Anonymous
08/15/2016 03:13
Subject: I realized my marriage was over at the dinner table
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am the OP. Thank you for all your feedback. I could write pages and pages of why I am unhappy in my marriage. Insulting my cooking was not a stand alone incident but just the final act of disrespect that I am going to subject myself too. Anyway its in the past and I don't want to rehash it.
I did talk to my ex on the phone on Wednesday night and told him our marriage was over and I was not coming back. I did not tell him I had filed for divorce and he was being served the next day. I did not want him to dodge the process server. I really want to get the process started. I am sure I will get flamed for that.
My ex is convinced that I am having an affair and that I am leaving him for another man. That is not the case. For the record I have never cheated on my ex. He kept asking why why why and I told him to go down memory lane and think about all the arguments we have had read the emails I have sent him and he will have his answer. I told him I was done arguing and fighting. I am just done.
Our only joint asset is a house that we put a very hefty down payment on so the house does have some equity in it. If he agrees to give me the quick divorce that I seek I will happily walk away with nothing. He can have the house and all the equity.
I have not spoken to him since he was served with divorce papers. I honestly have nothing left to say to him and the lawyers can handle it now.
I do plan to seek counseling and I am not going to date anyone for 1 year minimum. I am going to get to know myself again. This is a fresh start for me and for the first time in a really long time I am happy.
Good for you OP.
+1 million. Good for you, OP.
You're going to do great.
Anonymous
08/15/2016 03:12
Subject: I realized my marriage was over at the dinner table
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:good for u. thank goodness you discovered this before you had kids with him.
Yay! +100. you dodged a bullet!
x a zillion. The best happiness to you OP.
Me too! Good luck, OP! Go out there and find happiness. You're young enough, plus no kids, unlike some of the crazy, trapped people here!
Anonymous
08/13/2016 19:29
Subject: I realized my marriage was over at the dinner table
Anonymous wrote:I am the OP. Thank you for all your feedback. I could write pages and pages of why I am unhappy in my marriage. Insulting my cooking was not a stand alone incident but just the final act of disrespect that I am going to subject myself too. Anyway its in the past and I don't want to rehash it.
I did talk to my ex on the phone on Wednesday night and told him our marriage was over and I was not coming back. I did not tell him I had filed for divorce and he was being served the next day. I did not want him to dodge the process server. I really want to get the process started. I am sure I will get flamed for that.
My ex is convinced that I am having an affair and that I am leaving him for another man. That is not the case. For the record I have never cheated on my ex. He kept asking why why why and I told him to go down memory lane and think about all the arguments we have had read the emails I have sent him and he will have his answer. I told him I was done arguing and fighting. I am just done.
Our only joint asset is a house that we put a very hefty down payment on so the house does have some equity in it. If he agrees to give me the quick divorce that I seek I will happily walk away with nothing. He can have the house and all the equity.
I have not spoken to him since he was served with divorce papers. I honestly have nothing left to say to him and the lawyers can handle it now.
I do plan to seek counseling and I am not going to date anyone for 1 year minimum. I am going to get to know myself again. This is a fresh start for me and for the first time in a really long time I am happy.
Good for you OP.
Anonymous
08/13/2016 19:16
Subject: Re:I realized my marriage was over at the dinner table
Have you tried cooking classes?
Anonymous
08/13/2016 18:33
Subject: I realized my marriage was over at the dinner table
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:good for u. thank goodness you discovered this before you had kids with him.
Yay! +100. you dodged a bullet!
x a zillion. The best happiness to you OP.
Anonymous
08/13/2016 17:06
Subject: I realized my marriage was over at the dinner table
This posting has a lot of pages already. Just wanted to support the OP. She did the right thing. My first marriage ended with an epiphany as well. I went to the wedding of my then husband's best friend. Afterwards my husband told me the friend's new wife was "A DOG" !! I was totally blown away. This woman was a nice young woman and not unattractive in any way. They are still married 35 years later. I had had enough. I made my secret plans and moved out 12 weeks later. That comment was the final straw. That man is still friends with my first husband and he doesn't know what was said.
