Anonymous wrote:Morbid fascination with how people let themselves get that fat. My husband is fit, married me because he liked my athleticism and fit body. He also told me he would considering leaving me if I let myself go and gave up our athletic lifestyle. Sounds harsh to most, but I appreciate it and see where he is coming from bc it's not about the body size it would be that I was a totally different person with different interests.

Sucks to be you.

I'm fit, I'm actually running the DC marathon this St Patty's day. I'm 5'9" and 135lbs. My DH met me at 125, which of course was too thin, but one can't control a fast metabolism.

HOWEVER, anyone is one illness or one injury away from fat...even me. I could tear my ACL or snap a hamstring on Saturday....I could get a cancer Dx next month. But guess what? I know my DH will still love me and still stick by my side, through THICK and THIN.

I'm 100% supportive of people of any shape or size, I feel sorry for you all who value people by the number on the scale. I hope none of you end up with fat kids (especially you, poster) as it seems that they will not be worthy of your love, maybe not even worthy of being a whole person. Pitiful.

no medication in the world is going to have you needing to go on biggest loser. i dont care what any of these fat people on here try to say.

just because something happens to you and you are no longer able to stay as active, it doesnt mean that you immediately become a fat ass so that supposed line of thought is absurd.

the majority of the time you are going to get fat because you choose to eat unhealthy. sure something can happen to you where medication will make you gain weight but if you really want to stay active and mobile, you will find a way.

Anonymous wrote:Morbid fascination with how people let themselves get that fat. My husband is fit, married me because he liked my athleticism and fit body. He also told me he would considering leaving me if I let myself go and gave up our athletic lifestyle. Sounds harsh to most, but I appreciate it and see where he is coming from bc it's not about the body size it would be that I was a totally different person with different interests.

And what if something horrible happened to you where you were no longer able to keep up with your active, fit husband? Or what if something happened to him and he wasn't able to keep up? He is a horse's ass. Keep that tool all to yourself. I don't want slimeballs like that in the dating pool.

Morbid fascination with how people let themselves get that fat. My husband is fit, married me because he liked my athleticism and fit body. He also told me he would considering leaving me if I let myself go and gave up our athletic lifestyle. Sounds harsh to most, but I appreciate it and see where he is coming from bc it's not about the body size it would be that I was a totally different person with different interests.

9:39 get over yourself.

you must be fat and even if you arent who cares. there are fat people who go around wallowing in being big and who everyday go around bitching that they need to lose weight and do nothing about it. i simply asked OP if that was her and she said no and i was done.

you selectively skip everything else i said in that my comment was aimed at what i saw as others, not OP saying about being fat.

if you are fat, i can tell you are one of those who while putting up a front that they are "ok" with their size seeks every opportunity to get all up in arms at the slightest perceived attack on them.

Doritos or Cheetos?

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Anonymous wrote:get the million fat march started

unlike a fat person a black person cant "lose black" or a gay person cant "lose gay" but a fat person can sure lose some weight and/or get on a plan that maintains a healthy life.

this isnt to say they need to look like a model cause im sure all of us saying something dont look like a hollywood star. regardless excusing being fat and enjoying eating and gorging isnt going to get sympathy from most people

The thing is, people like you want OP to loathe herself because she is overweight. Why? Is there any other characteristic you think is SO important - like you can't be sexy if you pick your nails, if you drink too much sometimes, if youwatch too much TV? For some reason, you want this ONE aspect of OP to take over anything that could possibly be good about her. What is your hang up? I could probably take better care of my skin - I guess I could lose dry skin, but does having dry skin make me objectively disgusting? No. So back off.

you must have missed the part where i said i was one of the first people to ask OP if she was happy to be the way she is and she responded yes. thats all i needed. i was mostly commenting on what i saw browsing through the other pages about people embracing too much being fat and trying to excuse it somehow.

be fat all you want and love yourself. just dont come on complaining about your status or embracing it to the point that you are putting your health at risk. there is nothing sexy about wanting to be fat and unhealthy. thats the genesis of my comment

The nerve of OP to be happy with herself, despite the fact she has a weight problem! The NERVE! Doesn't she know that the MOST IMPORTANT thing about a person is his or her weight? Why should she be happy with her professional success, her relationships, her friendly demeanor? Being overweight overrides EVERYTHING ELSE.

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Anonymous wrote:get the million fat march started

unlike a fat person a black person cant "lose black" or a gay person cant "lose gay" but a fat person can sure lose some weight and/or get on a plan that maintains a healthy life.

this isnt to say they need to look like a model cause im sure all of us saying something dont look like a hollywood star. regardless excusing being fat and enjoying eating and gorging isnt going to get sympathy from most people

The thing is, people like you want OP to loathe herself because she is overweight. Why? Is there any other characteristic you think is SO important - like you can't be sexy if you pick your nails, if you drink too much sometimes, if youwatch too much TV? For some reason, you want this ONE aspect of OP to take over anything that could possibly be good about her. What is your hang up? I could probably take better care of my skin - I guess I could lose dry skin, but does having dry skin make me objectively disgusting? No. So back off.

