Anonymous
Post 02/11/2023 15:54     Subject: Re:Swim Excuse Note
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wonder how many of these rabid “make her walk around in her bathing suit!” parents are the same ones who complain about crop tops and short homecoming dresses.


To recap…1) OP’s daughter has no issues walking around in a bathing suit in public because she swims in the summer in the neighborhood pool. 2) The swimming class is girl only. 3) OP’s daughter doesn’t want to get her hair wet.
my kid swims in the outdoors too in the summer. But the changing rooms at our outdoor pool have doors, other outdoor pools have doors or curtains. They are also not all changing at once. It’s totally not the same thing..
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2023 15:49     Subject: Swim Excuse Note
Anonymous wrote:Im really not a person who would normally do that, but swimming daily? Assuming they have to go back to class wet? That sounds awful. Seriously awful. I'd probably try to get my kid out of it if they asked if it wasn't something they made a habit out of.




I went to an all girls' HS and took required swimming classes for two years. I remember it being a few days each week. We had to wear ugly old suits and a swim cap. We all hated it but nobody's parents got their doctor to write a fake note excusing them from it. We used towels to dry off and put our regular uniforms on. Our hair was mostly dry anyway due to the swim cap. Not a big deal at all.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2023 15:35     Subject: Re:Swim Excuse Note
Anonymous wrote:Wonder how many of these rabid “make her walk around in her bathing suit!” parents are the same ones who complain about crop tops and short homecoming dresses.


To recap…1) OP’s daughter has no issues walking around in a bathing suit in public because she swims in the summer in the neighborhood pool. 2) The swimming class is girl only. 3) OP’s daughter doesn’t want to get her hair wet.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2023 15:10     Subject: Swim Excuse Note
Anonymous wrote:It makes no sense to get a doctor’s note when your daughter can just wear a swim cap to keep her hair dry.


That’s….not what swim caps do. Drier, perhaps, not but not dry.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2023 14:52     Subject: Re:Swim Excuse Note
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wonder how many of these rabid “make her walk around in her bathing suit!” parents are the same ones who complain about crop tops and short homecoming dresses.


Many of us have told op to get this girl a rash guard and shorts instead of a typical bathing suit.

This has nothing to do with dress code.


I disagree. Because if she’s the one girl who shows up in a rash guard and shorts, she’s going to feel awkward, too. It’s just a really dumb activity for this point in a girl’s life.

And while I personally wouldn’t go the doctor’s note route, the OP specifically said they weren’t going to lie to get it and the doctor is totally on board. Would you all be ok with the OP asking for an alternative PE activity?


What if she just accepts a failing grade?


If the idea of putting the suit on was causing my kid sufficient distress and the school was unwilling to provide an alternative, the yes, I’d absolutely have my kid take a failing grade rather than force the issue. An 8th grade PE grade is so not worth the stress. And I can’t really think of another example of mandatory graded work that would require a girl to wear a certain type of tight or revealing clothing.


Growing up, my school had a pool and we had swimming as part of PE. They actually gave us swimsuits to wear, and the girls' swimsuits were competition suits and the boys had speedos. It was horrible for everyone but honestly worse for the boys. This really should not be a co-ed activity.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2023 14:50     Subject: Swim Excuse Note
It sounds pretty frivolous, but as a person with curly hair it's just a fact that getting curly hair wet could result in looking completely ridiculous for the rest of the day. However, the right cut and products can fix that - I'm a swimmer with curly hair, so I know this first-hand. I try to rinse my hair with fresh water after swimming if I can, and then put in the products and it only take a minute to get my hair looking OK. Take your daughter to a salon that does Diva Cuts and you'll see what I mean.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2023 14:19     Subject: Re:Swim Excuse Note
Anonymous wrote:So I’ve been thinking about this for about an hour…I have a 10 not a 13yo bit I’m trying to think what I would do in 3 years. I would do the note. Right now she swims twice a week, she doesn’t need to swim for PE. If she’s upset enough to ask me to be excused I’m going to let it happen. If she couldn’t swim I might feel differently. I also think
It’s crazy that MS age girls are being asked to do this for PE. I went to school in another country and we did it at age 8/9. It’s a lot to ask of insecure teenagers..