Anonymous
08/13/2016 16:04
Subject: I realized my marriage was over at the dinner table
Anonymous wrote:I admit I skipped from page 1 to 12..but if you were not at home at the time...why were you cooking at someone elses house?
What difference does it make?
Anonymous
08/12/2016 20:15
Subject: I realized my marriage was over at the dinner table
I admit I skipped from page 1 to 12..but if you were not at home at the time...why were you cooking at someone elses house?
Anonymous
08/12/2016 20:10
Subject: I realized my marriage was over at the dinner table
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP please work 9n your shortcomings so this doesn't happen again. Take a cooking lesson, learn to laugh at yourself, be friendly to others
That you think this is about cooking just shows how little you understand the situation.
Nope. PP is right. If OP would work on her issues she wouldn't have been ridiculed
Yes, victims should always do more so that abusers don't treat them like shit.
A victim of a cooking joke? Drama much?
You have been warned once already. We expect better from you. Step your game up
Anonymous
08/12/2016 19:51
Subject: I realized my marriage was over at the dinner table
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP please work 9n your shortcomings so this doesn't happen again. Take a cooking lesson, learn to laugh at yourself, be friendly to others
That you think this is about cooking just shows how little you understand the situation.
Nope. PP is right. If OP would work on her issues she wouldn't have been ridiculed
Yes, victims should always do more so that abusers don't treat them like shit.
A victim of a cooking joke? Drama much?
Anonymous
08/12/2016 19:23
Subject: I realized my marriage was over at the dinner table
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP please work 9n your shortcomings so this doesn't happen again. Take a cooking lesson, learn to laugh at yourself, be friendly to others
That you think this is about cooking just shows how little you understand the situation.
Nope. PP is right. If OP would work on her issues she wouldn't have been ridiculed
Yes, victims should always do more so that abusers don't treat them like shit.
A victim of a cooking joke? Drama much?
Anonymous
08/12/2016 19:13
Subject: I realized my marriage was over at the dinner table
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP please work 9n your shortcomings so this doesn't happen again. Take a cooking lesson, learn to laugh at yourself, be friendly to others
That you think this is about cooking just shows how little you understand the situation.
Nope. PP is right. If OP would work on her issues she wouldn't have been ridiculed
Yes, victims should always do more so that abusers don't treat them like shit.
Anonymous
08/12/2016 18:39
Subject: I realized my marriage was over at the dinner table
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm jealous. Once the kids are out of HS I will be free too.
That's sad. Why can't you leave now?
Because I am a martyr determined to sacrifice my happiness to the alter of mommyhood while teaching my children that marriage is a brutal, unfulfilling, joyless test to be endured until finally the truth can be revealed.
"Happy graduation, DC! Your entire life has been a lie! Enjoy the series of failed, tense and unhappy relationships we trained you to expect!"
This made me laugh (albeit in a sick way)! This is my family story, although I'd like to edit the altar or mommyhood to the altar or career hood, which was made possible by my father's salary, which allowed for copious domestic help. If my mom left, we might come with her and she'd actually have to raise us! So stick it out, they did.
Anonymous
08/12/2016 17:59
Subject: I realized my marriage was over at the dinner table
Anonymous wrote:Quite frankly I'm very happy for you. I'm even happier that you were smart enough to not have kids with such a pig . It's hot as hell outside , i wish I could send you a nice bottle of champagne lol. You did something that most women are too cowardly to do; see shit for what it is as opposed to what you wish it were.
Bravo!
Agreed.
Funny how so many posters, are so threatened by her self confidence. What a bunch of cry babies.
Anonymous
08/12/2016 17:28
Subject: I realized my marriage was over at the dinner table
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP please work 9n your shortcomings so this doesn't happen again. Take a cooking lesson, learn to laugh at yourself, be friendly to others
That you think this is about cooking just shows how little you understand the situation.
Nope. PP is right. If OP would work on her issues she wouldn't have been ridiculed