you must have missed the part where i said i was one of the first people to ask OP if she was happy to be the way she is and she responded yes. thats all i needed.

i was mostly commenting on what i saw browsing through the other pages about people embracing too much being fat and trying to excuse it somehow.

be fat all you want and love yourself. just dont come on complaining about your status or embracing it to the point that you are putting your health at risk. there is nothing sexy about wanting to be fat and unhealthy. thats the genesis of my comment

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My friend Dan wrote for the Village voice " ask a guy who likes fat chicks". He is sane, normal, and an overall awesome person. He is just attracted to fat women. There are plenty of "normal" guys just like him. Like I said before I want to lose weight soley for health reasons. I don't think I'm at a healthy weight. That said I'm not going to hate my body because it's not perfect. Yes I am sexy, yes I am beautiful, I'm fun to be around, I'm caring, and deserving of love.

I'm glad that you met a nice, normal guy who can appreciate you and is attracted to you. You are right that you are desrving of love. However, I don't think that there are "plenty" of normal guys that are attracted to overweight women. Yes, there are certainly a few, but most men are attracted to average to thin women, just as most women are attracted to average-sized men. It definitely makes the dating pool smaller if you are severely overweight. That's not a reason to feel bad about yourself, it sounds like you have found someone great, but to deny that this is the case doesn't make sense.

I see it as a fetish. If he usually dates bigger women, it's a fetish. Just like some men only date midgets. I doubt that guy just so happened to run into a lot of midgets... He seeks them.

LOL! Right because you don't see fat women all the time
I am not a fetish.

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My friend Dan wrote for the Village voice " ask a guy who likes fat chicks". He is sane, normal, and an overall awesome person. He is just attracted to fat women. There are plenty of "normal" guys just like him. Like I said before I want to lose weight soley for health reasons. I don't think I'm at a healthy weight. That said I'm not going to hate my body because it's not perfect. Yes I am sexy, yes I am beautiful, I'm fun to be around, I'm caring, and deserving of love.

I'm glad that you met a nice, normal guy who can appreciate you and is attracted to you. You are right that you are desrving of love. However, I don't think that there are "plenty" of normal guys that are attracted to overweight women. Yes, there are certainly a few, but most men are attracted to average to thin women, just as most women are attracted to average-sized men. It definitely makes the dating pool smaller if you are severely overweight. That's not a reason to feel bad about yourself, it sounds like you have found someone great, but to deny that this is the case doesn't make sense.

Of course the dating pool might be smaller because not everyone is attracted to fat women. I'm not debating that, what I'm saying is there isn't just some miniscule amount of men who like fat women. I make my own pool smaller because I have a certain type. I may not be attracted to many of the men on this board. They may not be attracted to me, and that's fine. Everyone likes what they like.

Anonymous wrote:All the people throwing stones have problems...with themselves. OP likes herself and finds herself attractive still. There are men who like big women (esp true in minority communities). In these same communities, women who are really skinny aren't seen as attractive. Do you know how many black girls spent their teen years trying to gain weight?

I only bring this up to tackle the notion that OPs partner is the only man who will ever find her attractive. If you don't, fine, but she might not find you attractive either. Is it worth debating?

I feel really sorry for big women who hate themselves because other people don't approve. Not everyone who is big binges. Not everyone who is small eats healthy.

I feel sorry for your kids because many of you set a poor example. Its no wonder eating disorders are around.

Thanks PP. I'm sure most of them assume my bf is a minority. For the record he is White

All the people throwing stones have problems...with themselves. OP likes herself and finds herself attractive still. There are men who like big women (esp true in minority communities). In these same communities, women who are really skinny aren't seen as attractive. Do you know how many black girls spent their teen years trying to gain weight?

I only bring this up to tackle the notion that OPs partner is the only man who will ever find her attractive. If you don't, fine, but she might not find you attractive either. Is it worth debating?

I feel really sorry for big women who hate themselves because other people don't approve. Not everyone who is big binges. Not everyone who is small eats healthy.

I feel sorry for your kids because many of you set a poor example. Its no wonder eating disorders are around.

This is some sad shit. I don't see where OP said she liked being fat. She just likes herself. And that is great. You can love and respect yourself and acknowledge that you are flawed. How many of you people throwing stones don't have some problems (health or otherwise) you need to a get a hold of? She didn't ask for your judgment, she offered to answer your questions. The bullying on this thread is disgusting.

Anonymous wrote:get the million fat march started

unlike a fat person a black person cant "lose black" or a gay person cant "lose gay" but a fat person can sure lose some weight and/or get on a plan that maintains a healthy life.

this isnt to say they need to look like a model cause im sure all of us saying something dont look like a hollywood star. regardless excusing being fat and enjoying eating and gorging isnt going to get sympathy from most people

The thing is, people like you want OP to loathe herself because she is overweight. Why? Is there any other characteristic you think is SO important - like you can't be sexy if you pick your nails, if you drink too much sometimes, if youwatch too much TV? For some reason, you want this ONE aspect of OP to take over anything that could possibly be good about her. What is your hang up? I could probably take better care of my skin - I guess I could lose dry skin, but does having dry skin make me objectively disgusting? No. So back off.