Anonymous
Post 05/13/2023 13:57     Subject: Pet peeve: deboarding an airplane by row
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:***What do you do in this scenario?

You are in the aisle seat in row 8. You stood up in the aisle and are patiently waiting with your small carry on (which you kept under your seat).

Everyone in front starts exiting and you move forward — and then the woman in the aisle seat ahead of you jumps up and steps out into the aisle.

Naturally, you pause.

But then she says, “My carryon is in the overhead a few rows back.”

Her expectation was that everyone already standing in the aisle for 3+ rows would sit down so she could walk back and grab it.

I said, “Sorry, I think you’re going to need to wait until there’s space for you to walk back and grab it.”

She was clearly upset.

I walked by to exit as did everyone behind me.



I’d let her squish back past me to get her bag. What she does with other strangers is not my concern. I’ve had similar scenarios multiple times on international flights and people are usually nice and either pass the bag or just let the person squish themselves to where the bag is and then they just follow the de boarding line from there. It’s not that complicated.


There wasn’t any room to squish past me. There was a big person literally spooning me from behind. And the person seated next to me had already stood up (essentially in my aisle seat) and had their carryon in my seat. I was in the aisle with my carry on in front of me.

Had I asked everyone to back up, return to their seats,etc so I could move back into my seat I don’t think anyone would have listened.

Anonymous
Post 05/13/2023 13:53     Subject: Pet peeve: deboarding an airplane by row
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:***What do you do in this scenario?

You are in the aisle seat in row 8. You stood up in the aisle and are patiently waiting with your small carry on (which you kept under your seat).

Everyone in front starts exiting and you move forward — and then the woman in the aisle seat ahead of you jumps up and steps out into the aisle.

Naturally, you pause.

But then she says, “My carryon is in the overhead a few rows back.”

Her expectation was that everyone already standing in the aisle for 3+ rows would sit down so she could walk back and grab it.

I said, “Sorry, I think you’re going to need to wait until there’s space for you to walk back and grab it.”

She was clearly upset.

I walked by to exit as did everyone behind me.



I’d let her squish back past me to get her bag. What she does with other strangers is not my concern. I’ve had similar scenarios multiple times on international flights and people are usually nice and either pass the bag or just let the person squish themselves to where the bag is and then they just follow the de boarding line from there. It’s not that complicated.


You know what... I think this is what I would do, too. Now that I think about it. I didn't read carefully the first time about the aisles.

It takes little effort or time to step back into your seat for half a second and let her get to her bag.

. she's going to be further down the line anyway and one less person ahead of me.

And honestly, that original person who wrote out the scenario. Kind of ballsy to speak for everybody behind her

I don't see an issue with this.
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2023 13:52     Subject: Pet peeve: deboarding an airplane by row
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:***What do you do in this scenario?

You are in the aisle seat in row 8. You stood up in the aisle and are patiently waiting with your small carry on (which you kept under your seat).

Everyone in front starts exiting and you move forward — and then the woman in the aisle seat ahead of you jumps up and steps out into the aisle.

Naturally, you pause.

But then she says, “My carryon is in the overhead a few rows back.”

Her expectation was that everyone already standing in the aisle for 3+ rows would sit down so she could walk back and grab it.

I said, “Sorry, I think you’re going to need to wait until there’s space for you to walk back and grab it.”

She was clearly upset.

I walked by to exit as did everyone behind me.



She was upset, but you and others still got to move forward. Yes? So…and what? You can’t control the feelings and expectations and others. Her “upset” did not prevent you and others from deplaning. What are you looking for here, for strangers to tell you how to control the feelings of other strangers?


I’m asking if I should have sat down and let her try to pass a few rows down the aisle or if I was correct in moving forward.

She said some pretty unkind things to me as I moved on, and she was still fussing about it (and me personally) in baggage claim. (Along the lines of my “privilege” and the fact that we both ended up at baggage claim waiting.)

My thinking was this: even if I sit down and let her pass, she would then need to convince 3+ aisles behind us to sit still and let her grab her bag. Fat chance that would happen.


Again…OK. You had your “thinking” about the situation, and she had hers. Her “fussing” didn’t prevent you from doing anything, and yeah, you choosing to go past her didn’t get you anywhere: you ended up at the same baggage claim at the same time, waiting. So…what?


The thread is seemingly about plane etiquette when it comes to deboarding/deplaning.

Not sure why you think chiming in with “so what?” for specific scenarios is necessary.

I mean, “So what?” basically applies to every post on dcum.

Either respond to the question or move on.
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2023 13:36     Subject: Pet peeve: deboarding an airplane by row
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:***What do you do in this scenario?

