Anonymous
Post 02/22/2024 14:37     Subject: So, Whose Husband Has Done Absolutely Nothing for Valentine’s Day?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My husband, who has inattentive ADHD and is incapable of planning ahead, has hit on the plan of watching the news regularly to know when such holidays are upon him, and suggesting we get a fancy dessert on the actual day. He's also made chocolate treats himself, when he's had the time.

But shopping for Christmas or birthday presents? Not on your life. He will look up from his work on Christmas Eve and ask what I got for everyone, including the kids. And sometimes not even that - he just finds out when they open their presents. He will get me one useful, practical gift on Amazon, but I'm the only person he shops for.

I hope your husband hasn't entirely forgotten, OP. Maybe you can suggest something this evening.


Me and 3 of my dearest female friends all have adhd and none of us ever forget christmas is coming. ever. I may be wrapping all night xmas eve despite swearing I'd never do it again; I might be using blue painters tape because i forgot to buy more clear tape, but I have never, ever forgot to buy presents. Don't excuse him.


Does the ADHD husband have a job? Does he have tasks that are due on a particular date and he has to plan them and make sure they get done? Is he capable of putting recurring appointments in his Outlook calendar? If so then his ADHD excuse is BS.

At Christmas does he not notice that the house has been decorated and the tree put up long before the actual day, which ought to remind him to buy presents?

Hardly seems possible.
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2024 14:30     Subject: Re:So, Whose Husband Has Done Absolutely Nothing for Valentine’s Day?
Anonymous wrote:
It’s spelled gypped. As in he welshed on our bet. I feel gypped and now my Irish is up.


This poster gets it. The Roma people were called gypsies and the term "gypped" was used as a synonym for conned or cheated.

However, it is DCUM, and most posters do not care about any racism that does not impact them.


It's only "gypped" if it's from the Balkan region of Europe, otherwise it's just sparkling fraud.
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2024 11:16     Subject: Re:So, Whose Husband Has Done Absolutely Nothing for Valentine’s Day?
It’s spelled gypped. As in he welshed on our bet. I feel gypped and now my Irish is up.


This poster gets it. The Roma people were called gypsies and the term "gypped" was used as a synonym for conned or cheated.

However, it is DCUM, and most posters do not care about any racism that does not impact them.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2024 18:00     Subject: So, Whose Husband Has Done Absolutely Nothing for Valentine’s Day?
Imagine caring about a holiday engineered by a corporation to profit from
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2024 12:17     Subject: So, Whose Husband Has Done Absolutely Nothing for Valentine’s Day?
Anonymous wrote:Why are women expecting something on Valentine’s Day? St. Valentine was a Christian martyr put to death by the Romans.

https://www.catholic.org/saints/saint.php?saint_id=159

And what did you do for your DH?


Sounds like another festive holiday celebrating a christian martyr put to death by the Romans...
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2024 11:45     Subject: Re:So, Whose Husband Has Done Absolutely Nothing for Valentine’s Day?
Anonymous wrote:Can't stand these types of posts.

Tell us what you did for him.


+1

These posts are only slightly better than the "how much does your lawyer husband make", I suppose.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2024 11:43     Subject: So, Whose Husband Has Done Absolutely Nothing for Valentine’s Day?
Did nothing for it, said nothing, a good day was had.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2024 06:52     Subject: Re:So, Whose Husband Has Done Absolutely Nothing for Valentine’s Day?
Is this not meant to be the age of gender equality?
In that case ladies, WHAT DID YOU DO FOR YOUR HUSBAND IN VALENTINE'S DAY?
Do you really expect to receive cards, gifts, meals etc, and no to reciprocate?
Now that is pure sexism!
Anonymous
Post 02/19/2024 13:20     Subject: Re:So, Whose Husband Has Done Absolutely Nothing for Valentine’s Day?
Anonymous wrote:
I feel very jipped.


Stop saying this.


It’s spelled gypped. As in he welshed on our bet. I feel gypped and now my Irish is up.
Anonymous
Post 02/19/2024 13:14     Subject: So, Whose Husband Has Done Absolutely Nothing for Valentine’s Day?
Anonymous wrote:My husband. But he never really does not do anything for any holidays so I have just dealt with it.

My oldest teen did notice and asked why he did not do anything. Commenting mom makes dinner, cleans the house, shops for groceries, works full time etc. He did not respond. In a way I was happy to see it pointed out by someone other than me. [/quote

Should have added i bought flowers for the house the weekend prior to valentines day and placed them in a vase. I told my teen "I can buy myself flowers".
Anonymous
Post 02/19/2024 13:10     Subject: So, Whose Husband Has Done Absolutely Nothing for Valentine’s Day?
My husband. But he never really does not do anything for any holidays so I have just dealt with it.

My oldest teen did notice and asked why he did not do anything. Commenting mom makes dinner, cleans the house, shops for groceries, works full time etc. He did not respond. In a way I was happy to see it pointed out by someone other than me.
Anonymous
Post 02/19/2024 12:19     Subject: Re:So, Whose Husband Has Done Absolutely Nothing for Valentine’s Day?
Anonymous wrote:
Oh, the pain!!! Mine is on 25 December. STFU.


Your reply doesn't make sense.


The post you quoted responded to a woman complaining that her DH's birthday was Valentine's Day, ensuring he received attention. If your birthday is on a major holiday (e.g., Christmas), people cannot focus on it. It is the way it is. In other words, if you think having a birthday on Valentine's Day, think how much harder it would be to have a birthday on a real holiday.

Try for some empathic awareness, and think. If your spouse's birthday occurs on a major holiday, be an adult and do not complain about it.



It still doesn't make sense. The DH wasn't posting and complaining about his birthday. Po just wanted to one up.
Anonymous
Post 02/19/2024 11:44     Subject: So, Whose Husband Has Done Absolutely Nothing for Valentine’s Day?
Anonymous wrote:Simple just some carnations would have been nice. They last a longer,luv them but they did not have any at Costco for Valentines day. Roses would have been good but they are double the price of the mix of flowers. Or how about just this: flowers that are actually alive and not dead. How would you like to receive a bouquet of flowers of which a quarter of them are withered and dry? Costco sells these bouquets like this all the time. Then the husband comes home and presents what looks like nice flowers and once u remove the plastic discover oh at least a quarter of them are dead upon closer inspection. Yes, the issue was definitely the quality of the flowers. Look at me the recipient worried about the cost when other men spend over a $100 for a floral arrangement from a real flower shop then you are guaranteed beautiful flowers. What did I do for him - I cooked a dish he really likes for dinner - Alfredo fettucine. Now that Valentines Day is over - I find this whole thing completely over rated, stupid and pretentious. I am kind of done and over it. I don't want to celebrate this dumbness. All I end up is feeling jipped and bad for myself and angry towards my husband of 30 years. I have to ask why do other women have partners that are willing to spend so much on them?? Being cheap and saving money comes into play. I am an avid gardner and know my flowers. Flowers are especially important to me and knowing what kind of flowers I like would be important to know. Don't u think?
Again, I am done with this. But it shows to me where I am on the grande scheme of things compared to other women. All in all I feel very jipped.


Carnations don't smell good or look good.
Red roses are ugly and WAY overpriced.
Demanding flowers that are alive is being excessive, now, don't you think?
Alfredo fettucine is ... wrong, just wrong. Normal people say Fettucine Alfredo
Dumbness is exactly what the US celebrates! Case in point: Trump.
Jipped - racial slur, no need to go there.
OMG you said it twice.