experience, contradicting someone else’s pronouncements. Stop being stupid. Actually, stop being bitter about your ex-husband. Move on.

But he’s also doing the generalizing in other posts here, stop being stupid and obsessing about your ex-wife yourself.

Viva la Patriarchy! White male losers unite, and crush those wives and immigrants under your boot (except for the immigrant wives from online visa shops, of course)!

This mentality, that “the wife has to put out no matter how awful or abusive I am, because my sexual needs must always be met,” has made women miserable for thousands of years. You guys suck.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I was none of these things, and was still cut off, and pushed away from any affection at all. I also did most of the housework and earned most of the money.

My girlfriend is thrilled I'm divorced. She doesn't play any of the games that the ex did.

So you generalize from your own anecdote to all relationships everywhere and make all-encompassing pronouncements about all marriages?

Why not? That's what DCUM women always do.

I was none of these things, and was still cut off, and pushed away from any affection at all. I also did most of the housework and earned most of the money.

My girlfriend is thrilled I'm divorced. She doesn't play any of the games that the ex did.

So you generalize from your own anecdote to all relationships everywhere and make all-encompassing pronouncements about all marriages?

He wrote about his specific experience, contradicting someone else’s pronouncements. Stop being stupid. Actually, stop being bitter about your ex-husband. Move on.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you’re willing to break up your kids’ home so you can get laid, it says a lot about who you are as a person and why perhaps your spouse doesn’t want sex with you in the first place.

It says you are a normal person who desires sex with their spouse, which is natural, admirable, and indeed the basis of the marital contract.

The person who broke up the kids home... is the person denying sex to their spouse, not the person who leaves.

Yes. If you sign up for a monogamous married relationship, you agree to have regular sex with your husband. If you don't, you are ruining the marriage.

Because if your spouse doesn’t shower, or abuses you verbally or physically, or is just plain bad in bed, it’s your fault that you aren’t attracted to them, and not theirs?

What is this, the Middle Ages?

I thought we had moved beyond the mentality where you could beat your wife and then demand sex without any introspection on your part.

I was none of these things, and was still cut off, and pushed away from any affection at all. I also did most of the housework and earned most of the money.

My girlfriend is thrilled I'm divorced. She doesn't play any of the games that the ex did.

So you generalize from your own anecdote to all relationships everywhere and make all-encompassing pronouncements about all marriages?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you’re willing to break up your kids’ home so you can get laid, it says a lot about who you are as a person and why perhaps your spouse doesn’t want sex with you in the first place.

It says you are a normal person who desires sex with their spouse, which is natural, admirable, and indeed the basis of the marital contract.

The person who broke up the kids home... is the person denying sex to their spouse, not the person who leaves.

Yes. If you sign up for a monogamous married relationship, you agree to have regular sex with your husband. If you don't, you are ruining the marriage.

Because if your spouse doesn’t shower, or abuses you verbally or physically, or is just plain bad in bed, it’s your fault that you aren’t attracted to them, and not theirs?

What is this, the Middle Ages?

I thought we had moved beyond the mentality where you could beat your wife and then demand sex without any introspection on your part.

I was none of these things, and was still cut off, and pushed away from any affection at all. I also did most of the housework and earned most of the money.

My girlfriend is thrilled I'm divorced. She doesn't play any of the games that the ex did.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How about divorcing a sex-withholding spouse *before* you start banging someone new? That way there's no confusion about who is the *bad* person in the situation, right?

Probably because they know they'll end up alone with the same situation happening over and over. Maybe they know it's them deep down.

+2. “No sex so I had to have an affair” is a huge cop-out from dealing with emotional problems in your marriage or your own failings as a husband. Maybe you just weren’t all that in bed and she got bored?

So you think a woman can deny her husband sex just because she is bored with him not learning enough new tricks to use in the bedroom? Pathetic

I'm so happy my wife doesn't think like the nasty women on this forum and feel bad for any men that were decieved into being with women like you

You missed the part about fixing the other failings in your marriage, work on your reading comprehension. You also seem verbally abusive. Horrible.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you’re willing to break up your kids’ home so you can get laid, it says a lot about who you are as a person and why perhaps your spouse doesn’t want sex with you in the first place.

It says you are a normal person who desires sex with their spouse, which is natural, admirable, and indeed the basis of the marital contract.

The person who broke up the kids home... is the person denying sex to their spouse, not the person who leaves.

Yes. If you sign up for a monogamous married relationship, you agree to have regular sex with your husband. If you don't, you are ruining the marriage.

Because if your spouse doesn’t shower, or abuses you verbally or physically, or is just plain bad in bed, it’s your fault that you aren’t attracted to them, and not theirs?

What is this, the Middle Ages?

I thought we had moved beyond the mentality where you could beat your wife and then demand sex without any introspection on your part.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How about divorcing a sex-withholding spouse *before* you start banging someone new? That way there's no confusion about who is the *bad* person in the situation, right?

Probably because they know they'll end up alone with the same situation happening over and over. Maybe they know it's them deep down.

+2. “No sex so I had to have an affair” is a huge cop-out from dealing with emotional problems in your marriage or your own failings as a husband. Maybe you just weren’t all that in bed and she got bored?

So you think a woman can deny her husband sex just because she is bored with him not learning enough new tricks to use in the bedroom? Pathetic

I'm so happy my wife doesn't think like the nasty women on this forum and feel bad for any men that were decieved into being with women like you

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you’re willing to break up your kids’ home so you can get laid, it says a lot about who you are as a person and why perhaps your spouse doesn’t want sex with you in the first place.

It says you are a normal person who desires sex with their spouse, which is natural, admirable, and indeed the basis of the marital contract.

The person who broke up the kids home... is the person denying sex to their spouse, not the person who leaves.

Yes. If you sign up for a monogamous married relationship, you agree to have regular sex with your husband. If you don't, you are ruining the marriage.

As Dan Savage would say, do what you have to to stay sane.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How about divorcing a sex-withholding spouse *before* you start banging someone new? That way there's no confusion about who is the *bad* person in the situation, right?

Probably because they know they'll end up alone with the same situation happening over and over. Maybe they know it's them deep down.

+2. “No sex so I had to have an affair” is a huge cop-out from dealing with emotional problems in your marriage or your own failings as a husband. Maybe you just weren’t all that in bed and she got bored?