Anonymous
07/01/2023 20:50
Subject: Style choices that age women in their 40s
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Someone here pointed out that after your 20s, larger breasts age you. It's hard to explain how, but when I tried on a shirt with a padded pushup bra and a regular light bra, the extra boob size definitely made me look older. It's subtle but there was a difference. So throw out the miracle bras or, if you're bustier, go for a smoothing sports bra style.
I know people are upset about this one, but it's true. I think people are upset because they know it's true. Very large breasts look matronly after a certain age. The word "bosom" comes to mind.
It's a trade off. Women who get a lot of attention for their boobs in their youth wind up looking grandmotherly faster because of those boobs. Women who with small boobs get to look youthful a little longer. I feel like it kind of balances out in the end.
Where’s the trade off? You know how much of that attention was from pervy older men? You know how much of a PITA big boobs are to have while trying to run, stay cool in the summer or nurse?
You just suck, full stop. Go sit in the corner and soak your head.
Anonymous
07/01/2023 20:36
Subject: Style choices that age women in their 40s
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Someone here pointed out that after your 20s, larger breasts age you. It's hard to explain how, but when I tried on a shirt with a padded pushup bra and a regular light bra, the extra boob size definitely made me look older. It's subtle but there was a difference. So throw out the miracle bras or, if you're bustier, go for a smoothing sports bra style.
I know people are upset about this one, but it's true. I think people are upset because they know it's true. Very large breasts look matronly after a certain age. The word "bosom" comes to mind.
It's a trade off. Women who get a lot of attention for their boobs in their youth wind up looking grandmotherly faster because of those boobs. Women who with small boobs get to look youthful a little longer. I feel like it kind of balances out in the end.
Well, yeah. You're talking about a physical attribute that people don't really have control over and ascribing a negative attribute to it. And of course it's based on male perceptions of the worth of women. So it's offensive and upsetting.
If I said I think curly hair makes you look mentally ill people would rightly find that offensive. I realize this is an anonymous forum so you don't care, but you kind of suck.
Nobody is saying “large boobs look bad.” The point was that you might want to consider wearing minimizing bras instead of bras that emphasize or boost. That’s all.
Anonymous
07/01/2023 20:21
Subject: Re:Style choices that age women in their 40s
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Hair dyed in fad colors like pink or blue. It seems like there are countless women over 40 out there who thought it would make them look young and hip and edgy. Now I just think of it as old lady-ish when I see it. It doesn't look edgy at all, it looks like someone is trying way too hard and didn't have any real knowledge or understanding of what would look good. Also regarding the comments about short/long hair -- both can age you depending on the style; but not much is worse than limp, un-styled, long hair.
Definitely agree with everyone mentioning skinny jeans and tunics. I think people want to hide their waistline, which I can understand. But it screams unfashionable late middle age to me.
Also bright-colored cheap t-shirts; like in fuchsia, turquoise, etc. Especially paired with white capris.
I'm 5'7" and look fine in capris, but I wouldn't wear white ones. My sister is 5'4" and she does not.
I live outside Chicago and the neon colored hair is like a middle class mom cliche here. Fuchsia hair + ironic band tank top + jean shorts, and usually with some tattoos. No one is mistaking you for a 20 something hipster, ladies.
100%
Wow I kind of want to see this! I don’t think I ever have.
I see it on some “alternative” moms here but usually the older, semi-crunchy set, very liberal, etc. Short weird style hair, no makeup, ill fitting clothes either too big or too small, hair dyed blue or purple. It definitely marks you as a “certain age.” If you don’t care about that, fine.
LOL this is mostly me. It's not about trying to look 20. It's about enjoying being 40 and liking what I like.
Anonymous
07/01/2023 20:14
Subject: Re:Style choices that age women in their 40s
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Hair dyed in fad colors like pink or blue. It seems like there are countless women over 40 out there who thought it would make them look young and hip and edgy. Now I just think of it as old lady-ish when I see it. It doesn't look edgy at all, it looks like someone is trying way too hard and didn't have any real knowledge or understanding of what would look good. Also regarding the comments about short/long hair -- both can age you depending on the style; but not much is worse than limp, un-styled, long hair.
