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Anonymous wrote:What are you really asking? Whether your daughter will be recruited to the other side by a butch lesbian?

Funnily enough, this is something that does happen and I'm sure it's a concern for mothers even though they'd never admit it. In an all female environment, there are straight identifying girls who will be attracted to and start experimenting with other girls, especially if those girls look a bit boyish. Most of the time this is a phase but sometimes it sticks.

Seems to be true.

Lots of reported cases of sexual assault at some of the all female schools (female assaulting female).

Lol, no. I'm talking about consensual experimentation, which there is lots of. You're beyond delusional if you genuinely believe that there's an epidemic of lesbians assaulting straight girls at all girls schools. Sexual assault is overwhelmingly a male on female crime. It's still the boys at the coed schools that you need to worry about around your daughters.

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Anonymous wrote:What are you really asking? Whether your daughter will be recruited to the other side by a butch lesbian?

Funnily enough, this is something that does happen and I'm sure it's a concern for mothers even though they'd never admit it. In an all female environment, there are straight identifying girls who will be attracted to and start experimenting with other girls, especially if those girls look a bit boyish. Most of the time this is a phase but sometimes it sticks.

Seems to be true.

Lots of reported cases of sexual assault at some of the all female schools (female assaulting female).

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Anonymous wrote:What are you really asking? Whether your daughter will be recruited to the other side by a butch lesbian?

Funnily enough, this is something that does happen and I'm sure it's a concern for mothers even though they'd never admit it. In an all female environment, there are straight identifying girls who will be attracted to and start experimenting with other girls, especially if those girls look a bit boyish. Most of the time this is a phase but sometimes it sticks.

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Anonymous wrote:I am interested in this, too. My DD loves the campus and academics but she's straight and wants a boyfriend.

I heard it used to be the best of both worlds with the bus that takes students to the MIT parties etc on the weekends, but I'm not sure that's as well attended anymore.

It seems like there are so many students that are either LGBTQ or international. If you have current info, please share!

Why does international matter?

Anonymous wrote:What are you really asking? Whether your daughter will be recruited to the other side by a butch lesbian?

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All female schools are great for lesbians, bi-sexual, and transgender students. Not so great for straight females (due to both lack of males as well as risk of sexual assault by other students. Do research before dismissing the concern about sexual assault by females upon females.)

What!? Oh yes, the epidemic of 'female upon female" sexual assault. If anyone needs to do research, it is YOU. So I guess these women's colleges are terribly unsafe places for women due to "female upon female" sexual assault!? Get a life.

"Sexual assault is defined as any unwanted sexual contact, including sexual grabbing, kissing, fondling, and rape (Criminal Code of Canada—Section 271—Sexual Assault, 2018). It is a gendered crime that is disproportionately perpetrated by males against females (National Sexual Violence Resource Centre, 2015) and predicated on power and control (Gravelin et al., 2019)."
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9136376/

For those in the back: sexual assault is a gendered crime that is disproportionately perpetrated by males against females

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All female schools are great for lesbians, bi-sexual, and transgender students. Not so great for straight females (due to both lack of males as well as risk of sexual assault by other students. Do research before dismissing the concern about sexual assault by females upon females.)

What!? Oh yes, the epidemic of 'female upon female" sexual assault. If anyone needs to do research, it is YOU. So I guess these women's colleges are terribly unsafe places for women due to "female upon female" sexual assault!? Get a life.

"Sexual assault is defined as any unwanted sexual contact, including sexual grabbing, kissing, fondling, and rape (Criminal Code of Canada—Section 271—Sexual Assault, 2018). It is a gendered crime that is disproportionately perpetrated by males against females (National Sexual Violence Resource Centre, 2015) and predicated on power and control (Gravelin et al., 2019)."
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9136376/

For those in the back: sexual assault is a gendered crime that is disproportionately perpetrated by males against females

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All female schools are great for lesbians, bi-sexual, and transgender students. Not so great for straight females (due to both lack of males as well as risk of sexual assault by other students. Do research before dismissing the concern about sexual assault by females upon females.)

What!? Oh yes, the epidemic of 'female upon female" sexual assault. If anyone needs to do research, it is YOU. So I guess these women's colleges are terribly unsafe places for women due to "female upon female" sexual assault!? Get a life.

"Sexual assault is defined as any unwanted sexual contact, including sexual grabbing, kissing, fondling, and rape (Criminal Code of Canada—Section 271—Sexual Assault, 2018). It is a gendered crime that is disproportionately perpetrated by males against females (National Sexual Violence Resource Centre, 2015) and predicated on power and control (Gravelin et al., 2019)."
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9136376/

For those in the back: sexual assault is a gendered crime that is disproportionately perpetrated by males against females

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All female schools are great for lesbians, bi-sexual, and transgender students. Not so great for straight females (due to both lack of males as well as risk of sexual assault by other students. Do research before dismissing the concern about sexual assault by females upon females.)