And the elementary schools that do this at age 8 or 9 always allow parents to opt out for whatever reason.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2023 14:15     Subject: Re:Swim Excuse Note
So I’ve been thinking about this for about an hour…I have a 10 not a 13yo bit I’m trying to think what I would do in 3 years. I would do the note. Right now she swims twice a week, she doesn’t need to swim for PE. If she’s upset enough to ask me to be excused I’m going to let it happen. If she couldn’t swim I might feel differently. I also think
It’s crazy that MS age girls are being asked to do this for PE. I went to school in another country and we did it at age 8/9. It’s a lot to ask of insecure teenagers..
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2023 14:09     Subject: Swim Excuse Note
It makes no sense to get a doctor’s note when your daughter can just wear a swim cap to keep her hair dry.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2023 13:59     Subject: Re:Swim Excuse Note
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wonder how many of these rabid “make her walk around in her bathing suit!” parents are the same ones who complain about crop tops and short homecoming dresses.


Many of us have told op to get this girl a rash guard and shorts instead of a typical bathing suit.

This has nothing to do with dress code.


I disagree. Because if she’s the one girl who shows up in a rash guard and shorts, she’s going to feel awkward, too. It’s just a really dumb activity for this point in a girl’s life.

And while I personally wouldn’t go the doctor’s note route, the OP specifically said they weren’t going to lie to get it and the doctor is totally on board. Would you all be ok with the OP asking for an alternative PE activity?


What if she just accepts a failing grade?


If the idea of putting the suit on was causing my kid sufficient distress and the school was unwilling to provide an alternative, the yes, I’d absolutely have my kid take a failing grade rather than force the issue. An 8th grade PE grade is so not worth the stress. And I can’t really think of another example of mandatory graded work that would require a girl to wear a certain type of tight or revealing clothing.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2023 13:15     Subject: Re:Swim Excuse Note
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wonder how many of these rabid “make her walk around in her bathing suit!” parents are the same ones who complain about crop tops and short homecoming dresses.


Many of us have told op to get this girl a rash guard and shorts instead of a typical bathing suit.

This has nothing to do with dress code.


I disagree. Because if she’s the one girl who shows up in a rash guard and shorts, she’s going to feel awkward, too. It’s just a really dumb activity for this point in a girl’s life.

And while I personally wouldn’t go the doctor’s note route, the OP specifically said they weren’t going to lie to get it and the doctor is totally on board. Would you all be ok with the OP asking for an alternative PE activity?


What if she just accepts a failing grade?
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2023 12:27     Subject: Re:Swim Excuse Note
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wonder how many of these rabid “make her walk around in her bathing suit!” parents are the same ones who complain about crop tops and short homecoming dresses.


Many of us have told op to get this girl a rash guard and shorts instead of a typical bathing suit.

This has nothing to do with dress code.


I disagree. Because if she’s the one girl who shows up in a rash guard and shorts, she’s going to feel awkward, too. It’s just a really dumb activity for this point in a girl’s life.

And while I personally wouldn’t go the doctor’s note route, the OP specifically said they weren’t going to lie to get it and the doctor is totally on board. Would you all be ok with the OP asking for an alternative PE activity?
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2023 12:14     Subject: Re:Swim Excuse Note
Anonymous wrote:Wonder how many of these rabid “make her walk around in her bathing suit!” parents are the same ones who complain about crop tops and short homecoming dresses.


Many of us have told op to get this girl a rash guard and shorts instead of a typical bathing suit.

This has nothing to do with dress code.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2023 11:54     Subject: Re:Swim Excuse Note
Anonymous wrote:Wonder how many of these rabid “make her walk around in her bathing suit!” parents are the same ones who complain about crop tops and short homecoming dresses.


This isn’t about dress code at all. It’s about what message you are sending your daughter by skirting school rules to get what you want, instead of just openly working to change the school policy in the first place.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2023 11:41     Subject: Re:Swim Excuse Note
Wonder how many of these rabid “make her walk around in her bathing suit!” parents are the same ones who complain about crop tops and short homecoming dresses.