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Anonymous wrote:20-yo Millie Bobby Brown and 22-yo husband (Bon Jovi's model son) just revealed their gorgeous wedding photos on social media to her 65 million followers. MBB is a trend setter. This follows influencer Sofia Richie getting married and quickly pregnant last year when she was just 24-yo. Pendulum has swung, gen Z'ers consider it is un-cool and weird to wait until late 20s or 30s to settle down.

If your impulse is to be disgusted by this and predict the demise of these marriages you just reveal yourself to be a terminally miserable person. Every parent wishes their child finds love at this age. Buy a house. Have kids. Make a life together.

The “Sex and the City” whoring around until your 30s, blowing money renting apartments and dining out, and binge drinking your prime away was always a scam. Good to see young people wising up.

Bad idea to use Hollywood and celebrity to prove your point. They will let you down.
I wish MBB the best, like her as an actress, but hope this rush to marriage was not caused by some trauma in her short life due to her being involved in acting and Hollywood from a very young age.

Marrying at a young adult age humans have done for thousands of years…teases out issues and trauma. 90s and 00s era delay marriage until your 30s, settling with a schmuck because the dating pool is empty, needing IVF to get pregnant, being a tired feeling and old looking mom at your kid’s school, and likely dying before you see your kids marry let alone have grandkids are…sharp life choices. Sure, sure.

Yes, instead they should marry that schmuck when they're 22.

Newsflash but if more people are getting married earlier (which, for the record, the only evidence of on this thread is MBB marrying a Bon Jovi) then that means that some of those 30-something schmucks are joining the early 20s marriage pool. Because it's not like more better guys are appearing out of thin air at age 22. So people are just marrying the same dud men, at earlier ages when they are even more immature and useless than their 30 year old self (who at least knows how to use the dishwasher and w/d).

And for the record! I met DH when i was in college, him in grad school and I married at 26. I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with it, but i do think having some kind of agenda at age 22 to find marriage material is bizarre.

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Anonymous wrote:20-yo Millie Bobby Brown and 22-yo husband (Bon Jovi's model son) just revealed their gorgeous wedding photos on social media to her 65 million followers. MBB is a trend setter. This follows influencer Sofia Richie getting married and quickly pregnant last year when she was just 24-yo. Pendulum has swung, gen Z'ers consider it is un-cool and weird to wait until late 20s or 30s to settle down.

If your impulse is to be disgusted by this and predict the demise of these marriages you just reveal yourself to be a terminally miserable person. Every parent wishes their child finds love at this age. Buy a house. Have kids. Make a life together.

The “Sex and the City” whoring around until your 30s, blowing money renting apartments and dining out, and binge drinking your prime away was always a scam. Good to see young people wising up.

BG, don’t forget about all of those horrid BRUNCHES.

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Anonymous wrote:20-yo Millie Bobby Brown and 22-yo husband (Bon Jovi's model son) just revealed their gorgeous wedding photos on social media to her 65 million followers. MBB is a trend setter. This follows influencer Sofia Richie getting married and quickly pregnant last year when she was just 24-yo. Pendulum has swung, gen Z'ers consider it is un-cool and weird to wait until late 20s or 30s to settle down.

If your impulse is to be disgusted by this and predict the demise of these marriages you just reveal yourself to be a terminally miserable person. Every parent wishes their child finds love at this age. Buy a house. Have kids. Make a life together.

The “Sex and the City” whoring around until your 30s, blowing money renting apartments and dining out, and binge drinking your prime away was always a scam. Good to see young people wising up.

At 20/22? Um, no. Not every parent.

I went to Duke and a lot of people I know married their college or grad school sweetheart. These were mostly very well to do UMC kids from stable backgrounds and I don’t know how “happy” they are but they have stayed together. I wouldn’t mind that for my kids, honestly.

MBB probably does not fit that paradigm but I wish her well.

Interesting. My sister went to Duke and I know many of her friends. Only one (semi nut job) got married before 30.

