Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The kind of man who sleeps with a woman "too soon" and gets a bad impression of her is not the kind of man who's worth pursuing. He's the kind of man who wants to have his cake and eat it too. Women who make men like this wait just to get their "respect" don't respect themselves either, if they did, they wouldn't "save" themselves for men like this.

Didn't it cross your mind that women who don't sleep with each man they meet just want to get to know the man first? With so many guys lying on apps about STDs, marital&relationship status, it makes sense to wait a month or two until he starts showing red flags. It's not a guarantee of anything, of course, but critical sh..t usually comes up after couple months, in my experience

Did you read my comment or just quoted it? I'm specifically talking about women who dely sex to avoid causing a bad impression on men, not about women who dely sex for other reasons.

As for your STD comment, everyone should be tested before sex REGARDLESS of how much you wait.

Once a woman opens her mouth about a copy of STD results including herpes, guys who are in just for sex simply disappear. It could be the way to weed out for OPs friend. But if she’s that used to sleeping around, she probably just can’t keep herself from doing it, and thus is not capable of conscious relationships and analyzing her risks before sleeping with anyone

Plenty of people who sleep around have no problem to keep themselves from doing it, very few people are actual sex addicts. Other people are perfectly capable and aware of the risks, but take them anyways, the same way they take other risks in their lives such as skiing or driving at night in unknown areas.

I used to have casual sex between relationships and before I met my husband. I asked for STD tests and those that didn't want them were out. I had no problem establishing relationships when I found men I was interested in. We have no idea what's going on with OP's trainer, as most of the OP seems to be a disapproval post of the trainer's perceived behavior rather than anything concrete.

Your logics makes no sense. Casual sex implies that your partner sleeps with others as well. Asking for STD test is redundant in that case: they can get HSV2 and othe deceases from one night stands and still infect you. Of course people who don’t have multiple STDs prefer non-casual sex! It’s not like all these f..ks are going to pay my medical insurance deductibles or explain genital herpes for me to my future partners. The occurrence of HPV related throat cancers in men over 60 yo is growing. It’s a torturous death
I don’t get get it how people can be that clueless and careless

I'm not clueless, but you seem extremely naive. Condoms and avoiding oral sex greatly reduces your chances of contracting an STD and casual sex doesn't need ti be ongoing. On the other hand, monogamous relationships aren't necessarily monogamous as a significant percentage of people cheat. People don't generally use protection in monogamous relationships either. Making a man wait doesn't magically protect you from STDs and considering how most of the pressure to avoid casual sex falls on women don't be surprised if the man you're making wait isn't holding himself to the same standards as many women hold themselves to. I know plenty of cases of women who, as far as I know never had casual sex, but ended up with infections because the man they made wait had STIs and never got tested, or eventually got one because they weren't being faithful.

Read Reddit on how women or men got genital herpes from one and single encounters off Tinder while using condoms. Yes, you can't protect yourself from partner cheating completely, but at least you know a man who waits for a few dates and prepared to share the tests is not a pig seeking immediate lay. Women having ONS with guys on apps are nuts. There is extremely adverse selection - men rush with sex for that specific reason, usually they do have an infection that's easily transmittable even with condoms. All of them "go down" on women. Absolutely all men I met on dates asked if they could offer this to me on date 2-3.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The kind of man who sleeps with a woman "too soon" and gets a bad impression of her is not the kind of man who's worth pursuing. He's the kind of man who wants to have his cake and eat it too. Women who make men like this wait just to get their "respect" don't respect themselves either, if they did, they wouldn't "save" themselves for men like this.

Didn't it cross your mind that women who don't sleep with each man they meet just want to get to know the man first? With so many guys lying on apps about STDs, marital&relationship status, it makes sense to wait a month or two until he starts showing red flags. It's not a guarantee of anything, of course, but critical sh..t usually comes up after couple months, in my experience

Did you read my comment or just quoted it? I'm specifically talking about women who dely sex to avoid causing a bad impression on men, not about women who dely sex for other reasons.

As for your STD comment, everyone should be tested before sex REGARDLESS of how much you wait.

Once a woman opens her mouth about a copy of STD results including herpes, guys who are in just for sex simply disappear. It could be the way to weed out for OPs friend. But if she’s that used to sleeping around, she probably just can’t keep herself from doing it, and thus is not capable of conscious relationships and analyzing her risks before sleeping with anyone

Plenty of people who sleep around have no problem to keep themselves from doing it, very few people are actual sex addicts. Other people are perfectly capable and aware of the risks, but take them anyways, the same way they take other risks in their lives such as skiing or driving at night in unknown areas.

I used to have casual sex between relationships and before I met my husband. I asked for STD tests and those that didn't want them were out. I had no problem establishing relationships when I found men I was interested in. We have no idea what's going on with OP's trainer, as most of the OP seems to be a disapproval post of the trainer's perceived behavior rather than anything concrete.

