Anonymous
Post 09/22/2015 17:29     Subject: Petty In-Law and/or house guest vents
Anonymous wrote:My petty vent is people who talk nonstop about their vacations. Five minutes is fine. 25? Zzzz

My FIL makes everyone sit through slide shows and home movies. If someone enters the room during the show he starts over so they can enjoy the entire show.
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2015 17:21     Subject: Petty In-Law and/or house guest vents
What kind of person opens a thread about venting and then bossily tells everyone how wrong they are for venting? Christ some people are thick.
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2015 17:11     Subject: Petty In-Law and/or house guest vents
My petty vent is people who talk nonstop about their vacations. Five minutes is fine. 25? Zzzz
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2015 16:59     Subject: Re:Petty In-Law and/or house guest vents
Anonymous wrote:[quote=Anonymous

We know we're being petty! It's just a funny thread to "rant" on. I would never lose my temper or say anything about these minor annoyances to my guests. But yeah...it's annoying when people leave crumbs all over your house! It's not a big deal, but it is ALSO not a big deal to vent a lil' on an anonymous internet thread.


Venting about something you know isn't a big deal is fine. Ranting about something that isn't a big deal and insisting that it *is* a big deal is petty.


Look who is in charge of the thread


Anonymous
Post 09/22/2015 16:02     Subject: Petty In-Law and/or house guest vents
We rent our home and MIL is dying for us to buy. She has started saying things to our DC, who is old enough to sort of get it soon, like "When you get your house X nice things will happen." I feel like screaming at her "You know, our life has started. We live in a nice home and there's nothing wrong with it!"

That and she leave wet paper towels all over the house. I think she's trying to clean up after herself but they just sit wadded up all over the place. It skeeves me out a little.
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2015 15:58     Subject: Re:Petty In-Law and/or house guest vents
Anonymous wrote:My MIL says "warsh," "Warshington," and "Mondee, Tuesdee, Wednesdee," etc. She is nice, educated and well-meaning, but it gets me every time. She was a guidance counselor. I can't believe an EDUCATOR would not correct such obvious mispronunciations!


Yeah. Is she from PA? That's a pretty common dialect, PP.
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2015 15:41     Subject: Re:Petty In-Law and/or house guest vents
Anonymous wrote:[quote=Anonymous

We know we're being petty! It's just a funny thread to "rant" on. I would never lose my temper or say anything about these minor annoyances to my guests. But yeah...it's annoying when people leave crumbs all over your house! It's not a big deal, but it is ALSO not a big deal to vent a lil' on an anonymous internet thread.


Venting about something you know isn't a big deal is fine. Ranting about something that isn't a big deal and insisting that it *is* a big deal is petty.


Note that people only do that when people tell them they are petty/awful/wrong about their original petty vent. They know it is petty...but they are also justified for feeling the way they feel about stuff that bugs them in their own home.
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2015 15:29     Subject: Re:Petty In-Law and/or house guest vents
[quote=Anonymous

We know we're being petty! It's just a funny thread to "rant" on. I would never lose my temper or say anything about these minor annoyances to my guests. But yeah...it's annoying when people leave crumbs all over your house! It's not a big deal, but it is ALSO not a big deal to vent a lil' on an anonymous internet thread.


Venting about something you know isn't a big deal is fine. Ranting about something that isn't a big deal and insisting that it *is* a big deal is petty.
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2015 15:28     Subject: Petty In-Law and/or house guest vents
My inlaws leave every plate - and every scrap of uneaten food on each plate - right NEXT to the sink and VERY CLOSE to the dishwasher. God forbid you scrape your plate down the disposal and load the dishwasher. Near the dishwasher is not going to get it done, folks.
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2015 15:24     Subject: Re:Petty In-Law and/or house guest vents
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Anonymous wrote:I never knew the world was full of intolerant assholes--or is it just that this ilk is drawn to the DC metro area?


It's called "petty venting"...no one here is screaming at their guests or whatever. This is a "safe space" for letting off some steam. What about the title and tenor of this thread did you not understand?
I completely understood the title of the thread. I am simply dumbfounded that people really are this petty.


Because you're so tolerant and well-mannered that you call people "assholes."
Well, after 11 pages of this ridiculousness, it does kind of fit.


The thing is, the pettiness is much more enjoyable to read if you're aware that you're being petty. So "I hate the trail of crumbs my FIL leaves when he makes his stupid midafternoon sandwich" -- we all know it only takes a minute or two to wipe up the crumbs, no matter who wipes them. He's an old guy, he's a guest, he raised the man you love OMG WHY THE MESS EVERY FREAKING AFTERNOON!

That's much different from "My MIL likes to sit curled up in a ball on the sofa. WHO DOES THAT?" or "My ILs like coffee in the morning WHAT IS WRONG WITH THEM?"


