Anonymous
Post 03/15/2016 18:43     Subject: what looks like a condom appeared in my toliet just now
Chinese condoms, yikes! I am also skeptical of finding a condom in the closet. Soooo many better ways of trashing it. Though maybe that makes it less likely he's cheating, if this were high stakes he would've done more to hide it.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2016 18:26     Subject: Re:what looks like a condom appeared in my toliet just now
Anonymous wrote:I'm a new poster and while some of those commenting are cracking me up, I'm actually starting to feel bad for this woman. I was absolutely not jumping to the conclusion that her husband was cheating on her and presumed he was likely just masturbating with a condom. It sounds weird to me, but I actually learned that this is something fairly common from the "pregnancy" DCUM forum! I'm starting to get a little concerned, however, now that her husband has "admitted" to something else, i.e. changed his story. If he had actually found them somewhere and just flushed it, there is absolutely no way he would have lied about that. That doesn't make any sense. So you know he's lying. Is he just lying because he was embarrassed about telling you he wacked off in it? Or is something more nefarious going on? Like others, it seems unlikely that he could have an affair in your home, but given his propensity to have sex anywhere in public, could this be something he brought home and tried to flush? Tell us, what has he done with condoms from your other "adventures"? Does he leave them on the beach, in the movie theater, etc? Has he ever held on to one to throw it away later?


Can you please expand on this part? Why is jerking off into condoms being talked about on the pregnancy forum? What exactly is being said on there? Are women taking used condoms out of the trash to try and get pregnant (another PP mentioned this)? LOL
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2016 17:48     Subject: what looks like a condom appeared in my toliet just now
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, why did you peek in the toilet in the first place? And wouldn't the offending condom have been hidden by TP?
Something just doesn't add up.



my toilet doesn't have a top.


You toilet doesn't have a lid and random condoms float up from your pipes or fall down from your ceiling?

What kind of hellhole are you living in OP?


Maybe less $$ on the bmw that was being serviced while you were ... being serviced, and more $$ on habitable housing?
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2016 17:46     Subject: what looks like a condom appeared in my toliet just now
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Are some condoms colored? I distinctly remember colored rims.


OP here: Yes all the condoms have a red ring. We got these condoms while we were in China . I don't know if this is a Chinese thing?! DH finally admitted that he found the condom in the closet while he was cleaning and then he flushed it.


OP again: I don't believe his story though! He's going to be doing the night feedings for a long long time


He cheats (which he did) while you are home with a newborn and you think night feelings are an appropriate punishment? As opposed to going all Lorena Bobbit or, you know, leaving him? Something (many things, including enjoying a movie theater quickie and that fact that OP feels she needs STD protection (condoms) while pregnant) tell me that OP's soon to be X-DH has strayed before. Am I right OP?

Trying to figure out where Chinese condoms fit in, though.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2016 17:40     Subject: what looks like a condom appeared in my toliet just now
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, why did you peek in the toilet in the first place? And wouldn't the offending condom have been hidden by TP?
Something just doesn't add up.



my toilet doesn't have a top.


You toilet doesn't have a lid and random condoms float up from your pipes or fall down from your ceiling?

What kind of hellhole are you living in OP?
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2016 17:36     Subject: Re:what looks like a condom appeared in my toliet just now
It could be a lot of things, or he is telling the truth.

Let it go, don't convict him unless you have proof because that's not fair to him.

Look for any time differences before/after work. Find out where he's going without him knowing.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2016 17:26     Subject: Re:what looks like a condom appeared in my toliet just now
Anonymous wrote:Um... sorry, but it's not necessarily true that she will catch him if she watches closely or that, if he is cheating, that he's doing it with the same person. Something about this guy and the situation is screaming "PROSTITUTE!" He drove down to the circuit (ALL communities have one). Picked someone up in his car and had sex and was back in the house with groceries in no time flat. He brought the rubber in to flush it (or left it on and removed it when he went to pee when he got home).


You could be right but it won't be the first time and not the last....so yes she can catch him if he's doing that. All the more reason to be scared and continue to check up on him.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2016 17:26     Subject: Re:what looks like a condom appeared in my toliet just now
Anonymous wrote:Um... sorry, but it's not necessarily true that she will catch him if she watches closely or that, if he is cheating, that he's doing it with the same person. Something about this guy and the situation is screaming "PROSTITUTE!" He drove down to the circuit (ALL communities have one). Picked someone up in his car and had sex and was back in the house with groceries in no time flat. He brought the rubber in to flush it (or left it on and removed it when he went to pee when he got home).