Your logics makes no sense. Casual sex implies that your partner sleeps with others as well. Asking for STD test is redundant in that case: they can get HSV2 and othe deceases from one night stands and still infect you. Of course people who don’t have multiple STDs prefer non-casual sex! It’s not like all these f..ks are going to pay my medical insurance deductibles or explain genital herpes for me to my future partners. The occurrence of HPV related throat cancers in men over 60 yo is growing. It’s a torturous death
I don’t get get it how people can be that clueless and careless

I'm not clueless, but you seem extremely naive. Condoms and avoiding oral sex greatly reduces your chances of contracting an STD and casual sex doesn't need ti be ongoing. On the other hand, monogamous relationships aren't necessarily monogamous as a significant percentage of people cheat. People don't generally use protection in monogamous relationships either. Making a man wait doesn't magically protect you from STDs and considering how most of the pressure to avoid casual sex falls on women don't be surprised if the man you're making wait isn't holding himself to the same standards as many women hold themselves to. I know plenty of cases of women who, as far as I know never had casual sex, but ended up with infections because the man they made wait had STIs and never got tested, or eventually got one because they weren't being faithful.

Anonymous wrote:She is probably not doing squat to advance her case. You should tread lightly here, or your relationship will be hamstrung.

She needs to get to the core of the matter without stretching the truth.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The kind of man who sleeps with a woman "too soon" and gets a bad impression of her is not the kind of man who's worth pursuing. He's the kind of man who wants to have his cake and eat it too. Women who make men like this wait just to get their "respect" don't respect themselves either, if they did, they wouldn't "save" themselves for men like this.

Didn't it cross your mind that women who don't sleep with each man they meet just want to get to know the man first? With so many guys lying on apps about STDs, marital&relationship status, it makes sense to wait a month or two until he starts showing red flags. It's not a guarantee of anything, of course, but critical sh..t usually comes up after couple months, in my experience

Did you read my comment or just quoted it? I'm specifically talking about women who dely sex to avoid causing a bad impression on men, not about women who dely sex for other reasons.

As for your STD comment, everyone should be tested before sex REGARDLESS of how much you wait.

Once a woman opens her mouth about a copy of STD results including herpes, guys who are in just for sex simply disappear. It could be the way to weed out for OPs friend. But if she’s that used to sleeping around, she probably just can’t keep herself from doing it, and thus is not capable of conscious relationships and analyzing her risks before sleeping with anyone

Plenty of people who sleep around have no problem to keep themselves from doing it, very few people are actual sex addicts. Other people are perfectly capable and aware of the risks, but take them anyways, the same way they take other risks in their lives such as skiing or driving at night in unknown areas.

I used to have casual sex between relationships and before I met my husband. I asked for STD tests and those that didn't want them were out. I had no problem establishing relationships when I found men I was interested in. We have no idea what's going on with OP's trainer, as most of the OP seems to be a disapproval post of the trainer's perceived behavior rather than anything concrete.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The kind of man who sleeps with a woman "too soon" and gets a bad impression of her is not the kind of man who's worth pursuing. He's the kind of man who wants to have his cake and eat it too. Women who make men like this wait just to get their "respect" don't respect themselves either, if they did, they wouldn't "save" themselves for men like this.

Didn't it cross your mind that women who don't sleep with each man they meet just want to get to know the man first? With so many guys lying on apps about STDs, marital&relationship status, it makes sense to wait a month or two until he starts showing red flags. It's not a guarantee of anything, of course, but critical sh..t usually comes up after couple months, in my experience

Did you read my comment or just quoted it? I'm specifically talking about women who dely sex to avoid causing a bad impression on men, not about women who dely sex for other reasons.

As for your STD comment, everyone should be tested before sex REGARDLESS of how much you wait.

Once a woman opens her mouth about a copy of STD results including herpes, guys who are in just for sex simply disappear. It could be the way to weed out for OPs friend. But if she’s that used to sleeping around, she probably just can’t keep herself from doing it, and thus is not capable of conscious relationships and analyzing her risks before sleeping with anyone

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The kind of man who sleeps with a woman "too soon" and gets a bad impression of her is not the kind of man who's worth pursuing. He's the kind of man who wants to have his cake and eat it too. Women who make men like this wait just to get their "respect" don't respect themselves either, if they did, they wouldn't "save" themselves for men like this.

Didn't it cross your mind that women who don't sleep with each man they meet just want to get to know the man first? With so many guys lying on apps about STDs, marital&relationship status, it makes sense to wait a month or two until he starts showing red flags. It's not a guarantee of anything, of course, but critical sh..t usually comes up after couple months, in my experience

Did you read my comment or just quoted it? I'm specifically talking about women who dely sex to avoid causing a bad impression on men, not about women who dely sex for other reasons.

As for your STD comment, everyone should be tested before sex REGARDLESS of how much you wait.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The kind of man who sleeps with a woman "too soon" and gets a bad impression of her is not the kind of man who's worth pursuing. He's the kind of man who wants to have his cake and eat it too. Women who make men like this wait just to get their "respect" don't respect themselves either, if they did, they wouldn't "save" themselves for men like this.

Didn't it cross your mind that women who don't sleep with each man they meet just want to get to know the man first? With so many guys lying on apps about STDs, marital&relationship status, it makes sense to wait a month or two until he starts showing red flags. It's not a guarantee of anything, of course, but critical sh..t usually comes up after couple months, in my experience

Anonymous wrote:The kind of man who sleeps with a woman "too soon" and gets a bad impression of her is not the kind of man who's worth pursuing. He's the kind of man who wants to have his cake and eat it too. Women who make men like this wait just to get their "respect" don't respect themselves either, if they did, they wouldn't "save" themselves for men like this.

Anonymous wrote:She needs to stop entertaining hookups and be an interesting person outside of her looks and sex.