You are in the aisle seat in row 8. You stood up in the aisle and are patiently waiting with your small carry on (which you kept under your seat).

Everyone in front starts exiting and you move forward — and then the woman in the aisle seat ahead of you jumps up and steps out into the aisle.

Naturally, you pause.

But then she says, “My carryon is in the overhead a few rows back.”

Her expectation was that everyone already standing in the aisle for 3+ rows would sit down so she could walk back and grab it.

I said, “Sorry, I think you’re going to need to wait until there’s space for you to walk back and grab it.”

She was clearly upset.

I walked by to exit as did everyone behind me.



You were 100% in the wrong. And rude.


No way. Inconveniencing several rows of people for one person? Nope.
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2023 13:17     Subject: Pet peeve: deboarding an airplane by row
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It’s all the overhead carryons that take forever. We take our time and by the time we’ve use the restroom our bags are waiting for us at baggage claim.


And by that point those of us who only brought carry ons and booked seats in the front of the plane are already relaxing at the hotel/back home.


Lol, I doubt this! I rarely check bags, but in no way am I already at home or my hotel by the time bags get to the claim. That is just hyperbole.
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2023 13:12     Subject: Pet peeve: deboarding an airplane by row
Anonymous wrote:Op, do you zipper merge or help clog one lane?


OP here. Zipper merge, huge fan. Not a fan of lane clogging. Like if someone sat in a right lane and insisted on waiting for someone from the left lane (even if nobody is there) to get in front of him before he will just keep moving—that’s annoying.
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2023 12:57     Subject: Pet peeve: deboarding an airplane by row
Op, do you zipper merge or help clog one lane?
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2023 12:57     Subject: Pet peeve: deboarding an airplane by row
Anonymous wrote:***What do you do in this scenario?

You are in the aisle seat in row 8. You stood up in the aisle and are patiently waiting with your small carry on (which you kept under your seat).

Everyone in front starts exiting and you move forward — and then the woman in the aisle seat ahead of you jumps up and steps out into the aisle.

Naturally, you pause.

But then she says, “My carryon is in the overhead a few rows back.”

Her expectation was that everyone already standing in the aisle for 3+ rows would sit down so she could walk back and grab it.

I said, “Sorry, I think you’re going to need to wait until there’s space for you to walk back and grab it.”

She was clearly upset.

I walked by to exit as did everyone behind me.



I’d let her squish back past me to get her bag. What she does with other strangers is not my concern. I’ve had similar scenarios multiple times on international flights and people are usually nice and either pass the bag or just let the person squish themselves to where the bag is and then they just follow the de boarding line from there. It’s not that complicated.
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2023 12:51     Subject: Pet peeve: deboarding an airplane by row
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:***What do you do in this scenario?

You are in the aisle seat in row 8. You stood up in the aisle and are patiently waiting with your small carry on (which you kept under your seat).

Everyone in front starts exiting and you move forward — and then the woman in the aisle seat ahead of you jumps up and steps out into the aisle.

Naturally, you pause.

But then she says, “My carryon is in the overhead a few rows back.”

Her expectation was that everyone already standing in the aisle for 3+ rows would sit down so she could walk back and grab it.

I said, “Sorry, I think you’re going to need to wait until there’s space for you to walk back and grab it.”

She was clearly upset.

I walked by to exit as did everyone behind me.



That lady is an idiot! No way in the world would I accommodate her. You were 100% right, PP.
Agree. It’s rude to ask people to sit back down for you. They probably already have their carryons down from the bins. She should wait until there is room to move back. Usually there’s a break in the line of people. Go then.
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2023 12:50     Subject: Pet peeve: deboarding an airplane by row
This is because people don't want to upset a potentially highly irrational person, so they have to over exaggerate their patience and "kindness".

But I would say in general what I have witnessed is that if I'm in row 10 and I'm ready to go but the person in row 9 is still sitting and gathering their belongings, it's understood and accepted that expected that we just keep it moving forward. When the person in row 9 stands up and makes a motion to leave the row, then they are allowed to enter. Not unlike merging onto the freeway.
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2023 12:49     Subject: Pet peeve: deboarding an airplane by row
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:***What do you do in this scenario?

You are in the aisle seat in row 8. You stood up in the aisle and are patiently waiting with your small carry on (which you kept under your seat).

Everyone in front starts exiting and you move forward — and then the woman in the aisle seat ahead of you jumps up and steps out into the aisle.

Naturally, you pause.

But then she says, “My carryon is in the overhead a few rows back.”

Her expectation was that everyone already standing in the aisle for 3+ rows would sit down so she could walk back and grab it.