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Anonymous wrote:Two of my mid-20s employees got married last year. I thought it was weird. I am 47. Most people I know got married in their 30s.

I have noticed this "trend" already.

I'm 49, all of my friends married in their 20s.

I’m 52 and the vast majority of people I know who married in their 20s were the HS people who never left the area. Out of my college/grad school peers, only a handful got married in their 20s. And out of them, I think there’s only one couple that is still together.

Is leaving the area a bragging feature?

Yes, of course. Imagine living your entire life in one small area of the world. Yuck.

That is what vacations are for. I value being near family.

You can be near family at various stages of your life. But never leaving? Yuck.

part of me wonders if this is a millennial thing-- moving far from parents

for my boomer parents who raised us in a LCOL and then have since moved-- it would have been a sign of parental failure if either of their children didn't leave the rust belt or moved back after college. sometimes i wonder if this is an outdated cultural thing that was normal in the 90s and 00s, but is not in 2024

Anonymous wrote:all of this just feels like trad wife coded

like exerting your will on young women's bodies... see? all the celebrities are getting married and pregnant young? you should too!

Yup. Forced birthers are love to force their beliefs on others.

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Anonymous wrote:Two of my mid-20s employees got married last year. I thought it was weird. I am 47. Most people I know got married in their 30s.

I have noticed this "trend" already.

I'm 49, all of my friends married in their 20s.

I’m 52 and the vast majority of people I know who married in their 20s were the HS people who never left the area. Out of my college/grad school peers, only a handful got married in their 20s. And out of them, I think there’s only one couple that is still together.

Is leaving the area a bragging feature?

Yes, of course. Imagine living your entire life in one small area of the world. Yuck.

That is what vacations are for. I value being near family.

You can be near family at various stages of your life. But never leaving? Yuck.

all of this just feels like trad wife coded

like exerting your will on young women's bodies... see? all the celebrities are getting married and pregnant young? you should too!

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Anonymous wrote:20-yo Millie Bobby Brown and 22-yo husband (Bon Jovi's model son) just revealed their gorgeous wedding photos on social media to her 65 million followers. MBB is a trend setter. This follows influencer Sofia Richie getting married and quickly pregnant last year when she was just 24-yo. Pendulum has swung, gen Z'ers consider it is un-cool and weird to wait until late 20s or 30s to settle down.

If your impulse is to be disgusted by this and predict the demise of these marriages you just reveal yourself to be a terminally miserable person. Every parent wishes their child finds love at this age. Buy a house. Have kids. Make a life together.

The “Sex and the City” whoring around until your 30s, blowing money renting apartments and dining out, and binge drinking your prime away was always a scam. Good to see young people wising up.

Bad idea to use Hollywood and celebrity to prove your point. They will let you down.
I wish MBB the best, like her as an actress, but hope this rush to marriage was not caused by some trauma in her short life due to her being involved in acting and Hollywood from a very young age.

Marrying at a young adult age humans have done for thousands of years…teases out issues and trauma. 90s and 00s era delay marriage until your 30s, settling with a schmuck because the dating pool is empty, needing IVF to get pregnant, being a tired feeling and old looking mom at your kid’s school, and likely dying before you see your kids marry let alone have grandkids are…sharp life choices. Sure, sure.

I don't know why people are so adamant about how great it is to be in your 40s with young kids. It's not! I'm speaking from experience! I applaud young women and men for not following this path.

I’m trying to tease this out too and I think it’s because the moms in their 40s probably have nannies. So yay, parenthood is easy and fun.

well if you all knew me in my 20s, you'd also agree it was for the best that i waited until i was 31 to marry and 34 to have my son.

hahahahaaa

man, did we millennials really miss out? are gen x parents waiting to help out their gen z young parents? my boomer parents are not interested in helping out with child care. any village i am part of costs money to join. i certainly did not have the financial resources in my 20s that i do now in my 40s.

all i can think of is if gen z is having kids young, my biggest piece of advice is to ensure you have some solid support. its tough, thats for sure!

