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07/03/2017 10:49 Subject: What is #boymom?

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Anonymous wrote:I truly believe that #boymom is a defense mechanism propagated by mothers of only boys who deep in their heart of hearts wish (or wished) they had a girl. #oneofeachmom

I think moms of just boys sense this condescending pity coming from other moms of both or just girls and wear the moniker with pride to try to fight back.

#oneofeachmom with a #boymom sister in law

I think this is right. I have only one child, a boy, but people were visibly disappointed when I was pregnant and told them I was expecting a boy. I even had at least one person say, "That's ok; maybe the next one will be a girl."

LOL People are idiots. I love boys. Girls are way too much drama for me.

Thanks for reviving this wack-a-doodle thread.

I'm bored

I also thought about DH's cousin whose late-twenties son just... won't... leave. Smart capable kid and still wants to live with his folks. They're a nice family though, I'd like to live with them too.

Anonymous

07/03/2017 10:46 Subject: What is #boymom?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I truly believe that #boymom is a defense mechanism propagated by mothers of only boys who deep in their heart of hearts wish (or wished) they had a girl. #oneofeachmom

I think moms of just boys sense this condescending pity coming from other moms of both or just girls and wear the moniker with pride to try to fight back.

#oneofeachmom with a #boymom sister in law

I think this is right. I have only one child, a boy, but people were visibly disappointed when I was pregnant and told them I was expecting a boy. I even had at least one person say, "That's ok; maybe the next one will be a girl."

LOL People are idiots. I love boys. Girls are way too much drama for me.

Thanks for reviving this wack-a-doodle thread.

Anonymous

07/03/2017 10:43 Subject: What is #boymom?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I truly believe that #boymom is a defense mechanism propagated by mothers of only boys who deep in their heart of hearts wish (or wished) they had a girl. #oneofeachmom

I think moms of just boys sense this condescending pity coming from other moms of both or just girls and wear the moniker with pride to try to fight back.

#oneofeachmom with a #boymom sister in law

I think this is right. I have only one child, a boy, but people were visibly disappointed when I was pregnant and told them I was expecting a boy. I even had at least one person say, "That's ok; maybe the next one will be a girl."

LOL People are idiots. I love boys. Girls are way too much drama for me.

Anonymous

06/14/2017 13:32 Subject: What is #boymom?

Anonymous wrote:She loves her boys and doesn't feel like her life is lacking at all but posters like pp insist on tis weird narrative that she is one of those poor women that didn't have a daughter. She regularly gets asked about having another baby not because they are wondering about whether their family feels complete but because people can't fathom that a lack of a girl doesn't mean a hole in her heart. It's disrespectful and stupid and so she occasionally makes jokes about being a #boymom. Not because she is pining for a girl but because everyone thinks she is!

I only pointed out the contrast because I wanted to show that there are people who experience both and can comprehend that other people are just happy with the kids they have and to show I'm not a mom of just boys since all of them are being labeled defensive

This is oddly true, in my experience. I have two girls and my best friend has two boys. No one has ever asked me if I'm going to try for a boy, but she gets asked all the time if she's going to try for a girl.

...and, I have two boys and have never been asked if I'm going to try for a girl. Since we're talking anecdotally.

Anonymous

06/14/2017 13:29 Subject: What is #boymom?

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Anonymous wrote:Why are a few #girlmoms on this thread so angry? It's absurd. I never see this kind of hashtag except when a parent is relating something humorous their kid did. These is no story here. I laugh the same at classic boy stories as when I saw those videos of the dads doing a dance class with their daughters, or when my son thought his friend at school's name was Elsa because she asked everyone to call her that. And we all did. Lighten up.

I'm not sure how highlighting that your son isn't the sharpest crayon in the box is an example of #boymoms?

Anonymous

06/14/2017 11:41 Subject: What is #boymom?

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Anonymous wrote:I truly believe that #boymom is a defense mechanism propagated by mothers of only boys who deep in their heart of hearts wish (or wished) they had a girl. #oneofeachmom

might be, I have 2 boys, in my ideal world I would have 2 of each (but actually prefer what I have to 1 of each) but I think it's possible. I also know that I get told constantly that "your boys will leave you" etc and they are pre schoolers! so maybe it's compensation for that. bc that sucks to hear over and ovwr

You get told constantly that your boys will leave you? I've read that on dcum, but nobody has ever said that to me. Why do people tell you this?

NP. I had my son first and people definitely said this to me.

I think people believe this is true, which is why they say it.

Then when I had a daughter, I heard pearls of wisdom such as - "Every woman deserves to have a daughter." and "She'll take care of you when you're old."

People are idiots. No getting around it.

Anonymous

06/14/2017 10:28 Subject: What is #boymom?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I truly believe that #boymom is a defense mechanism propagated by mothers of only boys who deep in their heart of hearts wish (or wished) they had a girl. #oneofeachmom

might be, I have 2 boys, in my ideal world I would have 2 of each (but actually prefer what I have to 1 of each) but I think it's possible. I also know that I get told constantly that "your boys will leave you" etc and they are pre schoolers! so maybe it's compensation for that. bc that sucks to hear over and ovwr

You get told constantly that your boys will leave you? I've read that on dcum, but nobody has ever said that to me. Why do people tell you this?

I've heard a lot of people say this to my mom who has three boys and one girl (me) in the context of she's so lucky to have me because I won't leave her.

Anonymous

06/14/2017 10:13 Subject: What is #boymom?

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I truly believe that #boymom is a defense mechanism propagated by mothers of only boys who deep in their heart of hearts wish (or wished) they had a girl. #oneofeachmom

might be, I have 2 boys, in my ideal world I would have 2 of each (but actually prefer what I have to 1 of each) but I think it's possible. I also know that I get told constantly that "your boys will leave you" etc and they are pre schoolers! so maybe it's compensation for that. bc that sucks to hear over and ovwr

You get told constantly that your boys will leave you? I've read that on dcum, but nobody has ever said that to me. Why do people tell you this?

I only have one boy, but I get told all the time that boys are the best with their moms, so maybe find nicer people to be around.

Anonymous

06/14/2017 09:19 Subject: What is #boymom?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I truly believe that #boymom is a defense mechanism propagated by mothers of only boys who deep in their heart of hearts wish (or wished) they had a girl. #oneofeachmom

might be, I have 2 boys, in my ideal world I would have 2 of each (but actually prefer what I have to 1 of each) but I think it's possible. I also know that I get told constantly that "your boys will leave you" etc and they are pre schoolers! so maybe it's compensation for that. bc that sucks to hear over and ovwr

You get told constantly that your boys will leave you? I've read that on dcum, but nobody has ever said that to me. Why do people tell you this?

Anonymous

06/14/2017 08:45 Subject: What is #boymom?

She loves her boys and doesn't feel like her life is lacking at all but posters like pp insist on tis weird narrative that she is one of those poor women that didn't have a daughter. She regularly gets asked about having another baby not because they are wondering about whether their family feels complete but because people can't fathom that a lack of a girl doesn't mean a hole in her heart. It's disrespectful and stupid and so she occasionally makes jokes about being a #boymom. Not because she is pining for a girl but because everyone thinks she is!

I only pointed out the contrast because I wanted to show that there are people who experience both and can comprehend that other people are just happy with the kids they have and to show I'm not a mom of just boys since all of them are being labeled defensive