Definitely agree with everyone mentioning skinny jeans and tunics. I think people want to hide their waistline, which I can understand. But it screams unfashionable late middle age to me.
Also bright-colored cheap t-shirts; like in fuchsia, turquoise, etc. Especially paired with white capris.
I'm 5'7" and look fine in capris, but I wouldn't wear white ones. My sister is 5'4" and she does not.
I live outside Chicago and the neon colored hair is like a middle class mom cliche here. Fuchsia hair + ironic band tank top + jean shorts, and usually with some tattoos. No one is mistaking you for a 20 something hipster, ladies.
100%
Wow I kind of want to see this! I don’t think I ever have.
I see it on some “alternative” moms here but usually the older, semi-crunchy set, very liberal, etc. Short weird style hair, no makeup, ill fitting clothes either too big or too small, hair dyed blue or purple. It definitely marks you as a “certain age.” If you don’t care about that, fine.
It’s mostly neoliberal Gen Xers who think magenta hair and a “Notorious RBG” tote bag makes them look cool
They like it. It has nothing to do with looking cool. Do you not understand that?
Anonymous
07/01/2023 19:52
Subject: Re:Style choices that age women in their 40s
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Hair dyed in fad colors like pink or blue. It seems like there are countless women over 40 out there who thought it would make them look young and hip and edgy. Now I just think of it as old lady-ish when I see it. It doesn't look edgy at all, it looks like someone is trying way too hard and didn't have any real knowledge or understanding of what would look good. Also regarding the comments about short/long hair -- both can age you depending on the style; but not much is worse than limp, un-styled, long hair.
Definitely agree with everyone mentioning skinny jeans and tunics. I think people want to hide their waistline, which I can understand. But it screams unfashionable late middle age to me.
Also bright-colored cheap t-shirts; like in fuchsia, turquoise, etc. Especially paired with white capris.
I'm 5'7" and look fine in capris, but I wouldn't wear white ones. My sister is 5'4" and she does not.
I live outside Chicago and the neon colored hair is like a middle class mom cliche here. Fuchsia hair + ironic band tank top + jean shorts, and usually with some tattoos. No one is mistaking you for a 20 something hipster, ladies.
100%
Wow I kind of want to see this! I don’t think I ever have.
I see it on some “alternative” moms here but usually the older, semi-crunchy set, very liberal, etc. Short weird style hair, no makeup, ill fitting clothes either too big or too small, hair dyed blue or purple. It definitely marks you as a “certain age.” If you don’t care about that, fine.
It’s mostly neoliberal Gen Xers who think magenta hair and a “Notorious RBG” tote bag makes them look cool
You've clearly been to my PTA meetings (Chicago PP)...
Anonymous
07/01/2023 19:38
Subject: Re:Style choices that age women in their 40s
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Hair dyed in fad colors like pink or blue. It seems like there are countless women over 40 out there who thought it would make them look young and hip and edgy. Now I just think of it as old lady-ish when I see it. It doesn't look edgy at all, it looks like someone is trying way too hard and didn't have any real knowledge or understanding of what would look good. Also regarding the comments about short/long hair -- both can age you depending on the style; but not much is worse than limp, un-styled, long hair.
Definitely agree with everyone mentioning skinny jeans and tunics. I think people want to hide their waistline, which I can understand. But it screams unfashionable late middle age to me.
Also bright-colored cheap t-shirts; like in fuchsia, turquoise, etc. Especially paired with white capris.
I'm 5'7" and look fine in capris, but I wouldn't wear white ones. My sister is 5'4" and she does not.
I live outside Chicago and the neon colored hair is like a middle class mom cliche here. Fuchsia hair + ironic band tank top + jean shorts, and usually with some tattoos. No one is mistaking you for a 20 something hipster, ladies.
100%
Wow I kind of want to see this! I don’t think I ever have.
I see it on some “alternative” moms here but usually the older, semi-crunchy set, very liberal, etc. Short weird style hair, no makeup, ill fitting clothes either too big or too small, hair dyed blue or purple. It definitely marks you as a “certain age.” If you don’t care about that, fine.
