Anonymous
Post 05/11/2026 09:58     Subject: What American "cultural" things you don't do or allow your kids to do.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Refusing these on principle is bizarre.

My kids have each done one sleepover in their lives, I believe. They're not dating as teens and young adults. And my second did have a yearlong carpool at some point.

But we didn't set off to refuse those things. It just happened that way.

Why don't you live your life in a more organic way? You seem extremely mentally rigid.



TBH - I see no value in them while my kids are young. There are many other things that I do for the socialization of my kids, so I don't think they are missing anything but dangerous situations. I do not want to normalize these things or distract them from their academics, ECs, traveling and having fun with similar kids.

In my interactions with American families, I have not walked away with feeling that I want them be around my kids when I am not around. I don't want to do the detective work to find out what the intentions of people around me are especially when it comes to the safety of my children.

My kids and I do have these discussions all the time, and I feel I will be more comfortable when they are adults and able to have their own boundaries.


So you aren't American?
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2026 09:58     Subject: Re:What American "cultural" things you don't do or allow your kids to do.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m not American, but I don’t see the issue with carpooling. What’s wrong with that? We don’t do sleepovers due to a fear of SA, and we wouldn’t allow dating, because we don’t believe in intimacy before marriage, but what is wrong with carpooling?


How will you control this when your kid is in college?


Anonymous
Post 05/11/2026 09:57     Subject: What American "cultural" things you don't do or allow your kids to do.
Anonymous wrote:I will go first.

- No sleepovers. I have held 1/2 sleepovers...(kids wear PJ's, have fun but get picked up at 11:00 pm).

- No dating in HS.

- No carpools for my kids. We did offer rides and ran carpools for our friend's children if they asked for it but never for mine.


Have you been treated for anxiety?
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2026 09:54     Subject: Re:What American "cultural" things you don't do or allow your kids to do.
Anonymous wrote:I find it funny that the most reactions has only come for not allowing teen sex.



It's because

a) you literally cannot control this unless you are with your child 24/7.
b) some parents stated that their children "simply weren't interested" in sex. Your child may not be having sex, but to argue that they are not interested in it bespeaks a total lack of connection with reality. Of course teens are interested--their hormones are absolutely raging.

Also
c) you don't own your teen's bodies. They are theirs to do with as they wish. To assert otherwise is utterly creepy.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2026 09:41     Subject: Re:What American "cultural" things you don't do or allow your kids to do.
Anonymous wrote:Is this really about what people let their kids do or yet another thread bashing the people from this country?

Many of the so called cultural things listed are not remotely traditional American things.


It's for uptight conservative foreigners from low trust countries couching their paranoia and authoritarian parenting as culturally superior.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2026 09:38     Subject: Re:What American "cultural" things you don't do or allow your kids to do.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Walking around naked in the gym locker room. There are changing rooms that you can go to and change clothes in a modest manner. No one is interested in looking at your ugly bits.


Some of the most freely naked people at the gym I see are old school, old Asian women. It’s all hanging out there.


I was going to make a similar comment-Whenever I see this it’s definitely not Americans doing it.


European old people walk around naked in gym bathrooms. Not an American thing at all.



Americans are conservative when it comes to nudity.


Correct. Looks at Korean spas and onsens, for example.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2026 09:18     Subject: Re:What American "cultural" things you don't do or allow your kids to do.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Walking around naked in the gym locker room. There are changing rooms that you can go to and change clothes in a modest manner. No one is interested in looking at your ugly bits.


Some of the most freely naked people at the gym I see are old school, old Asian women. It’s all hanging out there.


I was going to make a similar comment-Whenever I see this it’s definitely not Americans doing it.


European old people walk around naked in gym bathrooms. Not an American thing at all.



Americans are conservative when it comes to nudity.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2026 09:17     Subject: What American "cultural" things you don't do or allow your kids to do.
Anonymous wrote:Weekly Friday pizzas. That's 52 pizzas a year!


So? What is your point? Pizza is not anymore of an unhealthy choice as many other things. Especially if it’s from a quality place or homemade.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2026 09:09     Subject: What American "cultural" things you don't do or allow your kids to do.
Weekly Friday pizzas. That's 52 pizzas a year!
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2026 08:59     Subject: Re:What American "cultural" things you don't do or allow your kids to do.
Is this really about what people let their kids do or yet another thread bashing the people from this country?

Many of the so called cultural things listed are not remotely traditional American things.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2026 08:52     Subject: Re:What American "cultural" things you don't do or allow your kids to do.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Walking around naked in the gym locker room. There are changing rooms that you can go to and change clothes in a modest manner. No one is interested in looking at your ugly bits.


Some of the most freely naked people at the gym I see are old school, old Asian women. It’s all hanging out there.


I was going to make a similar comment-Whenever I see this it’s definitely not Americans doing it.


European old people walk around naked in gym bathrooms. Not an American thing at all.


Just compare beach attire to see where this is a thing. Americans are positively prudish compared to many places.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2026 08:51     Subject: Re:What American "cultural" things you don't do or allow your kids to do.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Walking around naked in the gym locker room. There are changing rooms that you can go to and change clothes in a modest manner. No one is interested in looking at your ugly bits.


Some of the most freely naked people at the gym I see are old school, old Asian women. It’s all hanging out there.


I was going to make a similar comment-Whenever I see this it’s definitely not Americans doing it.


European old people walk around naked in gym bathrooms. Not an American thing at all.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2026 08:50     Subject: What American "cultural" things you don't do or allow your kids to do.
No carpools is bizarre, anti-environment, and anticommunity.

I can understand and respect the rest but they are not rules we adopted.

For us no guns. Never.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2026 08:25     Subject: Re:What American "cultural" things you don't do or allow your kids to do.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Walking around naked in the gym locker room. There are changing rooms that you can go to and change clothes in a modest manner. No one is interested in looking at your ugly bits.


Some of the most freely naked people at the gym I see are old school, old Asian women. It’s all hanging out there.


I was going to make a similar comment-Whenever I see this it’s definitely not Americans doing it.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2026 08:06     Subject: Re:What American "cultural" things you don't do or allow your kids to do.
Anonymous wrote:Walking around naked in the gym locker room. There are changing rooms that you can go to and change clothes in a modest manner. No one is interested in looking at your ugly bits.


Some of the most freely naked people at the gym I see are old school, old Asian women. It’s all hanging out there.