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Anonymous wrote:What are all these happy marriages you folks are seeing and wishing for? I literally can't think of a single married couple I know where I think both partners got a good deal.

Interesting. I personally am in a happy marriage and lots of people I know also are. I’m talking about people married 30 years and more, so marriages that have held up for the long haul. I would add that most of my classmates from college are married for many years now, with very few divorces.

Oh I know plenty of "happily" married people. But none of those marriages have TWO people who I, personally, think would make a good partner.

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Anonymous wrote:What are all these happy marriages you folks are seeing and wishing for? I literally can't think of a single married couple I know where I think both partners got a good deal.

Interesting. I personally am in a happy marriage and lots of people I know also are. I’m talking about people married 30 years and more, so marriages that have held up for the long haul. I would add that most of my classmates from college are married for many years now, with very few divorces.

Oh I know plenty of "happily" married people. But none of those marriages have TWO people who I, personally, think would make a good partner.

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Correct. In literally every marriage I know at least one of the people has a massive flaw or drawback and another person who makes it work and keeps it alive. These include:

-long term unemployment and deeply passive
-flagrant serial infidelity
-extremely dull almost non-interactive personality
-obesity
-shameless flirtation with wife’s friends and alcohol abuse
-all around dud with no standout qualities and self-centered
-manchild who earns very little and was previously divorced with a kid
-insufferably sanctimonious while being incredibly materialistic and controlling
-bald/overweight/neurotic/chronic antidepressants
-alcoholism
-both partners are abusive
-dimwit
-extremely socially conservative Trump supporter and donor

Every one of these is highly educated with top graduate degrees and all except the unemployed and manchild earn over $350K, some multiples of that. All are married to much less flawed women who earn over $250K except one SAHM.

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Anonymous wrote:What are all these happy marriages you folks are seeing and wishing for? I literally can't think of a single married couple I know where I think both partners got a good deal.

Interesting. I personally am in a happy marriage and lots of people I know also are. I’m talking about people married 30 years and more, so marriages that have held up for the long haul. I would add that most of my classmates from college are married for many years now, with very few divorces.

Oh I know plenty of "happily" married people. But none of those marriages have TWO people who I, personally, think would make a good partner.

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Anonymous wrote:What are all these happy marriages you folks are seeing and wishing for? I literally can't think of a single married couple I know where I think both partners got a good deal.

Interesting. I personally am in a happy marriage and lots of people I know also are. I’m talking about people married 30 years and more, so marriages that have held up for the long haul. I would add that most of my classmates from college are married for many years now, with very few divorces.

Oh I know plenty of "happily" married people. But none of those marriages have TWO people who I, personally, think would make a good partner.

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Anonymous wrote:What are all these happy marriages you folks are seeing and wishing for? I literally can't think of a single married couple I know where I think both partners got a good deal.

Curious, how old are you and what's your crowd is like?

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Anonymous wrote:In reference to the other thread where it was concluded that the good guys with the potential to make good money are always paired up very early in life- in college or before. This makes me feel major FOMO because in high school and college, I had 0 idea what a “marriage material” guy was and how to identify them. But I had a roomate, I recall, who had been dating her engineer bf since hs. They were monogamous throughout college and he went to an Ivy League across the country. They already had it all mapped out. What jobs they were going to do; how many kids they would have.

How did she know so early what’s a good guy? And how to keep him?

I was so clueless and only now in my thirties am remembering the things she said about marriage and husbands.

Who teaches these girls? How they know? What do they know?

Nobody teaches anything. They just got lucky.

My mom specifically pointed out and explained all of the bad marriages in our orbit, starting in middle school. I married a fantastic guy.

Umm… yeah. The posters of Dcum aren’t known for their relaxed attitudes about anything. Seems unlikely they didn’t hear from their Mothers early and often what sort of man is a decent earner with husband potential.

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Anonymous wrote:Because of my work, I collaborate with a lot of Gen Z guys who are/will become rich. As in, they start a business flat broke and make half a million dollars within six months. A lot of them do want to marry young, and I can tell you EXACTLY what they want:

- Absolutely no gold diggers. They expect a woman they marry to make good money and have her own goals.

- They approach it like a business partnership and look for who will advance their own goals the most.

- Zero interest in “hot” girls because they don’t want women who are gold diggers or materialistic because it’s a waste of money. They prefer a woman who is a 4-5, rather than a 10 who was fake eyelashes and designer clothes.

- But, they all date the 10 for a year or two before dumping her for a suitable wife.

- A lot of them go to church and marry women from their church.

- Zero time for anything like insecurity. If, say, a woman expresses she feels insecure about her looks, they bail because they don’t want to waste time on that.

It all sounds good in theory, but a lot have unrealistic expectations. Sort of like, they think their wife will be a full time housewife while also helping to run their business and owning a business of her own doing something like raising alpacas for wool.

A lot of them go to church? Gen z generally isn’t churchgoers, especially entrepreneurs.

Do you work in venture capital in Utah?

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Anonymous wrote:College athletes with professional potential are probably the real catch.

What? Why??

I would have to disagree.

Professional sports have lot of money.

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Anonymous wrote:What are all these happy marriages you folks are seeing and wishing for? I literally can't think of a single married couple I know where I think both partners got a good deal.

Interesting. I personally am in a happy marriage and lots of people I know also are. I’m talking about people married 30 years and more, so marriages that have held up for the long haul. I would add that most of my classmates from college are married for many years now, with very few divorces.

Oh I know plenty of "happily" married people. But none of those marriages have TWO people who I, personally, think would make a good partner.

Anonymous wrote:don't go for looks; go for the slightly nerdy guys who will treat you like a queen and who aren't into partying.

My sister's goal was to marry an engineer, which she did at 23.

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Anonymous wrote:What are all these happy marriages you folks are seeing and wishing for? I literally can't think of a single married couple I know where I think both partners got a good deal.

Interesting. I personally am in a happy marriage and lots of people I know also are. I’m talking about people married 30 years and more, so marriages that have held up for the long haul. I would add that most of my classmates from college are married for many years now, with very few divorces.

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