It’s mostly neoliberal Gen Xers who think magenta hair and a “Notorious RBG” tote bag makes them look cool
Anonymous
07/01/2023 19:37
Subject: Re:Style choices that age women in their 40s
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Hair dyed in fad colors like pink or blue. It seems like there are countless women over 40 out there who thought it would make them look young and hip and edgy. Now I just think of it as old lady-ish when I see it. It doesn't look edgy at all, it looks like someone is trying way too hard and didn't have any real knowledge or understanding of what would look good. Also regarding the comments about short/long hair -- both can age you depending on the style; but not much is worse than limp, un-styled, long hair.
Definitely agree with everyone mentioning skinny jeans and tunics. I think people want to hide their waistline, which I can understand. But it screams unfashionable late middle age to me.
Also bright-colored cheap t-shirts; like in fuchsia, turquoise, etc. Especially paired with white capris.
I'm 5'7" and look fine in capris, but I wouldn't wear white ones. My sister is 5'4" and she does not.
I live outside Chicago and the neon colored hair is like a middle class mom cliche here. Fuchsia hair + ironic band tank top + jean shorts, and usually with some tattoos. No one is mistaking you for a 20 something hipster, ladies.
100%
Wow I kind of want to see this! I don’t think I ever have.
Go to a farmers market
Anonymous
07/01/2023 19:30
Subject: Style choices that age women in their 40s
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Someone here pointed out that after your 20s, larger breasts age you. It's hard to explain how, but when I tried on a shirt with a padded pushup bra and a regular light bra, the extra boob size definitely made me look older. It's subtle but there was a difference. So throw out the miracle bras or, if you're bustier, go for a smoothing sports bra style.
I know people are upset about this one, but it's true. I think people are upset because they know it's true. Very large breasts look matronly after a certain age. The word "bosom" comes to mind.
It's a trade off. Women who get a lot of attention for their boobs in their youth wind up looking grandmotherly faster because of those boobs. Women who with small boobs get to look youthful a little longer. I feel like it kind of balances out in the end.
Well, yeah. You're talking about a physical attribute that people don't really have control over and ascribing a negative attribute to it. And of course it's based on male perceptions of the worth of women. So it's offensive and upsetting.
If I said I think curly hair makes you look mentally ill people would rightly find that offensive. I realize this is an anonymous forum so you don't care, but you kind of suck.
Anonymous
07/01/2023 19:07
Subject: Re:Style choices that age women in their 40s
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am Indian so tunics (we say kurta) have been a big part of my life since my early 20’s and I don’t think I’ll ever give them up!
That's different. Indian clothes are usually gorgeous.
I mean, I’m talking daily wear Indian style tunics (eg with block print pattern) not wedding or formal attire
, but hopefully not frumpy!
Anonymous
07/01/2023 18:53
Subject: Style choices that age women in their 40s
I just want to say that buying clothes is too much work and it’s okay to just embrace our fashion invisibility and wear the capris and the tunic and be happy, at least some do the time. You look best when you’re happy.
Anonymous
07/01/2023 18:51
Subject: Re:Style choices that age women in their 40s
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Hair dyed in fad colors like pink or blue. It seems like there are countless women over 40 out there who thought it would make them look young and hip and edgy. Now I just think of it as old lady-ish when I see it. It doesn't look edgy at all, it looks like someone is trying way too hard and didn't have any real knowledge or understanding of what would look good. Also regarding the comments about short/long hair -- both can age you depending on the style; but not much is worse than limp, un-styled, long hair.
Definitely agree with everyone mentioning skinny jeans and tunics. I think people want to hide their waistline, which I can understand. But it screams unfashionable late middle age to me.
Also bright-colored cheap t-shirts; like in fuchsia, turquoise, etc. Especially paired with white capris.
I'm 5'7" and look fine in capris, but I wouldn't wear white ones. My sister is 5'4" and she does not.
I live outside Chicago and the neon colored hair is like a middle class mom cliche here. Fuchsia hair + ironic band tank top + jean shorts, and usually with some tattoos. No one is mistaking you for a 20 something hipster, ladies.
