Anonymous wrote:My girlfriend and I met via online dating and we are deeply in love. However, we have an ongoing debate about walking dates as a first date and I would like to hear some opinions.

She believes it is a sign of disrespect and that the man who invites her on a walking date just doesn't want to spend any money.

I on the other hand believe it is just fine as a first date, as you get to know someone in a casual way.

She made two points. Walking dates could be considered disrespectful and cheap.

That’s not a complaint. It’s a viewpoint. So consider it or not.

Since you both are allegedly deeply in love and not going in first dates OLD, nothing to bicker about, right Op?

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Anonymous wrote:Middle aged man here. One reason I like walks for first dates is that we can talk about things we see, and conversations usually flow really well even if we don't see anything interesting. Meeting for coffee also can be nice. Drinking alcohol on the first date isn't ideal in my opinion. Women sometimes say crazy stuff when they drink. I'll happily pay for a nice dinner but I don't usually have good experiences with fancy dinners as first dates.

It doesn’t have to be fancy! Why is it so hard for people to see that there’s an area in between a walking/coffee date and an expensive dinner out. Plenty of fun, mid-priced restaurants out there. Creativity goes along way with women. A walking or coffee date is not it.

It's the creativity/effort/fun that's lacking with walking dates. I walk my dog multiple times a day. I am not walking with a stranger as a date. Ever. Boring as hell.

You realize that a "walking date" isn't just going for a walk, right?

What is it then?

I guess it is just a way out. If the girl is ugly or fat, you can have a 5 min walk and bail. Don’t even have to buy the girl a $6 cup of coffee. If she is hot, then the guy can take her to a meal or bar. I know I would make the cut but I wouldn’t agree to this crappy date.

I will keep my good looking successful husband. I don’t know why I keep coming back to this thread. I’m married. I’m not single and I’m not going on apps to date.

You seem weirdly braggy about your perfect life and pretty judgmental about a type of date you’ve never been on. Do you need to talk?

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Anonymous wrote:Middle aged man here. One reason I like walks for first dates is that we can talk about things we see, and conversations usually flow really well even if we don't see anything interesting. Meeting for coffee also can be nice. Drinking alcohol on the first date isn't ideal in my opinion. Women sometimes say crazy stuff when they drink. I'll happily pay for a nice dinner but I don't usually have good experiences with fancy dinners as first dates.

It doesn’t have to be fancy! Why is it so hard for people to see that there’s an area in between a walking/coffee date and an expensive dinner out. Plenty of fun, mid-priced restaurants out there. Creativity goes along way with women. A walking or coffee date is not it.

It's the creativity/effort/fun that's lacking with walking dates. I walk my dog multiple times a day. I am not walking with a stranger as a date. Ever. Boring as hell.

You realize that a "walking date" isn't just going for a walk, right?

What is it then?

I guess it is just a way out. If the girl is ugly or fat, you can have a 5 min walk and bail. Don’t even have to buy the girl a $6 cup of coffee. If she is hot, then the guy can take her to a meal or bar. I know I would make the cut but I wouldn’t agree to this crappy date.

I will keep my good looking successful husband. I don’t know why I keep coming back to this thread. I’m married. I’m not single and I’m not going on apps to date.

I'm learning a lot about how some women this from this thread.

I'm a guy who is online dating currently. I almost always arrange the first date details and it is always a coffee date. I've never considered that a woman would be "worth" more or less than a coffee date. It is a flexible option that respects both of our time. It is a safer option that respects everyone's safety. If it is going poorly it can end quickly without awkwardness unlike dinner. If it is going well it can go on for a long time and stretch into lunch/dinner or another activity. It also has the benefit of no waiter interrupting conversation.

This mindset is strictly about online dating where you are meeting someone for the first time. How you treat on online first date versus a first date with someone you know can be completely different.

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Anonymous wrote:Middle aged man here. One reason I like walks for first dates is that we can talk about things we see, and conversations usually flow really well even if we don't see anything interesting. Meeting for coffee also can be nice. Drinking alcohol on the first date isn't ideal in my opinion. Women sometimes say crazy stuff when they drink. I'll happily pay for a nice dinner but I don't usually have good experiences with fancy dinners as first dates.

It doesn’t have to be fancy! Why is it so hard for people to see that there’s an area in between a walking/coffee date and an expensive dinner out. Plenty of fun, mid-priced restaurants out there. Creativity goes along way with women. A walking or coffee date is not it.

It's the creativity/effort/fun that's lacking with walking dates. I walk my dog multiple times a day. I am not walking with a stranger as a date. Ever. Boring as hell.

You realize that a "walking date" isn't just going for a walk, right?

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Anonymous wrote:Middle aged man here. One reason I like walks for first dates is that we can talk about things we see, and conversations usually flow really well even if we don't see anything interesting. Meeting for coffee also can be nice. Drinking alcohol on the first date isn't ideal in my opinion. Women sometimes say crazy stuff when they drink. I'll happily pay for a nice dinner but I don't usually have good experiences with fancy dinners as first dates.

It doesn’t have to be fancy! Why is it so hard for people to see that there’s an area in between a walking/coffee date and an expensive dinner out. Plenty of fun, mid-priced restaurants out there. Creativity goes along way with women. A walking or coffee date is not it.

It's the creativity/effort/fun that's lacking with walking dates. I walk my dog multiple times a day. I am not walking with a stranger as a date. Ever. Boring as hell.

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Anonymous wrote:I think for women who don't like walking dates, it's a perceived value thing. Everybody knows if a dude matched with, say, Sydney Sweeney, he ain't asking her to take a walk or anything else low effort/low investment.

These women need to adjust their perceptions of themselves and their expectations. And I say that as a woman.

I look better than her and indeed, men always invite me for restaurants as first intro. I always decline and offer a coffee date

So you’ve got movie star looks and yet are still single. Guess it’s your personality, then…

I was married for almost 20 years. Was taken off market/married in my early 20s. Divorced in early 40s. Yes, I’m often told I look like some movie star and ageless (funny someone mentioned Kendall Jenner, as I’m her doppelgänger). Currently not single, but I prefer long term dating to remarriage.

Uh huh.

I have a feeling she looks like Kendall Jenner like Chelsea “looks like” Megan Fox. Also, Kendall Jenner is not naturally pretty. She had an ok period before her plastic surgery got super wonky looking.