We know we're being petty! It's just a funny thread to "rant" on. I would never lose my temper or say anything about these minor annoyances to my guests. But yeah...it's annoying when people leave crumbs all over your house! It's not a big deal, but it is ALSO not a big deal to vent a lil' on an anonymous internet thread.
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2015 15:15     Subject: Re:Petty In-Law and/or house guest vents
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:I never knew the world was full of intolerant assholes--or is it just that this ilk is drawn to the DC metro area?


It's called "petty venting"...no one here is screaming at their guests or whatever. This is a "safe space" for letting off some steam. What about the title and tenor of this thread did you not understand?
I completely understood the title of the thread. I am simply dumbfounded that people really are this petty.


Because you're so tolerant and well-mannered that you call people "assholes."
Well, after 11 pages of this ridiculousness, it does kind of fit.


The thing is, the pettiness is much more enjoyable to read if you're aware that you're being petty. So "I hate the trail of crumbs my FIL leaves when he makes his stupid midafternoon sandwich" -- we all know it only takes a minute or two to wipe up the crumbs, no matter who wipes them. He's an old guy, he's a guest, he raised the man you love OMG WHY THE MESS EVERY FREAKING AFTERNOON!

That's much different from "My MIL likes to sit curled up in a ball on the sofa. WHO DOES THAT?" or "My ILs like coffee in the morning WHAT IS WRONG WITH THEM?"
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2015 15:10     Subject: Re:Petty In-Law and/or house guest vents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:I never knew the world was full of intolerant assholes--or is it just that this ilk is drawn to the DC metro area?


It's called "petty venting"...no one here is screaming at their guests or whatever. This is a "safe space" for letting off some steam. What about the title and tenor of this thread did you not understand?
I completely understood the title of the thread. I am simply dumbfounded that people really are this petty.


Because you're so tolerant and well-mannered that you call people "assholes."
Well, after 11 pages of this ridiculousness, it does kind of fit.


If it is "ridiculous," don't read it...and don't comment on it so that it is bumped up the "Recent Topics." Why give your energy to something that bothers you?
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2015 15:09     Subject: Petty In-Law and/or house guest vents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:In-laws who expect to be entertained/conversed with by the WHOLE family every single minute. My husband was in the bathroom earlier today, and they both were all, "Where's Joe?"

He's taking a dump, OK? Do you want him to leave the door open next time so you can chat?

And I'm not exaggerating. They never, ever are OK with people "disappearing" to be alone for a few minutes, even when both kids are napping!


My in-laws are like this too. And then someone (frequently MIL) will respond: "Joe is using the toilet. I don't think he's feeling well." They have a big stack of Bathroom Readers in the powder room downstairs. Grosses me out.

My FIL also picks his feet. Lovingly, obsessively, during marathon hangout sessions on our holiday visits.
Older people often have constipation issues. What exactly are they supposed to do while sitting and why is that gross to you? You really have issues if this gross to you.
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2015 15:09     Subject: Petty In-Law and/or house guest vents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Not to derail this lovely thread, but what would you all do? I enjoy coffee and so does DH. FIL never makes enough coffee and it's normally at least 2 hours old when I come downstairs at 8am. I have no clue how to work their coffee maker and they don't have scoops for their coffee. I've asked for help, but MIL doesn't know how either (it's a weird coffee maker from the 80s) Is it rude to bring a coffee maker and put it in my room? They all think it's crazy for me to want more than 1/2 a cup of coffee. And they don't stock creamer. Petty, but it's basically all I want in the mornings. They'd be highly offended if I went out for coffee by myself every morning.


You can buy Land O'Lakes Mini Moos and have all the creamer you want.

How weird is this coffeemaker? It's hard for me to imagine that there are no intructions for it anywhere on Teh Interwebs. But if not, bring a drip cone and filters and explain that you have despaired of ever learning how to use their coffeemaker.


I think this is an example of "when in Rome." Either get up earlier so you can have more of the hot coffee, or be content with less coffee and microwave it so it is hot. And just pour in some milk.

Another, more subtle solution (vs. going out for coffee or--as some poster suggested, bringing your own coffee maker) might be to try those Starbucks single serving instant packs. Then you can just microwave a cup of water, which wouldn't be too "dramatic."
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2015 15:07     Subject: Re:Petty In-Law and/or house guest vents
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:I never knew the world was full of intolerant assholes--or is it just that this ilk is drawn to the DC metro area?


It's called "petty venting"...no one here is screaming at their guests or whatever. This is a "safe space" for letting off some steam. What about the title and tenor of this thread did you not understand?
I completely understood the title of the thread. I am simply dumbfounded that people really are this petty.


Because you're so tolerant and well-mannered that you call people "assholes."
Well, after 11 pages of this ridiculousness, it does kind of fit.