Anonymous
Post 08/07/2023 06:27     Subject: Do all men cheat?
Anonymous wrote:I thought I was married to one of the few upstanding, loyal men who wouldn't cheat. Also, on a practical level, he was too lazy to plan a date for me, much less woo a second woman.

Turns out he was having anonymous hookups with men.

So, yeah, that pretty much ruined my faith in men (who are good looking enough to have opportunities).


Same thing happened to me. Now I feel like any guy can cheat no matter what they say they are like.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2023 06:27     Subject: Do all men cheat?
I've never cheated in any relationship. I'm being tempted for the first time right now. What helps me it's that what guys see as flirting is often not firing, so it helps me sleep at night knowing that she's probably not flirting with me. All I've done so far is go to her for some paperwork stuff that's like once a year.

It doesn't help that I was reading (I think it was Proverbs maybe Psalms where it mentions adulteress a lot) and the dream wasn't like a wet dream you get as a teenager, nope it was like a stern warning like this is what will happen if you go down that road. Well, that's how I took it. Like a lump of coal.

Still, I just wish my wife treated me better.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2023 00:46     Subject: Do all men cheat?
Every guy friend I've had -- single or married-- told me he has cheated.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2023 00:23     Subject: Re:Do all men cheat?
Not all but it is not rare. Bastards also get born, you know!
Anonymous
Post 08/06/2023 00:04     Subject: Do all men cheat?
Anonymous wrote:
That’s it right there in bold. I can 100% guarantee a different response from you in a dead bedroom marriage. The men who are sexually satisfied at home rarely cheat. The other men are all cheating (or at least trying to).


I would still be a man of my word and honor my vows. Particularly if she had some sort of medical reason.

If the spouse had simply stopped being loving… well then that’s a deeper situation where one spouse out of the two has already started to abandon her vows.
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2023 19:56     Subject: Re:Do all men cheat?
Lots of cake eaters around too. I think people just get bored after 15+ years and if an opportunity presents itself they take it.

Anonymous
Post 08/05/2023 11:01     Subject: Do all men cheat?
Anonymous wrote:A 50 y.o. man here, married 28 years. Good shape. Very good salary. I’m surprised that I still get hit on a few times per year at my age, although it’s not as often as in my 30s for sure.

It’s flattering certainly, but the idea of being dishonorable, and NOT being a man of my word is so far beneath me that I can’t even relate to the concept. Maybe it’s the Great Plains part of the country I came from, but to not keep your vow makes you complete trash. Growing up, “a man’s word” was everything, in all aspects of life. The adults around me would conduct business commit to buying and selling thousands of head of cattle with only a handshake.

With that perspective, I’d say to assume that a liar and cheater tends to be high-testosterone is off base. I’d say the opposite is true. I’d call him a pussy.

I suppose it doesn’t hurt that the sex life at home is still amazing . We both made lifelong vows to “love and cherish”, so having married a woman who is also honorable is certainly part of the equation.


That’s it right there in bold. I can 100% guarantee a different response from you in a dead bedroom marriage. The men who are sexually satisfied at home rarely cheat. The other men are all cheating (or at least trying to).
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2023 10:54     Subject: Do all men cheat?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I thought I was married to one of the few upstanding, loyal men who wouldn't cheat. Also, on a practical level, he was too lazy to plan a date for me, much less woo a second woman.

Turns out he was having anonymous hookups with men.

So, yeah, that pretty much ruined my faith in men (who are good looking enough to have opportunities).


Must have been shocking. Is he gay?


He says he's straight. But obviously not.
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2023 08:49     Subject: Do all men cheat?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Most do, yes.


Nah, half of us are ugly.


And nearly 95% are not in the top 5%.
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2023 08:43     Subject: Re:Do all men cheat?
Anonymous wrote:I’m not naive but I’m pretty sure only 2 of the boyfriends I had cheated, and told me afterward. Another boyfriend asked for an open relationship. I’m pretty confident ex DH and my other boyfriends never cheated.

I would be very surprised if some of my friends’ husbands cheated. They seem so average looking and stand up fathers and husbands.

It also boggles my mind that people say women are throwing themselves at men when I’ve been on OLD and most men can’t even get women to go on a date with them.


Because all the women are throwing themselves at the same handful of men! Those are the ones that have ample opportunities to cheat .
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2023 00:32     Subject: Re:Do all men cheat?
Anonymous wrote:No, only the attractive ones.
I actually wish my husband was cheating on me. But instead he’s a controlling freak who tracks my location and reads through my messages . I can’t even sneeze without him knowing about it. If he had a side piece he would maybe finally stop.


OMG you are me! I literally said this yesterday as he serial called me because I did not come home when he put my location on google maps and added a 5 minute grace period. I stopped to pickup a few groceries. Mine is exactly that and needs a second job badly. I think a lot of his time is misused on planning, scheming and trying to map out my every move. I wish he had a side chick too so then I can get a side piece as well and we will both be happy.
Anonymous
Post 08/04/2023 23:26     Subject: Re:Do all men cheat?
I’m not naive but I’m pretty sure only 2 of the boyfriends I had cheated, and told me afterward. Another boyfriend asked for an open relationship. I’m pretty confident ex DH and my other boyfriends never cheated.

I would be very surprised if some of my friends’ husbands cheated. They seem so average looking and stand up fathers and husbands.

It also boggles my mind that people say women are throwing themselves at men when I’ve been on OLD and most men can’t even get women to go on a date with them.
Anonymous
Post 08/04/2023 22:11     Subject: Do all men cheat?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Most do, yes.


Nah, half of us are ugly.

And even among those of us who are not, many still feel like that awkward teenage nerd we once were...and that we married up.
Anonymous
Post 08/04/2023 19:03     Subject: Do all men cheat?
Anonymous wrote:Most do, yes.


Nah, half of us are ugly.
Anonymous
Post 08/04/2023 18:01     Subject: Do all men cheat?
Anonymous wrote:I have been in long-term relationships with 5 men, including DH, and I believe that all of them are capable of cheating. I believe that I am capable of it too.


You are possibly the only aware and self aware person of DCUM.