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Anonymous wrote:I think one thing that has changed thanks to social media is that young women are more open to older and divorced men if they are rich.

The dominant social media narratives right now in both the English and non English online ecosystems that I observe are urging young women and teen girls to prioritize a man who can fully support you. Some women can of course get young high value men, but this type of online messaging leads to the overvaluing I think of old rich men—who I’m assuming would love more access to 20 somethings anyway.

OP here. This is disgusting and demeaning. My daughter and my friends' daughters are not only welll-educated and capable of earning a good living, but they all know that they will inherit plenty of money. They absolutely don't need to "prioritize men who fully support" them.

Your daughters and friends’ daughters were born with golden spoons. They don’t need men. Most young women aren’t like your daughters. They prioritize rich men. Most rich men are older than them.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understand this logic but it’s not the way to find love. You can tie up your wealth in trusts and create a prenup where your new husband won’t take your money but you don’t need a guy with money.

There are amazing human souls that could make $5M a year and have chosen to devote their lives to service through DOJ, foreign service, military, firefighters, etc. There are incredible inventors, musicians, chefs. Please find love. You found money and success.

I’m also a 40s lawyer with good earning in private practice and don’t want a man who is just going to live off me but you can get billionaire leeches.

This is an absurd statement. If they could make $5M, they would and wouldn’t be in relatively low paying jobs

You are so self absorbed that you can’t even fathom someone not putting their own net worth goals over service to society and community, recognizing that every opportunity they do have is owing to those who came before.

My circle is full of highly educated people, many of the m elite college athletes; most are in medicine, education, and public service. Many have come from more lucrative career paths and found that fulfillment in serving others is more valuable than anything you can buy.

I’m not being snarky when I say: you should try it. You will find much more happiness than you can from a Hermes bag.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understand this logic but it’s not the way to find love. You can tie up your wealth in trusts and create a prenup where your new husband won’t take your money but you don’t need a guy with money.

There are amazing human souls that could make $5M a year and have chosen to devote their lives to service through DOJ, foreign service, military, firefighters, etc. There are incredible inventors, musicians, chefs. Please find love. You found money and success.

I’m also a 40s lawyer with good earning in private practice and don’t want a man who is just going to live off me but you can get billionaire leeches.

This is an absurd statement. If they could make $5M, they would and wouldn’t be in relatively low paying jobs

I’m not motivated by money at all. I’m motivated by seeing progress and helping others, so I teach. I could have gone into any field; I’m intelligent and driven enough to succeed at any job.

But money isn’t my end goal; I don’t want to be on my deathbed knowing the only person who benefited from my existence is myself. My parents told me to make this world better, and as trite as that sounds, that’s my goal. I don’t see how hoarding money I don’t need does that.

So don’t assume those of us who don’t make money CAN’T make money. You had an easier path making your millions because people like me elected not to join the competition.

OP’s premise is that I’m not worth meeting because my salary doesn’t meet her requirement. That’s not a shortcoming on my part; it’s a shortcoming on anyone who thinks that matters.

Anonymous wrote:I think one thing that has changed thanks to social media is that young women are more open to older and divorced men if they are rich.

The dominant social media narratives right now in both the English and non English online ecosystems that I observe are urging young women and teen girls to prioritize a man who can fully support you. Some women can of course get young high value men, but this type of online messaging leads to the overvaluing I think of old rich men—who I’m assuming would love more access to 20 somethings anyway.

OP here. This is disgusting and demeaning. My daughter and my friends' daughters are not only welll-educated and capable of earning a good living, but they all know that they will inherit plenty of money. They absolutely don't need to "prioritize men who fully support" them.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think one thing that has changed thanks to social media is that young women are more open to older and divorced men if they are rich.

The dominant social media narratives right now in both the English and non English online ecosystems that I observe are urging young women and teen girls to prioritize a man who can fully support you. Some women can of course get young high value men, but this type of online messaging leads to the overvaluing I think of old rich men—who I’m assuming would love more access to 20 somethings anyway.

Young women have ALWAYS been open to older men if they are rich. That’s how the universe has always worked.

THIS

Anonymous wrote:I'm a lawyer in my mid-forties, and for the first time I average low seven figures. My XH consistently made low seven figures, too (not lawyer). I plan to start dating soon after having gotten out of my 20 year marriage.

Partly because of his earning history, but now especially because of my own, I cannot imagine dating a man who earns less (either through his work or passive income). I realize that this will hugely reduce the candidate pool.

Are there any dating sites where people are pre-selected based on income and/or assets?

Men earning 7 figures don’t care about your salary. Are you hot and fun to be around? That’s what matters.

