Anonymous wrote:He is using therapy speak to justify controlling and demeaning behavior. It’s not necessarily classic abuse, but it’s all kinds of f***ed up and dysfunctional, and I imagine he’s unaware of his own profound a$$holery.
The lack of awareness is what drives me nuts. I had a boss like this. She had been in therapy for years and had fully acclimated to the language and tone of therapy, but had a raging personality disorder and just used all that therapy speak to manipulate and abuse her family, friends, and everyone in our office. I wound up going to therapy after leaving that job for a bit, and after talking about that boss with my therapist, she send me an article about how certain personality disorders can be dangerous in group therapy settings because they learn to manipulate the language of therapy to control the group. Different from what I experienced, but it was an eye opening read. I'll see if I can find it and post it here -- definitely relevant to this conversation.