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Anonymous wrote:This thread is full of the unsolicited advice that OP is not asking for. And what's more, SHE KNOWS ALL OF THIS.

She knows how old she is. She knows what IVF costs. She knows about egg donation, surrogates, all of it. She knows that her husband can up and leave her and have kids with someone else. She has taken all of this knowledge, weighed it against her desire to have children, and decided on the risk that she's comfortable with.

You're all being extremely patronizing.

BS. I don't buy for a second that OP is "comfortable with" her decisions. She would not be so oversensitive about people's commentary if she were.

Obviously, otherwise this thread would not exist and she’d tell people she didn’t want kids!

But she tells people that's none of their business and leaves it at that. You guys don't seem you know how to read, or are simply making scenarios in your heads.

“I let them know that there's no reason to bring up the topic and leave it at that, but there's almost always somebody else who brings it later.”

Based on the above nobody is badgering her. Different people are (very casually) making conversation with her over time. Everybody in the whole world is supposed to know she’s sensitive about this conversation, apparently. The world revolves around her.

"Hi Jane. How are you doing? You just turned 35? You gotta have children soon because your fertility is waning?"

That's how it sounds based on what OP said. They're not badgering her, but they go straight to the fertility talk. Would you appreciate it if someone you barely knew started giving you sex advice or weight lose advice? Probably not.

If I told people I was trying to lose weight and they gave me basic batch 101 common sense advice like go to the gym, watch what you eat, cut your sugars, no, obviously, I would not get offended???

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is full of the unsolicited advice that OP is not asking for. And what's more, SHE KNOWS ALL OF THIS.

She knows how old she is. She knows what IVF costs. She knows about egg donation, surrogates, all of it. She knows that her husband can up and leave her and have kids with someone else. She has taken all of this knowledge, weighed it against her desire to have children, and decided on the risk that she's comfortable with.

You're all being extremely patronizing.

BS. I don't buy for a second that OP is "comfortable with" her decisions. She would not be so oversensitive about people's commentary if she were.

Obviously, otherwise this thread would not exist and she’d tell people she didn’t want kids!

But she tells people that's none of their business and leaves it at that. You guys don't seem you know how to read, or are simply making scenarios in your heads.

“I let them know that there's no reason to bring up the topic and leave it at that, but there's almost always somebody else who brings it later.”

Based on the above nobody is badgering her. Different people are (very casually) making conversation with her over time. Everybody in the whole world is supposed to know she’s sensitive about this conversation, apparently. The world revolves around her.

"Hi Jane. How are you doing? You just turned 35? You gotta have children soon because your fertility is waning?"

That's how it sounds based on what OP said. They're not badgering her, but they go straight to the fertility talk. Would you appreciate it if someone you barely knew started giving you sex advice or weight lose advice? Probably not.

Anonymous wrote:I'm 36 and husband is 34. We got married four years ago and still have no children because our financial situation isn't great at the moment. When people learn we're childless, they start making comments about how I shouldn't delay motherhood or at least freeze my eggs. The most infuriating things is that these people aren't even close family members or friends, they're acquaintances or some uncle/cousin I haven't seen in more than 10 years. I let them know that there's no reason to bring up the topic and leave it at that, but there's almost always somebody else who brings it later.

I'm aware that at my age, I might have troubles conceiving, especially if I have undiagnosed fertility issues, but the other option is having a baby that we won't able to support, so we're willing to risk it.

Why are some people so obsessed with the fertility of a couple whose kids they're not gonna raise or financially support?

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is full of the unsolicited advice that OP is not asking for. And what's more, SHE KNOWS ALL OF THIS.

She knows how old she is. She knows what IVF costs. She knows about egg donation, surrogates, all of it. She knows that her husband can up and leave her and have kids with someone else. She has taken all of this knowledge, weighed it against her desire to have children, and decided on the risk that she's comfortable with.

You're all being extremely patronizing.

BS. I don't buy for a second that OP is "comfortable with" her decisions. She would not be so oversensitive about people's commentary if she were.

Obviously, otherwise this thread would not exist and she’d tell people she didn’t want kids!

But she tells people that's none of their business and leaves it at that. You guys don't seem you know how to read, or are simply making scenarios in your heads.

“I let them know that there's no reason to bring up the topic and leave it at that, but there's almost always somebody else who brings it later.”

Based on the above nobody is badgering her. Different people are (very casually) making conversation with her over time. Everybody in the whole world is supposed to know she’s sensitive about this conversation, apparently. The world revolves around her.

"Hi Jane. How are you doing? You just turned 35? You gotta have children soon because your fertility is waning?"

That's how it sounds based on what OP said. They're not badgering her, but they go straight to the fertility talk. Would you appreciate it if someone you barely knew started giving you sex advice or weight lose advice? Probably not.

DP. This is not happening. Do you interact with humans outside of DCUM?

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is full of the unsolicited advice that OP is not asking for. And what's more, SHE KNOWS ALL OF THIS.

