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Anonymous wrote:LOL now I see. I am 75% German. No wonder I'm on time/early.

You can/should be on time when you meet out. But if you are invited to someone's house at a certain time, you are an uninvited guest prior to that time so you shouldn't be surprised that you are unwelcome.

What host is not ready 10 or 15 minutes before the invited time? Unless you are a procrastinator or disorganized or inexperienced at entertaining this shouldn't be a problem.

Irrelevant! You are expressly not invited at that time. You are unwelcome.

On the other hand, I am an extremely experienced and organized host. I will be ready at the time that you are invited. I have many other things that I am doing, however, especially as sometimes I have more than one event in a day, so I will not necessarily be ready at a time other than that which I specified in the invitation. There are times, in fact, that I am not even home 10 minutes before an event if it is for fewer than 15-20 people. In such cases, I will have prepared completely beforehand, and walk in prior to the arrival time with everything set. But all this is irrelevant. The key is that you are uninvited and unwelcome.

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Anonymous wrote:Everybody knows that the proper time is a good 15min late and up to 30. 10 min early? No way!

I'm 48 and have entertained for over 20 years. I'd be pissed if you showed up 30 minutes late to one of my sit down dinners. You'd miss your first drink and apps, and the pleasure of settling in and meeting everyone, because I'd be serving shortly after you arrived.

Sit down dinner parties, you should be right on time and up to 15 minutes late. Never early, and never later than that. For cocktail parties, generally 10-30 minutes late is expected. Still never early. I would rather you not come at all than come early. Seriously - if the timing didn't work, talk to me about it, and maybe I will change the invitation, but do not come to my house early.

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Anonymous wrote:I know I'm in the minority, but I always come on time on the dot. I'm still too early! Then again, I leave early too. I'm a morning person - I'm on time because if you call the party for 7, I'm done by 10, so I need to go right on time so it doesn't appear that I don't want to stay for the full evening.

When I entertain, I don't care if people come late, but please don't compound it by staying late.

So it's all about you and your schedule, and how you appear? What a mess!

The host would rather I show up 30 minutes late, and yet be among the first to leave?

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I am first generation. My parents were born there. We were never taught to arrive late.

If you were born in Italy and immigrated to the US you are 1st generation. But it sounds like your parents immigrated here and you were born here so you are 2nd generation.

Different PP. I learned it the other way, that immigrants are naturalized citizens. When talking generations, it is American born generations. So my parents are naturalized citizens or immigrant Americans and my siblings and I are first generation (American born). That's the way that I've heard us described for most of my life (and I'm in my 40's).

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Anonymous wrote:Everybody knows that the proper time is a good 15min late and up to 30. 10 min early? No way!

I'm 48 and have entertained for over 20 years. I'd be pissed if you showed up 30 minutes late to one of my sit down dinners. You'd miss your first drink and apps, and the pleasure of settling in and meeting everyone, because I'd be serving shortly after you arrived.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who kept arriving early to my parties (10-30 min.). I think she did it intentionally because she wanted some one-on-one time with me before everyone else arrived. I also think she is a little socially awkward and was uncomfortable arriving when others were there already. Unfortunately she isn't invited to my parties anymore.

I have one of these too. Same result.

Wow. That seems like a very minor infraction for cutting someone out. How odd.

Not odd at all. It is the height of rudeness and completely avoidable.

Eh, a think it's a bit hyperbolic to call the height of rudeness. But I get where that PP is coming from. No one wants a clingy, awkward guest that they have to "babysit" during a small get-together.

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Anonymous wrote:LOL now I see. I am 75% German. No wonder I'm on time/early.

You can/should be on time when you meet out. But if you are invited to someone's house at a certain time, you are an uninvited guest prior to that time so you shouldn't be surprised that you are unwelcome.

What host is not ready 10 or 15 minutes before the invited time? Unless you are a procrastinator or disorganized or inexperienced at entertaining this shouldn't be a problem.

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Anonymous wrote:I know I'm in the minority, but I always come on time on the dot. I'm still too early! Then again, I leave early too. I'm a morning person - I'm on time because if you call the party for 7, I'm done by 10, so I need to go right on time so it doesn't appear that I don't want to stay for the full evening.

When I entertain, I don't care if people come late, but please don't compound it by staying late.

So it's all about you and your schedule, and how you appear? What a mess!

Anonymous wrote:Everybody knows that the proper time is a good 15min late and up to 30. 10 min early? No way!

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Anonymous wrote:LOL now I see. I am 75% German. No wonder I'm on time/early.

You can/should be on time when you meet out. But if you are invited to someone's house at a certain time, you are an uninvited guest prior to that time so you shouldn't be surprised that you are unwelcome.

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Anonymous wrote:I know I'm in the minority, but I always come on time on the dot. I'm still too early! Then again, I leave early too. I'm a morning person - I'm on time because if you call the party for 7, I'm done by 10, so I need to go right on time so it doesn't appear that I don't want to stay for the full evening.

When I entertain, I don't care if people come late, but please don't compound it by staying late.

So it's all about you and your schedule, and how you appear? What a mess!

Anonymous wrote:I know I'm in the minority, but I always come on time on the dot. I'm still too early! Then again, I leave early too. I'm a morning person - I'm on time because if you call the party for 7, I'm done by 10, so I need to go right on time so it doesn't appear that I don't want to stay for the full evening.

When I entertain, I don't care if people come late, but please don't compound it by staying late.

Anonymous wrote:LOL now I see. I am 75% German. No wonder I'm on time/early.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who kept arriving early to my parties (10-30 min.). I think she did it intentionally because she wanted some one-on-one time with me before everyone else arrived. I also think she is a little socially awkward and was uncomfortable arriving when others were there already. Unfortunately she isn't invited to my parties anymore.

I have one of these too. Same result.

Wow. That seems like a very minor infraction for cutting someone out. How odd.

Not odd at all. It is the height of rudeness and completely avoidable.

You must lead a very charmed life.