I said, “Sorry, I think you’re going to need to wait until there’s space for you to walk back and grab it.”

She was clearly upset.

I walked by to exit as did everyone behind me.



That lady is an idiot! No way in the world would I accommodate her. You were 100% right, PP.


I agree the lady should not have expected people to wait and sit back down. That's insane. But if the compartment was close enough, and the bag not too onerous, most people have seen on planes will offer to get the bag and pass it up.

But seriously, no point in rushing off the plane; I think for many people, though, it's anxiety that makes them act like prisoners trying to escape death row.
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2023 12:45     Subject: Pet peeve: deboarding an airplane by row
Anonymous wrote:***What do you do in this scenario?

You are in the aisle seat in row 8. You stood up in the aisle and are patiently waiting with your small carry on (which you kept under your seat).

Everyone in front starts exiting and you move forward — and then the woman in the aisle seat ahead of you jumps up and steps out into the aisle.

Naturally, you pause.

But then she says, “My carryon is in the overhead a few rows back.”

Her expectation was that everyone already standing in the aisle for 3+ rows would sit down so she could walk back and grab it.

I said, “Sorry, I think you’re going to need to wait until there’s space for you to walk back and grab it.”

She was clearly upset.

I walked by to exit as did everyone behind me.



That lady is an idiot! No way in the world would I accommodate her. You were 100% right, PP.
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2023 12:36     Subject: Pet peeve: deboarding an airplane by row
This is a southern thing I think. I see it on lots of flights to New Orleans and Texas. Southerners are not efficient. I find it really tiring to watch them fall all over themselves to be polite. Cut the drama and just walk off the plane.
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2023 11:55     Subject: Pet peeve: deboarding an airplane by row
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:***What do you do in this scenario?

You are in the aisle seat in row 8. You stood up in the aisle and are patiently waiting with your small carry on (which you kept under your seat).

Everyone in front starts exiting and you move forward — and then the woman in the aisle seat ahead of you jumps up and steps out into the aisle.

Naturally, you pause.

But then she says, “My carryon is in the overhead a few rows back.”

Her expectation was that everyone already standing in the aisle for 3+ rows would sit down so she could walk back and grab it.

I said, “Sorry, I think you’re going to need to wait until there’s space for you to walk back and grab it.”

She was clearly upset.

I walked by to exit as did everyone behind me.



She was upset, but you and others still got to move forward. Yes? So…and what? You can’t control the feelings and expectations and others. Her “upset” did not prevent you and others from deplaning. What are you looking for here, for strangers to tell you how to control the feelings of other strangers?


I’m asking if I should have sat down and let her try to pass a few rows down the aisle or if I was correct in moving forward.

She said some pretty unkind things to me as I moved on, and she was still fussing about it (and me personally) in baggage claim. (Along the lines of my “privilege” and the fact that we both ended up at baggage claim waiting.)

My thinking was this: even if I sit down and let her pass, she would then need to convince 3+ aisles behind us to sit still and let her grab her bag. Fat chance that would happen.


Again…OK. You had your “thinking” about the situation, and she had hers. Her “fussing” didn’t prevent you from doing anything, and yeah, you choosing to go past her didn’t get you anywhere: you ended up at the same baggage claim at the same time, waiting. So…what?
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2023 11:48     Subject: Pet peeve: deboarding an airplane by row
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:***What do you do in this scenario?

You are in the aisle seat in row 8. You stood up in the aisle and are patiently waiting with your small carry on (which you kept under your seat).

Everyone in front starts exiting and you move forward — and then the woman in the aisle seat ahead of you jumps up and steps out into the aisle.

Naturally, you pause.

But then she says, “My carryon is in the overhead a few rows back.”

Her expectation was that everyone already standing in the aisle for 3+ rows would sit down so she could walk back and grab it.

I said, “Sorry, I think you’re going to need to wait until there’s space for you to walk back and grab it.”

She was clearly upset.

I walked by to exit as did everyone behind me.



She was upset, but you and others still got to move forward. Yes? So…and what? You can’t control the feelings and expectations and others. Her “upset” did not prevent you and others from deplaning. What are you looking for here, for strangers to tell you how to control the feelings of other strangers?


I’m asking if I should have sat down and let her try to pass a few rows down the aisle or if I was correct in moving forward.

She said some pretty unkind things to me as I moved on, and she was still fussing about it (and me personally) in baggage claim. (Along the lines of my “privilege” and the fact that we both ended up at baggage claim waiting.)

My thinking was this: even if I sit down and let her pass, she would then need to convince 3+ aisles behind us to sit still and let her grab her bag. Fat chance that would happen.