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Anonymous wrote:Op people like you are why the divorce rate will remain high. Jumping from one relationship to another and being real reckless about it. Please get counseling for yourself and pre-marital counseling before you enter your next marriage. People like you are the reason so many folks are looking down on marriage these days. For people like you marriage really is just a piece of paper and nothing more.

Don't take vows again unless you plan to take them seriously. Marriage takes work and it isn't always going to be easy peasy. If you can't control your desire for other women just stay single and screw all the women you wan't instead of leaving a trail of broken families.

This marriage will be different. I've learned from my mistakes the first time.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like there are people here who aren't sane claiming everybody's life is ruined irreparably and so on. This situation sucks. OP you effed it all up. But ruined everybody's life? C'mon now people. I have been married and I have been divorced (iunfaithful husband, natch) and life sucks ass for a bit and then it goes on.

Have you had your parents break up when you were three and have to go from seeing your mother every day to shuttling back and forth between households and living with a strange woman when you have no capacity to understand why?

If not then STFU.

If you don't get the difference between your experience divorcing as an adult and this toddler's experience, and of you think that any decent woman would put a toddler through that, again you are nuts.

Nope I was 10, neither of my parents cheated but they divorced which was best for all of us, and LIFE WENT THE FUCK ON.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like there are people here who aren't sane claiming everybody's life is ruined irreparably and so on. This situation sucks. OP you effed it all up. But ruined everybody's life? C'mon now people. I have been married and I have been divorced (iunfaithful husband, natch) and life sucks ass for a bit and then it goes on.

Have you had your parents break up when you were three and have to go from seeing your mother every day to shuttling back and forth between households and living with a strange woman when you have no capacity to understand why?

If not then STFU.

If you don't get the difference between your experience divorcing as an adult and this toddler's experience, and of you think that any decent woman would put a toddler through that, again you are nuts.

Nope I was 10, neither of my parents cheated but they divorced which was best for all of us, and LIFE WENT THE FUCK ON.

Anonymous wrote:I call TROLL on the OP.

Nice job. You got 12 pages of attention.
Does your d!ck feel bigger?

Anonymous wrote:Well your dick got you in a deep trouble. How come you did not use birth control? I guess the baby is coming so too late now. Do you have kids?

I would kick you to curb and take you for everything. I would do this so the skank that you end up with Have no money.

You like a loser and a soon to be broke loser at that.

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Anonymous wrote:Well she knows now. She said she's not surprised at all. I told her she can keep the house and I'll move out. She's giving me 30 days to do so.

This is really what is best. Take the financial hit on the house so DD can have as much stability as possible in this fucked up situation.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like there are people here who aren't sane claiming everybody's life is ruined irreparably and so on. This situation sucks. OP you effed it all up. But ruined everybody's life? C'mon now people. I have been married and I have been divorced (iunfaithful husband, natch) and life sucks ass for a bit and then it goes on.

Have you had your parents break up when you were three and have to go from seeing your mother every day to shuttling back and forth between households and living with a strange woman when you have no capacity to understand why?

If not then STFU.

If you don't get the difference between your experience divorcing as an adult and this toddler's experience, and of you think that any decent woman would put a toddler through that, again you are nuts.

Anonymous wrote:Well she knows now. She said she's not surprised at all. I told her she can keep the house and I'll move out. She's giving me 30 days to do so.

Anonymous wrote:Well she knows now. She said she's not surprised at all. I told her she can keep the house and I'll move out. She's giving me 30 days to do so.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, for God's sake....this child is a toddler. It is not going to be confusing or weird for the toddler, because the toddler won't remember anything different. She is going to grow up in a world in which her parents were always apart and she always spent part of her time in each house.

I grew up in a divorced family. It isn't that bad. It was certainly much better than my parents living together.

Not everybody gets a Leave to Beaver experience for their family. Despite that, most people do well.

There are many ways that toddlers perceive and grieve loss. It doesn't look like how a preschool does it. Get a degree in child psychology before you speak on this very sensitive topic.

So dramatic!

This toddler will be fine, unless a crazy person like you fills her head with how evil her father is

I don't think OP is evil. And parents don't have to be evil for their young kids to suffer emotionally from parental choices. I do recommend you read up about grief and stress in the 0-3 years. I divorced with a newborn so I know the desire to believe the child won't even notice. It's alarming the impact of adult dysfunction on their developing minds. In my case, I left because of a mentally and abusive spouse. I didn't assume life would automatically be all sunshine and lollipops for the little one. We did years of family therapy. And my kid is well adjusted as a result when I compare her to some kids in my support group (both men and women) who thought the kids would be just fine without adult help. No rage tantrums, no potty training issues, straight As, etcetera. All three adults in this situation need to acknowledge a huge hole was been ripped in DD's life. Her parents need to help her navigate her new normal and the feelings she experiences.

I am a psych RN. I have read the research. The divorce isn't what damages kids. It is the mental health problems of the parents. Your kid did not stand a chance because you and your partner were not well. You still don't sound well. You should probably straighten out your own life and kid before advising OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, for God's sake....this child is a toddler. It is not going to be confusing or weird for the toddler, because the toddler won't remember anything different. She is going to grow up in a world in which her parents were always apart and she always spent part of her time in each house.

I grew up in a divorced family. It isn't that bad. It was certainly much better than my parents living together.

Not everybody gets a Leave to Beaver experience for their family. Despite that, most people do well.

There are many ways that toddlers perceive and grieve loss. It doesn't look like how a preschool does it. Get a degree in child psychology before you speak on this very sensitive topic.

So dramatic!

This toddler will be fine, unless a crazy person like you fills her head with how evil her father is

I don't think OP is evil. And parents don't have to be evil for their young kids to suffer emotionally from parental choices. I do recommend you read up about grief and stress in the 0-3 years. I divorced with a newborn so I know the desire to believe the child won't even notice. It's alarming the impact of adult dysfunction on their developing minds. In my case, I left because of a mentally and abusive spouse. I didn't assume life would automatically be all sunshine and lollipops for the little one. We did years of family therapy. And my kid is well adjusted as a result when I compare her to some kids in my support group (both men and women) who thought the kids would be just fine without adult help. No rage tantrums, no potty training issues, straight As, etcetera. All three adults in this situation need to acknowledge a huge hole was been ripped in DD's life. Her parents need to help her navigate her new normal and the feelings she experiences.

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Anonymous wrote:Op people like you are why the divorce rate will remain high. Jumping from one relationship to another and being real reckless about it. Please get counseling for yourself and pre-marital counseling before you enter your next marriage. People like you are the reason so many folks are looking down on marriage these days. For people like you marriage really is just a piece of paper and nothing more.

Don't take vows again unless you plan to take them seriously. Marriage takes work and it isn't always going to be easy peasy. If you can't control your desire for other women just stay single and screw all the women you wan't instead of leaving a trail of broken families.

This marriage will be different. I've learned from my mistakes the first time.