Anonymous
Post 01/25/2015 13:28     Subject: She's Fat & Lazy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:this thread tells me I should become a lesbian.


Same here.


I want a sister wife. No sex required. Matriarchal revolution begins at home!



Yes! I feel the same way!
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2015 08:52     Subject: She's Fat & Lazy
Anonymous wrote:There..I said it and I know I will get crushed here but its true. DW is about 50+lbs overweight and won't do anything about it. I understand that she gave birth to our kids and i don't expect her to get back to the weight when we got married but the extra weight is causing her medical issues that will only be helped by losing the weight. We pay for a gym membership and I have offered to get her a personal trainer but she has no interest in putting in the work. I thought it may be a depression issue but she refutes it. She says she wants to lose the weight but just lacks the motivation to it. For her health, how do I get lose the weight and get off the couch?


Define lazy? Is she just lazy in terms of taking weight off or is she all around lazy? Is your home and children taken care of? Maybe she is too tired after taking care of you and your children? I'm guessing you aren't all that anyway. If you were she would try harder to keep you from straying.
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2015 22:53     Subject: She's Fat & Lazy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:this thread tells me I should become a lesbian.


Same here.


I want a sister wife. No sex required. Matriarchal revolution begins at home!
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2015 22:53     Subject: Re:She's Fat & Lazy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This thread tell me that I am doing and have done the right thing watching my weight - achieved through being careful what I eat and exercising.


Or else your DH would take it personally and go nutso?

Gosh. This thread should be telling you you need a divorce.


Already got one, thank god.


Glad to hear that!
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2015 22:52     Subject: Re:She's Fat & Lazy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This thread tell me that I am doing and have done the right thing watching my weight - achieved through being careful what I eat and exercising.


Or else your DH would take it personally and go nutso?

Gosh. This thread should be telling you you need a divorce.


Already got one, thank god.
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2015 22:29     Subject: She's Fat & Lazy
Anonymous wrote:NP here. I gained about 50 lb in the course of my 10 yr marriage. I did get very depressed bc bad marriage. It was part of the reason I gained weight. Ex came home one day and told me he was no longer attracted to me and that he had his own place and a date for the weekend. It hurt, but it was the best thing for both of us.

Figure out what is psychologically going on.... Ex blamed me, said I took advantage and let myself go. He was clueless.


Im glad for you that you got out of this situation. Your ex sounds like a loser, who is totally clueless as to his own contribution to the problem.

Cheers to you moving on- without the real "extra weight" you needed to lose- aka, your ex hubby!
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2015 22:28     Subject: She's Fat & Lazy
^^ it does sound to me like you in fact did "let yourself go"
How is that not so?
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2015 22:21     Subject: She's Fat & Lazy
NP here. I gained about 50 lb in the course of my 10 yr marriage. I did get very depressed bc bad marriage. It was part of the reason I gained weight. Ex came home one day and told me he was no longer attracted to me and that he had his own place and a date for the weekend. It hurt, but it was the best thing for both of us.

Figure out what is psychologically going on.... Ex blamed me, said I took advantage and let myself go. He was clueless.
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2015 21:55     Subject: She's Fat & Lazy
Anonymous wrote:OP, here's a suggestion:

Create a space at home for workouts. Get weights -- a range of weights from light to heavy.

Hire a personal trainer to come to the house 3 times a week and do weight training.

Forget the gym. The gym requires commuting there and then people are all around when you feel at your most vulnerable (sweaty, struggling). I think while men find the gym motivating, women find it a motivation killer.

But your wife needs a trainer who will plan out her workouts and guide her through it. She just has to change into workout clothes.

And I suggest weights/strength training. A lot of women make the mistake of focusing on cardio. But your wife will see faster results with strength training. And when I say "results," I actually don't even mean weight loss or a number. I'm talking about feeling stronger, energized, seeing some muscle tone.

Best of luck.


Actually, I think that she would feel better if she could get OUT of the house and have a little time to devote just to herself. Lots of women enjoy the classes at the gym. If she could get in 30 minutes of cardio 5X/wk and 3X week strength training - that would be helpful.
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2015 21:48     Subject: She's Fat & Lazy
OP, here's a suggestion:

Create a space at home for workouts. Get weights -- a range of weights from light to heavy.

Hire a personal trainer to come to the house 3 times a week and do weight training.

Forget the gym. The gym requires commuting there and then people are all around when you feel at your most vulnerable (sweaty, struggling). I think while men find the gym motivating, women find it a motivation killer.

But your wife needs a trainer who will plan out her workouts and guide her through it. She just has to change into workout clothes.

And I suggest weights/strength training. A lot of women make the mistake of focusing on cardio. But your wife will see faster results with strength training. And when I say "results," I actually don't even mean weight loss or a number. I'm talking about feeling stronger, energized, seeing some muscle tone.

Best of luck.
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2015 21:43     Subject: She's Fat & Lazy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
You know, in all honesty, as other PPs have shared from their experiences, I doubt she will regain it. She will feel a LOT lighter once she drops the deadweight of those extra pounds AND your sorry ass! And getting some good dick from someone else


Oh, so you're one of the fat and fuglies he's writing about? Typical.


Are you one the bitter, fat and fuglies my friends giggle about over brunch? The type who can never get laid and blame women for their problems?


Are you one of those who cannot spell, get laid and have nothing to talk about at brunch other than giggle about other people? Lol.


Actually I spelled perfectly! May have forgotten to include an "of", but that's not a spelling issue.

No, I can get laid whenever I want! I have plenty to talk about, but it is funny to laugh about the bitter and pressed men who have issues regarding women, and yet still desperately want to get laid. Pathetic!
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2015 21:41     Subject: She's Fat & Lazy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
You know, in all honesty, as other PPs have shared from their experiences, I doubt she will regain it. She will feel a LOT lighter once she drops the deadweight of those extra pounds AND your sorry ass! And getting some good dick from someone else


Oh, so you're one of the fat and fuglies he's writing about? Typical.


Are you one the bitter, fat and fuglies my friends giggle about over brunch? The type who can never get laid and blame women for their problems?


Are you one of those who cannot spell, get laid and have nothing to talk about at brunch other than giggle about other people? Lol.
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2015 16:24     Subject: She's Fat & Lazy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
You know, in all honesty, as other PPs have shared from their experiences, I doubt she will regain it. She will feel a LOT lighter once she drops the deadweight of those extra pounds AND your sorry ass! And getting some good dick from someone else


Oh, so you're one of the fat and fuglies he's writing about? Typical.


Are you one the bitter, fat and fuglies my friends giggle about over brunch? The type who can never get laid and blame women for their problems?
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2015 16:13     Subject: She's Fat & Lazy
Anonymous wrote:
You know, in all honesty, as other PPs have shared from their experiences, I doubt she will regain it. She will feel a LOT lighter once she drops the deadweight of those extra pounds AND your sorry ass! And getting some good dick from someone else


Oh, so you're one of the fat and fuglies he's writing about? Typical.
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2015 16:11     Subject: She's Fat & Lazy
Anonymous wrote:
Please answer me: why do women pull this crap?


They are the selfish, laziest people on earth.