Parenting in your 40s vs 50s is a big difference. The 40+ Moms to young children don't seem to get this but they will...

Anonymous wrote:I know that this will never happen to any of you DCUMers in your 50s with a teenager, but here are the stats:
www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nhsr/nhsr016.pdf

OMG, talk about depressing.

go ahead, have a baby at 41 and see what energies you have left, also going through menopause when kids are also racing with hormones crazy!!!!!!!!!!

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Anonymous wrote:OP again. Also wondering if you would recommend sticking with one child or if you think its better to provide a sibling even if it means having a baby at 41/42.

OP, do you always solicit advice for every major life decision from anonymous people? Or are you just keeping this thread going so women can keep on insulting other women with different life experiences?

Why so ugly?

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Anonymous wrote:22:38, why does it bother you? I like to hear the perspective of others on issues I think about a lot. I especially like to hear from others with experiences I don't have. I cannot control the behavior of those derailing threads.

And my question BTW was directed at 13:42 specifically. Unless you had kids over 40 and are now in your 50s, I wasn't really asking you.

22:38 here -- because you keep baiting the haters. And yes, I am 50+, have near college-age kids and answered earlier in the thread.

What do you have to offer? You did not have a baby in your 40s.

Yes I did. I was over 40. You are a pain in the ass.

No, you are. So there.

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Anonymous wrote:22:38, why does it bother you? I like to hear the perspective of others on issues I think about a lot. I especially like to hear from others with experiences I don't have. I cannot control the behavior of those derailing threads.

And my question BTW was directed at 13:42 specifically. Unless you had kids over 40 and are now in your 50s, I wasn't really asking you.

22:38 here -- because you keep baiting the haters. And yes, I am 50+, have near college-age kids and answered earlier in the thread.

What do you have to offer? You did not have a baby in your 40s.

Yes I did. I was over 40. You are a pain in the ass.

I know that this will never happen to any of you DCUMers in your 50s with a teenager, but here are the stats:
www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nhsr/nhsr016.pdf

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YES!! LOVE the kids but tired of being a taxi service!! 50s.

That's hardly unique to being in your 50s.

Anonymous wrote: My wife had her 3rd at 41, and her second at 37. It was fine for a while, but now that they're in MS and HS, we're HATING LIFE!!!. We're in our 50's and we should be free to travel and pick up and go as we please, but no, everything revolves around there school, sports, and social life. I wish I could give them away....I kid. Take it for FWIW, HAVE all YOUR KIDS WHEN YOU'RE YOUNG!!! BTW, our first is 32...lol...huge gap..

YES!! LOVE the kids but tired of being a taxi service!! 50s.

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Anonymous wrote:22:38, why does it bother you? I like to hear the perspective of others on issues I think about a lot. I especially like to hear from others with experiences I don't have. I cannot control the behavior of those derailing threads.

And my question BTW was directed at 13:42 specifically. Unless you had kids over 40 and are now in your 50s, I wasn't really asking you.

22:38 here -- because you keep baiting the haters. And yes, I am 50+, have near college-age kids and answered earlier in the thread.

What do you have to offer? You did not have a baby in your 40s.

Anonymous wrote:PP did your DH post first and now you? The first post said "my wife" had #2 at 37 and #3 at 41...

yes..

Anonymous wrote:OP again. Also wondering if you would recommend sticking with one child or if you think its better to provide a sibling even if it means having a baby at 41/42.

OP, you should decide based on whether YOU want another child. Only children can be totally happy and fulfilled with that arrangement or wish they had a sib. People with sibs can love that or wish they were onlies. You never know how the personalities of another kid would "mesh" with your first and how close they will or will not be. Because of that, I tend to think you should decided based on whether YOU want another child.

8:57 since you've experienced both, is an only child significantly easier than 2? Is it a significantly harder experience for the only child not having siblings? Because of my age I am so on the fence about going for #2...

PP did your DH post first and now you? The first post said "my wife" had #2 at 37 and #3 at 41...

^ I meant didn't want #2 to grow up being an only child like #1.