You mean the Balduccis parking lot?
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2016 17:24     Subject: what looks like a condom appeared in my toliet just now
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, why did you peek in the toilet in the first place? And wouldn't the offending condom have been hidden by TP?
Something just doesn't add up.



my toilet doesn't have a top.


Wait....this is an eleventh hour curveball. Your toilet doesn't have a top? Your toilet...doesn't have a top?

Do you mean the seat doesn't have a lid? Because if so, in what world would your DH throw a condom in there?


Well, and why didn't he wait to see if it flushed? Or wrap it in TP? Or just wrap it in a dirty diaper and stick it in the diaper genie and take that thing OUT. Nobody is going in THERE. Need a little more thinking, here.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2016 17:22     Subject: Re:what looks like a condom appeared in my toliet just now
Anonymous wrote:Um... sorry, but it's not necessarily true that she will catch him if she watches closely or that, if he is cheating, that he's doing it with the same person. Something about this guy and the situation is screaming "PROSTITUTE!" He drove down to the circuit (ALL communities have one). Picked someone up in his car and had sex and was back in the house with groceries in no time flat. He brought the rubber in to flush it (or left it on and removed it when he went to pee when he got home).


OH, OP. Sounds like somebody knows what he/she is talking about.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2016 17:21     Subject: what looks like a condom appeared in my toliet just now
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Maybe he hides his condoms in his pocket and flushes them when he gets home.


I had a crazy coworker once whose plan to entrap her boyfriend (to get child support ) was to pull his used condoms out of the trash can and push them inside out and stick them up herself. She really wanted his baby. It was one of the craziest stories someone has ever told me.


OMG!



That's been going on since condoms were invented. Or the fine needle hole he can't see. Must be some young ones on this thread.


No, I'm the PP here, and I'm not young. 45. Just shocked that anybody would want to use USED condoms from the trash that way. The hole in the rubber I can see. Lying about BC I can see. But the condom was already in the trash can ... ewwww.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2016 17:17     Subject: what looks like a condom appeared in my toliet just now
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Maybe he hides his condoms in his pocket and flushes them when he gets home.


I had a crazy coworker once whose plan to entrap her boyfriend (to get child support ) was to pull his used condoms out of the trash can and push them inside out and stick them up herself. She really wanted his baby. It was one of the craziest stories someone has ever told me.


Actually it's not. Many women get pregnant that way, most don't tell. They take the used condoms and use a applicator or dropper. If a man doesn't want children he needs to get fixed or don't have sex because if a woman wants a child it will happen.


Are there horrible people in this world who will take advantage of people to get what they want? Absolutely.

But the fact that you think many women get pregnant this way, that this is what women do... well then you have some serious issues and I can't help you.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2016 17:17     Subject: Re:what looks like a condom appeared in my toliet just now
Um... sorry, but it's not necessarily true that she will catch him if she watches closely or that, if he is cheating, that he's doing it with the same person. Something about this guy and the situation is screaming "PROSTITUTE!" He drove down to the circuit (ALL communities have one). Picked someone up in his car and had sex and was back in the house with groceries in no time flat. He brought the rubber in to flush it (or left it on and removed it when he went to pee when he got home).
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2016 17:16     Subject: Re:what looks like a condom appeared in my toliet just now
Anonymous wrote:I'm a new poster and while some of those commenting are cracking me up, I'm actually starting to feel bad for this woman. I was absolutely not jumping to the conclusion that her husband was cheating on her and presumed he was likely just masturbating with a condom. It sounds weird to me, but I actually learned that this is something fairly common from the "pregnancy" DCUM forum! I'm starting to get a little concerned, however, now that her husband has "admitted" to something else, i.e. changed his story. If he had actually found them somewhere and just flushed it, there is absolutely no way he would have lied about that. That doesn't make any sense. So you know he's lying. Is he just lying because he was embarrassed about telling you he wacked off in it? Or is something more nefarious going on? Like others, it seems unlikely that he could have an affair in your home, but given his propensity to have sex anywhere in public, could this be something he brought home and tried to flush? Tell us, what has he done with condoms from your other "adventures"? Does he leave them on the beach, in the movie theater, etc? Has he ever held on to one to throw it away later?


Wouldn't it be dried out and crunchy if he found it open on the floor.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2016 17:13     Subject: what looks like a condom appeared in my toliet just now
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Are some condoms colored? I distinctly remember colored rims.


OP here: Yes all the condoms have a red ring. We got these condoms while we were in China . I don't know if this is a Chinese thing?! DH finally admitted that he found the condom in the closet while he was cleaning and then he flushed it.


OP again: I don't believe his story though! He's going to be doing the night feedings for a long long time


Don't let on, let it go so he thinks you bought it. Now watch him closely, you'll have your answer down the road. If he's cheating he'll contact her again. If not all good.