She knows how old she is. She knows what IVF costs. She knows about egg donation, surrogates, all of it. She knows that her husband can up and leave her and have kids with someone else. She has taken all of this knowledge, weighed it against her desire to have children, and decided on the risk that she's comfortable with.

You're all being extremely patronizing.

BS. I don't buy for a second that OP is "comfortable with" her decisions. She would not be so oversensitive about people's commentary if she were.

Obviously, otherwise this thread would not exist and she’d tell people she didn’t want kids!

But she tells people that's none of their business and leaves it at that. You guys don't seem you know how to read, or are simply making scenarios in your heads.

“I let them know that there's no reason to bring up the topic and leave it at that, but there's almost always somebody else who brings it later.”

Based on the above nobody is badgering her. Different people are (very casually) making conversation with her over time. Everybody in the whole world is supposed to know she’s sensitive about this conversation, apparently. The world revolves around her.

"Hi Jane. How are you doing? You just turned 35? You gotta have children soon because your fertility is waning?"

That's how it sounds based on what OP said. They're not badgering her, but they go straight to the fertility talk. Would you appreciate it if someone you barely knew started giving you sex advice or weight lose advice? Probably not.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is full of the unsolicited advice that OP is not asking for. And what's more, SHE KNOWS ALL OF THIS.

She knows how old she is. She knows what IVF costs. She knows about egg donation, surrogates, all of it. She knows that her husband can up and leave her and have kids with someone else. She has taken all of this knowledge, weighed it against her desire to have children, and decided on the risk that she's comfortable with.

You're all being extremely patronizing.

BS. I don't buy for a second that OP is "comfortable with" her decisions. She would not be so oversensitive about people's commentary if she were.

Obviously, otherwise this thread would not exist and she’d tell people she didn’t want kids!

But she tells people that's none of their business and leaves it at that. You guys don't seem you know how to read, or are simply making scenarios in your heads.

“I let them know that there's no reason to bring up the topic and leave it at that, but there's almost always somebody else who brings it later.”

Based on the above nobody is badgering her. Different people are (very casually) making conversation with her over time. Everybody in the whole world is supposed to know she’s sensitive about this conversation, apparently. The world revolves around her.

Anonymous wrote:Why do my friends care about my life?!?!

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is full of the unsolicited advice that OP is not asking for. And what's more, SHE KNOWS ALL OF THIS.

She knows how old she is. She knows what IVF costs. She knows about egg donation, surrogates, all of it. She knows that her husband can up and leave her and have kids with someone else. She has taken all of this knowledge, weighed it against her desire to have children, and decided on the risk that she's comfortable with.

You're all being extremely patronizing.

BS. I don't buy for a second that OP is "comfortable with" her decisions. She would not be so oversensitive about people's commentary if she were.

Obviously, otherwise this thread would not exist and she’d tell people she didn’t want kids!

But she tells people that's none of their business and leaves it at that. You guys don't seem you know how to read, or are simply making scenarios in your heads.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is full of the unsolicited advice that OP is not asking for. And what's more, SHE KNOWS ALL OF THIS.

She knows how old she is. She knows what IVF costs. She knows about egg donation, surrogates, all of it. She knows that her husband can up and leave her and have kids with someone else. She has taken all of this knowledge, weighed it against her desire to have children, and decided on the risk that she's comfortable with.

You're all being extremely patronizing.

BS. I don't buy for a second that OP is "comfortable with" her decisions. She would not be so oversensitive about people's commentary if she were.

Obviously, otherwise this thread would not exist and she’d tell people she didn’t want kids!

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is full of the unsolicited advice that OP is not asking for. And what's more, SHE KNOWS ALL OF THIS.

She knows how old she is. She knows what IVF costs. She knows about egg donation, surrogates, all of it. She knows that her husband can up and leave her and have kids with someone else. She has taken all of this knowledge, weighed it against her desire to have children, and decided on the risk that she's comfortable with.

You're all being extremely patronizing.

BS. I don't buy for a second that OP is "comfortable with" her decisions. She would not be so oversensitive about people's commentary if she were.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is full of the unsolicited advice that OP is not asking for. And what's more, SHE KNOWS ALL OF THIS.

She knows how old she is. She knows what IVF costs. She knows about egg donation, surrogates, all of it. She knows that her husband can up and leave her and have kids with someone else. She has taken all of this knowledge, weighed it against her desire to have children, and decided on the risk that she's comfortable with.

You're all being extremely patronizing.

BS. I don't buy for a second that OP is "comfortable with" her decisions. She would not be so oversensitive about people's commentary if she were.

Anonymous wrote:This thread is full of the unsolicited advice that OP is not asking for. And what's more, SHE KNOWS ALL OF THIS.

She knows how old she is. She knows what IVF costs. She knows about egg donation, surrogates, all of it. She knows that her husband can up and leave her and have kids with someone else. She has taken all of this knowledge, weighed it against her desire to have children, and decided on the risk that she's comfortable with.

You're all being extremely patronizing.

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Anonymous wrote:Ten pages of mostly advice to a person who made it clear that she's not looking for advice.

Then why is she here? If she is looking for validation she is in the wrong place.