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Anonymous wrote:I’m an elder millennial who married at 23. DH is 4 years older and is in finance so he had a well paid, stable job at the time. We bought a house right away and had 3 kids by the time I was 31. We both have grad degrees and are still happily married 20 years later.

I love being a 42 yo with a 16 yo rather than a 6 yo, if you know what I mean.

I don’t. 6 was a great age. 16 was also great for different reasons but the younger years were so special.

Where did I say they aren't? Personally, the fact that they are so special is why I loved experiencing them when I was younger and had more energy!

When you said you’re happier that your kids are 16, not 6.

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Anonymous wrote:20-yo Millie Bobby Brown and 22-yo husband (Bon Jovi's model son) just revealed their gorgeous wedding photos on social media to her 65 million followers. MBB is a trend setter. This follows influencer Sofia Richie getting married and quickly pregnant last year when she was just 24-yo. Pendulum has swung, gen Z'ers consider it is un-cool and weird to wait until late 20s or 30s to settle down.

If your impulse is to be disgusted by this and predict the demise of these marriages you just reveal yourself to be a terminally miserable person. Every parent wishes their child finds love at this age. Buy a house. Have kids. Make a life together.

The “Sex and the City” whoring around until your 30s, blowing money renting apartments and dining out, and binge drinking your prime away was always a scam. Good to see young people wising up.

At 20/22? Um, no. Not every parent.

I went to Duke and a lot of people I know married their college or grad school sweetheart. These were mostly very well to do UMC kids from stable backgrounds and I don’t know how “happy” they are but they have stayed together. I wouldn’t mind that for my kids, honestly.

MBB probably does not fit that paradigm but I wish her well.

I went to a very similar school and this was the case for a lot of my classmates. They are still married with children. I don't have any reason to believe they are not as happy as people settling in their mid 30s.

We all know couples like this. They are happier. They married their true love, grew together through their 20s. You can't get that time back. While people who wait until their 30s have to settle and have tons of dating trauma baggage. It's just not the same.

I mean, as long as we’re talking anecdotes here, each of my three close friends from college married their college boyfriends in their early 20s and every single one of them is divorced as of mid-40s. Lots of kids among them. Some really bitter, acrimonious split ups.

Yes, some of these marriages are solid and last forever. And some people suddenly realize that what they wanted when they were 18-22 isn’t what they want when they’re 40+, particularly if their own kids are grown and flown by then. There are simply no guarantees. Life takes unexpected turns.

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Anonymous wrote:20-yo Millie Bobby Brown and 22-yo husband (Bon Jovi's model son) just revealed their gorgeous wedding photos on social media to her 65 million followers. MBB is a trend setter. This follows influencer Sofia Richie getting married and quickly pregnant last year when she was just 24-yo. Pendulum has swung, gen Z'ers consider it is un-cool and weird to wait until late 20s or 30s to settle down.

If your impulse is to be disgusted by this and predict the demise of these marriages you just reveal yourself to be a terminally miserable person. Every parent wishes their child finds love at this age. Buy a house. Have kids. Make a life together.

The “Sex and the City” whoring around until your 30s, blowing money renting apartments and dining out, and binge drinking your prime away was always a scam. Good to see young people wising up.

At 20/22? Um, no. Not every parent.

+1

That is so so young.

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Anonymous wrote:20-yo Millie Bobby Brown and 22-yo husband (Bon Jovi's model son) just revealed their gorgeous wedding photos on social media to her 65 million followers. MBB is a trend setter. This follows influencer Sofia Richie getting married and quickly pregnant last year when she was just 24-yo. Pendulum has swung, gen Z'ers consider it is un-cool and weird to wait until late 20s or 30s to settle down.

If your impulse is to be disgusted by this and predict the demise of these marriages you just reveal yourself to be a terminally miserable person. Every parent wishes their child finds love at this age. Buy a house. Have kids. Make a life together.

The “Sex and the City” whoring around until your 30s, blowing money renting apartments and dining out, and binge drinking your prime away was always a scam. Good to see young people wising up.