What!? Oh yes, the epidemic of 'female upon female" sexual assault. If anyone needs to do research, it is YOU. So I guess these women's colleges are terribly unsafe places for women due to "female upon female" sexual assault!? Get a life.

"Sexual assault is defined as any unwanted sexual contact, including sexual grabbing, kissing, fondling, and rape (Criminal Code of Canada—Section 271—Sexual Assault, 2018). It is a gendered crime that is disproportionately perpetrated by males against females (National Sexual Violence Resource Centre, 2015) and predicated on power and control (Gravelin et al., 2019)."
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9136376/

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Anonymous wrote:It is not different from any other elite schools. Kids don’t date any more whether they go to ivies or Wellesley. They are all so career focused now. In co-ed schools, girls still hang out with girls, and boys hang out with boys. No one has time for relationships or even hookups.

True. I have a daughter in a large public uni. It’s really hard to find guys. She is funny and objectively attractive but has been wholly unsuccessful (despite a lot of effort about which I feel like I have heard every detail).

This is also my daughter's experience too at a large state school. She is pretty, smart, thin but no luck with attracting any male interest. She has a pack of 12 close friends and they are all the same--no dating , no hooking up, no attention from guys and they are all objectively beautiful. So they continue to live their best life and have a lot of fun together.

Have women not picked up yet that post "me-too" they are now on the hook for approaching and asking men out?

I agree. I have two sons at elite schools, and they have not dated. The perception is that females are hostile to a boy’s interest or only want to date boys with a car and money and/or who are ambitious about making a lot of money and have a plan to get there. I understand that money makes the world go round, but most 18-22 year olds have no idea what they want to do with their life. Basically, most boys feel like the threshold to date nowadays is so high that they’re better off focusing on themselves and their friends and revisiting dating in their mid- to late-20s when they have a better perspective on their life and they can “measure up” to a girls expectations. Ironically, by that time many women might have adjusted their expectations too.

So do they plan to be celibate until their mid to late 20s? Curious what the thinking is.

They would prefer not to be, but they feel like (whether true or not) they are one misinterpreted step from being called a rapist and expelled from school. That feeling is pervasive, even amongst kids from liberal homes. Basically, if a girl isn’t actively asking for sex, you best not touch.

Gently, it’s possible that they are not being completely transparent about their sex and dating life with their mother.

Bingo !

Unusual for a straight female to attend an all female school unless that female is ridiculed/made fun of by males and wants a safe environment.

All female schools are great for lesbians, bi-sexual, and transgender students. Not so great for straight females (due to both lack of males as well as risk of sexual assault by other students. Do research before dismissing the concern about sexual assault by females upon females.)

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Anonymous wrote:It is not different from any other elite schools. Kids don’t date any more whether they go to ivies or Wellesley. They are all so career focused now. In co-ed schools, girls still hang out with girls, and boys hang out with boys. No one has time for relationships or even hookups.

True. I have a daughter in a large public uni. It’s really hard to find guys. She is funny and objectively attractive but has been wholly unsuccessful (despite a lot of effort about which I feel like I have heard every detail).

This is also my daughter's experience too at a large state school. She is pretty, smart, thin but no luck with attracting any male interest. She has a pack of 12 close friends and they are all the same--no dating , no hooking up, no attention from guys and they are all objectively beautiful. So they continue to live their best life and have a lot of fun together.

Have women not picked up yet that post "me-too" they are now on the hook for approaching and asking men out?

I agree. I have two sons at elite schools, and they have not dated. The perception is that females are hostile to a boy’s interest or only want to date boys with a car and money and/or who are ambitious about making a lot of money and have a plan to get there. I understand that money makes the world go round, but most 18-22 year olds have no idea what they want to do with their life. Basically, most boys feel like the threshold to date nowadays is so high that they’re better off focusing on themselves and their friends and revisiting dating in their mid- to late-20s when they have a better perspective on their life and they can “measure up” to a girls expectations. Ironically, by that time many women might have adjusted their expectations too.

So do they plan to be celibate until their mid to late 20s? Curious what the thinking is.

They would prefer not to be, but they feel like (whether true or not) they are one misinterpreted step from being called a rapist and expelled from school. That feeling is pervasive, even amongst kids from liberal homes. Basically, if a girl isn’t actively asking for sex, you best not touch.

Gently, it’s possible that they are not being completely transparent about their sex and dating life with their mother.

Uh, no. Talk to some guys at better schools and you’ll find this feeling pervasive.