100%
Wow I kind of want to see this! I don’t think I ever have.
I see it on some “alternative” moms here but usually the older, semi-crunchy set, very liberal, etc. Short weird style hair, no makeup, ill fitting clothes either too big or too small, hair dyed blue or purple. It definitely marks you as a “certain age.” If you don’t care about that, fine.
Anonymous
07/01/2023 17:37
Subject: Re:Style choices that age women in their 40s
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Hair dyed in fad colors like pink or blue. It seems like there are countless women over 40 out there who thought it would make them look young and hip and edgy. Now I just think of it as old lady-ish when I see it. It doesn't look edgy at all, it looks like someone is trying way too hard and didn't have any real knowledge or understanding of what would look good. Also regarding the comments about short/long hair -- both can age you depending on the style; but not much is worse than limp, un-styled, long hair.
Definitely agree with everyone mentioning skinny jeans and tunics. I think people want to hide their waistline, which I can understand. But it screams unfashionable late middle age to me.
Also bright-colored cheap t-shirts; like in fuchsia, turquoise, etc. Especially paired with white capris.
I'm 5'7" and look fine in capris, but I wouldn't wear white ones. My sister is 5'4" and she does not.
I live outside Chicago and the neon colored hair is like a middle class mom cliche here. Fuchsia hair + ironic band tank top + jean shorts, and usually with some tattoos. No one is mistaking you for a 20 something hipster, ladies.
100%
Wow I kind of want to see this! I don’t think I ever have.
Anonymous
07/01/2023 17:31
Subject: Re:Style choices that age women in their 40s
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Hair dyed in fad colors like pink or blue. It seems like there are countless women over 40 out there who thought it would make them look young and hip and edgy. Now I just think of it as old lady-ish when I see it. It doesn't look edgy at all, it looks like someone is trying way too hard and didn't have any real knowledge or understanding of what would look good. Also regarding the comments about short/long hair -- both can age you depending on the style; but not much is worse than limp, un-styled, long hair.
Definitely agree with everyone mentioning skinny jeans and tunics. I think people want to hide their waistline, which I can understand. But it screams unfashionable late middle age to me.
Also bright-colored cheap t-shirts; like in fuchsia, turquoise, etc. Especially paired with white capris.
I'm 5'7" and look fine in capris, but I wouldn't wear white ones. My sister is 5'4" and she does not.
I live outside Chicago and the neon colored hair is like a middle class mom cliche here. Fuchsia hair + ironic band tank top + jean shorts, and usually with some tattoos. No one is mistaking you for a 20 something hipster, ladies.
100%
Anonymous
07/01/2023 17:29
Subject: Re:Style choices that age women in their 40s
Anonymous wrote:Hair dyed in fad colors like pink or blue. It seems like there are countless women over 40 out there who thought it would make them look young and hip and edgy. Now I just think of it as old lady-ish when I see it. It doesn't look edgy at all, it looks like someone is trying way too hard and didn't have any real knowledge or understanding of what would look good. Also regarding the comments about short/long hair -- both can age you depending on the style; but not much is worse than limp, un-styled, long hair.
Definitely agree with everyone mentioning skinny jeans and tunics. I think people want to hide their waistline, which I can understand. But it screams unfashionable late middle age to me.
Also bright-colored cheap t-shirts; like in fuchsia, turquoise, etc. Especially paired with white capris.
I'm 5'7" and look fine in capris, but I wouldn't wear white ones. My sister is 5'4" and she does not.
I live outside Chicago and the neon colored hair is like a middle class mom cliche here. Fuchsia hair + ironic band tank top + jean shorts, and usually with some tattoos. No one is mistaking you for a 20 something hipster, ladies.
Anonymous
07/01/2023 17:17
Subject: Style choices that age women in their 40s
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with tunics?
I'm trying to picture these tunics that keep getting mentioned. Can someone post a link or image? I don't think I have any but god help me if I do.
Google the Soft Surroundings catalog, lol.
Omg unironically I think I’m going to order some stuff.