Bad idea to use Hollywood and celebrity to prove your point. They will let you down.
I wish MBB the best, like her as an actress, but hope this rush to marriage was not caused by some trauma in her short life due to her being involved in acting and Hollywood from a very young age.

Marrying at a young adult age humans have done for thousands of years…teases out issues and trauma. 90s and 00s era delay marriage until your 30s, settling with a schmuck because the dating pool is empty, needing IVF to get pregnant, being a tired feeling and old looking mom at your kid’s school, and likely dying before you see your kids marry let alone have grandkids are…sharp life choices. Sure, sure.

I don't know why people are so adamant about how great it is to be in your 40s with young kids. It's not! I'm speaking from experience! I applaud young women and men for not following this path.

+1. It's a cope. Nobody believes these people. Looking like a grandma with your young kids is sad, if we're being honest.

You think 38 is a grandma? Oh wait. That tracks.

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Anonymous wrote:20-yo Millie Bobby Brown and 22-yo husband (Bon Jovi's model son) just revealed their gorgeous wedding photos on social media to her 65 million followers. MBB is a trend setter. This follows influencer Sofia Richie getting married and quickly pregnant last year when she was just 24-yo. Pendulum has swung, gen Z'ers consider it is un-cool and weird to wait until late 20s or 30s to settle down.

If your impulse is to be disgusted by this and predict the demise of these marriages you just reveal yourself to be a terminally miserable person. Every parent wishes their child finds love at this age. Buy a house. Have kids. Make a life together.

The “Sex and the City” whoring around until your 30s, blowing money renting apartments and dining out, and binge drinking your prime away was always a scam. Good to see young people wising up.

At 20/22? Um, no. Not every parent.

I went to Duke and a lot of people I know married their college or grad school sweetheart. These were mostly very well to do UMC kids from stable backgrounds and I don’t know how “happy” they are but they have stayed together. I wouldn’t mind that for my kids, honestly.

MBB probably does not fit that paradigm but I wish her well.

I went to a very similar school and this was the case for a lot of my classmates. They are still married with children. I don't have any reason to believe they are not as happy as people settling in their mid 30s.

We all know couples like this. They are happier. They married their true love, grew together through their 20s. You can't get that time back. While people who wait until their 30s have to settle and have tons of dating trauma baggage. It's just not the same.

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Anonymous wrote:20-yo Millie Bobby Brown and 22-yo husband (Bon Jovi's model son) just revealed their gorgeous wedding photos on social media to her 65 million followers. MBB is a trend setter. This follows influencer Sofia Richie getting married and quickly pregnant last year when she was just 24-yo. Pendulum has swung, gen Z'ers consider it is un-cool and weird to wait until late 20s or 30s to settle down.

If your impulse is to be disgusted by this and predict the demise of these marriages you just reveal yourself to be a terminally miserable person. Every parent wishes their child finds love at this age. Buy a house. Have kids. Make a life together.

The “Sex and the City” whoring around until your 30s, blowing money renting apartments and dining out, and binge drinking your prime away was always a scam. Good to see young people wising up.

Bad idea to use Hollywood and celebrity to prove your point. They will let you down.
I wish MBB the best, like her as an actress, but hope this rush to marriage was not caused by some trauma in her short life due to her being involved in acting and Hollywood from a very young age.

Marrying at a young adult age humans have done for thousands of years…teases out issues and trauma. 90s and 00s era delay marriage until your 30s, settling with a schmuck because the dating pool is empty, needing IVF to get pregnant, being a tired feeling and old looking mom at your kid’s school, and likely dying before you see your kids marry let alone have grandkids are…sharp life choices. Sure, sure.

I don't know why people are so adamant about how great it is to be in your 40s with young kids. It's not! I'm speaking from experience! I applaud young women and men for not following this path.

+1. It's a cope. Nobody believes these people. Looking like a grandma with your young kids is sad, if we're being honest.

There’s a whole decade between your 20s and your 40s to start having kids. Why are we only focusing on the extreme ends?