Anonymous wrote:OP - I’m in a similar boat . You won’t meet that on the apps. I recommend enrolling in yachting club, your city social and business clubs, going to more conferences where you can meet people from your circle. That’s what my early 50s wealthy friend did right after her divorce - enrolled in all university clubs etc. And she indeed met an uber wealthy CEO of an insurance company in her tennis club. He’s not without skeletons himself (is a recovered alcoholic), but he’s rich and really loves her. They are engaged now

Generally wealthy women like you get snatched by men in their circle fast - don’t listen to the PPs

University and business meetups always fill up with single women. The few men who show up aren’t making anywhere close to seven figures. Yacht clubs, polo clubs, golf course bars etc where wealthy men gather quickly become hot spots for attractive young women on the make. OP’s best hope is to jump on newly single men in her circle.

Anonymous wrote:I think one thing that has changed thanks to social media is that young women are more open to older and divorced men if they are rich.

The dominant social media narratives right now in both the English and non English online ecosystems that I observe are urging young women and teen girls to prioritize a man who can fully support you. Some women can of course get young high value men, but this type of online messaging leads to the overvaluing I think of old rich men—who I’m assuming would love more access to 20 somethings anyway.

Young women have ALWAYS been open to older men if they are rich. That’s how the universe has always worked.

I don't think OP is being unreasonable. It's okay to know what lifestyle you want and to seek it. Rich people want other people who are familiar with/comfortable with that lifestyle. It's not an indictment of anyone who makes less.

Anonymous wrote:I understand this logic but it’s not the way to find love. You can tie up your wealth in trusts and create a prenup where your new husband won’t take your money but you don’t need a guy with money.

There are amazing human souls that could make $5M a year and have chosen to devote their lives to service through DOJ, foreign service, military, firefighters, etc. There are incredible inventors, musicians, chefs. Please find love. You found money and success.

I’m also a 40s lawyer with good earning in private practice and don’t want a man who is just going to live off me but you can get billionaire leeches.

This is an absurd statement. If they could make $5M, they would and wouldn’t be in relatively low paying jobs

Anonymous wrote:I think one thing that has changed thanks to social media is that young women are more open to older and divorced men if they are rich.

The dominant social media narratives right now in both the English and non English online ecosystems that I observe are urging young women and teen girls to prioritize a man who can fully support you. Some women can of course get young high value men, but this type of online messaging leads to the overvaluing I think of old rich men—who I’m assuming would love more access to 20 somethings anyway.

Rich old men are overrated. Most younger women I know who did this are not exactly swimming gold. More often they swim in different substances (later in life)..

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think one thing that has changed thanks to social media is that young women are more open to older and divorced men if they are rich.

The dominant social media narratives right now in both the English and non English online ecosystems that I observe are urging young women and teen girls to prioritize a man who can fully support you. Some women can of course get young high value men, but this type of online messaging leads to the overvaluing I think of old rich men—who I’m assuming would love more access to 20 somethings anyway.

My girlfriend of 9 months and I have a significant age gap. On our first date I asked her about that, and she said she was (at the time) a year removed from being engaged to a man 10 years older than she (former college basketball star, drafted but now good enough for the NBA and now struggling as an “entrepreneur”), and when that relationship ended she knew she wanted older and more talented established. It’s worked great so far.

So the conclusion is young women who can't secure attractive and established men in their generation "shop" in the next generation. No sure how is that a brag even

Anonymous wrote:I think one thing that has changed thanks to social media is that young women are more open to older and divorced men if they are rich.

The dominant social media narratives right now in both the English and non English online ecosystems that I observe are urging young women and teen girls to prioritize a man who can fully support you. Some women can of course get young high value men, but this type of online messaging leads to the overvaluing I think of old rich men—who I’m assuming would love more access to 20 somethings anyway.

My girlfriend of 9 months and I have a significant age gap. On our first date I asked her about that, and she said she was (at the time) a year removed from being engaged to a man 10 years older than she (former college basketball star, drafted but now good enough for the NBA and now struggling as an “entrepreneur”), and when that relationship ended she knew she wanted older and more talented established. It’s worked great so far.

I think one thing that has changed thanks to social media is that young women are more open to older and divorced men if they are rich.

The dominant social media narratives right now in both the English and non English online ecosystems that I observe are urging young women and teen girls to prioritize a man who can fully support you. Some women can of course get young high value men, but this type of online messaging leads to the overvaluing I think of old rich men—who I’m assuming would love more access to 20 somethings anyway.

You’re horrible and will find someone equally shallow and horrible.