Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Tutoring is just work, with another person present. No reputable tutor, student, or family, would hire a tutor to do the work FOR the student.
Seems to me the difference is whether your kid is helped by doing their homework alongside someone else or is happy to do it on their own. Congrats, I guess, if your kid does learns well enough on their own. But also not sure why it’s cheating to study and work alongside someone else. Just like if it was the child’s parent or a study group.
Obviously a lot of abuse, gray areas, and slippery slopes people can raise on this topic, which are fair. But the basic idea of doing your studies with another person - why is it objectionable?
lol how much you pay for "alongside someone else" and do nothing else? I hope not a lot.
The most detrimental effect is that kids don't get to work through challenging problems on their own. If they got stuck on a difficult question or difficult essay, the tutor (or the parents) explains it to the kid. Their brain don't get to struggle through this (sometimes painful) process.
Of course, if you are just paying for a body double, I think that's totally fine. Nothing to worry about.
Anonymous wrote:My kids are at a high-performing public school and do not use tutors. Many of their friends do, but we cannot afford to have one. My kids did well in school (mostly A’s). We did use SAT prep for one child and he was able to increase his score significantly, but it did not result in admission to any high-performing college because we did not have all the other things that come with that (no club sports, national awards or non-profits, etc.) SAT prep is no longer affordable for us now. My second child did not do prep, had a lower SAT score, but still got into college with the same amount in merit aid as my first born.
Anonymous wrote:Not sure if you are being snarky about the body double or not, but you can take a visit to the SN board to see that it can be useful for certain learners.
Anonymous wrote:Tutoring is just work, with another person present. No reputable tutor, student, or family, would hire a tutor to do the work FOR the student.
Seems to me the difference is whether your kid is helped by doing their homework alongside someone else or is happy to do it on their own. Congrats, I guess, if your kid does learns well enough on their own. But also not sure why it’s cheating to study and work alongside someone else. Just like if it was the child’s parent or a study group.
Obviously a lot of abuse, gray areas, and slippery slopes people can raise on this topic, which are fair. But the basic idea of doing your studies with another person - why is it objectionable?