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Anonymous wrote:"What do you do all day?"

At a fancy dinner party at my ILs when MIL stated that I stayed home with my 2 and 4 year olds and had household help. One of the guests asked this, who I had just met.

Tbh, I’d wonder this, too, though I would never say it out loud. But I’m poor by DCUM standards and envious.

I’d wonder this too, but I am not poor and could easily afford to SAH (with a FT nanny). But I find it a pathetic lifestyle, barring an SN child or similar extenuating circumstances.

The irony.

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Anonymous wrote:My son was having a major meltdown on the metro after work one day, and a pregnant woman looked at me and said, “my child will never behave like that.”

It had been a bad day, after a bad week, and I was exhausted.

The exact same thing happened to me. At that point I’ve already decided to drop my filters with perfect strangers. I told her she may yet have a stillborn so let’s not get cocky. She almost sat down. I told her it would teach her to stop saying stupid shit to complete strangers and exited.

That’s hilarious. I appreciate you. People on metro are often intolerant dicks. Even the pregnant ladies. I hope she didn’t swallow too many flies and learned her lesson (though I doubt it).

So you are an actual a hole then. Not only do you let your kid bother other riders on a train but then you hurl deeply offensive insults at the strangers that you were already bothering. What a jerk.

I don’t have filters with strangers either so if the kid is being an out of control monster then I will say so. Don’t like it? Keep your own kids to themselves then.

That is a horrible thing to say to someone. I mean, I'm not against fighting fire with fire but this is just unnecessarily cruel.

People who make mean comments to others shouldn’t be surprised if they get it back.

yeah, people like that count on everyone else being polite. They're just "calling it like it is," but anyone who calls them on it is awful. The actual insults that the PP "hurled" was that the woman was cocky. Which is 100 percent accurate.

+1. Think of all the parents that were spared her mean remarks for the rest of her pregnancy.

You’re delusional. PP is not some kind of superhero and her nasty, childish snapback changed nothing about the other woman’s future behavior, except to laugh with her DH or her friends at happy hour about the delusional loon on the train who told her she might have a miscarriage.

So is that what you did?

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Anonymous wrote:"Why isn't your child dressed more warmly?" Yes, he was underdressed for the chilly day. Yes, I told him to dress more warmly. No, he wasn't cold, because I asked him repeatedly.

And I'm a dad, so it's a mix of condescending criticism like that, because obviously dads are idiots, and the over-the-top compliments for basically just being there, because, Wow! A dad taking care of his kids!

LOL be grateful you've never encountered Russian grandmas. Every time you leave the house with a small child, there's like a platoon of them outside interrogating everyone on where is the baby's hat and socks and scarf why is his neck showing he must be hungry/cold/bothered....all to complete strangers Americans are downright gentle after that treatment to me....

Haha yes many East Asian grandmas are the same.

Some of these comments in the thread are genuinely horrible, but sometimes I think American moms today are just really sensitive. I clearly offended another mom at the playground once with an innocent comment and I was mortified, but if it had been me I wouldn't have taken it personally. (I said something about how the rolling quarantines for siblings in daycare scared me off having a second kid...I meant it in a "props to you for going through this BS! I wouldn't be able to handle it!" supportive way, but I think she took it as superior only-child snottiness.)

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Anonymous wrote:My son was having a major meltdown on the metro after work one day, and a pregnant woman looked at me and said, “my child will never behave like that.”

It had been a bad day, after a bad week, and I was exhausted.

The exact same thing happened to me. At that point I’ve already decided to drop my filters with perfect strangers. I told her she may yet have a stillborn so let’s not get cocky. She almost sat down. I told her it would teach her to stop saying stupid shit to complete strangers and exited.

That’s hilarious. I appreciate you. People on metro are often intolerant dicks. Even the pregnant ladies. I hope she didn’t swallow too many flies and learned her lesson (though I doubt it).

So you are an actual a hole then. Not only do you let your kid bother other riders on a train but then you hurl deeply offensive insults at the strangers that you were already bothering. What a jerk.

I don’t have filters with strangers either so if the kid is being an out of control monster then I will say so. Don’t like it? Keep your own kids to themselves then.

That is a horrible thing to say to someone. I mean, I'm not against fighting fire with fire but this is just unnecessarily cruel.

People who make mean comments to others shouldn’t be surprised if they get it back.

yeah, people like that count on everyone else being polite. They're just "calling it like it is," but anyone who calls them on it is awful. The actual insults that the PP "hurled" was that the woman was cocky. Which is 100 percent accurate.

+1. Think of all the parents that were spared her mean remarks for the rest of her pregnancy.

You’re delusional. PP is not some kind of superhero and her nasty, childish snapback changed nothing about the other woman’s future behavior, except to laugh with her DH or her friends at happy hour about the delusional loon on the train who told her she might have a miscarriage.

+1 🤣

Soon, we will see a WashPo article on this topic…..

Anonymous wrote:A wealthy SAHM friend once said to me "Could you take the summer off one year? I would just love you to experience that with your kids. You know- just be a regular mom." We are in no financial position to do that and it made me feel terrible.

Same friend also said "It makes me so sad for you that you had to have 2 c-sections. Birth was such a defining experience for me. I hate that you were robbed of that. I can't imagine."

This person is NOT your friend.

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Anonymous wrote:My son was having a major meltdown on the metro after work one day, and a pregnant woman looked at me and said, “my child will never behave like that.”

It had been a bad day, after a bad week, and I was exhausted.

The exact same thing happened to me. At that point I’ve already decided to drop my filters with perfect strangers. I told her she may yet have a stillborn so let’s not get cocky. She almost sat down. I told her it would teach her to stop saying stupid shit to complete strangers and exited.

That’s hilarious. I appreciate you. People on metro are often intolerant dicks. Even the pregnant ladies. I hope she didn’t swallow too many flies and learned her lesson (though I doubt it).

So you are an actual a hole then. Not only do you let your kid bother other riders on a train but then you hurl deeply offensive insults at the strangers that you were already bothering. What a jerk.

I don’t have filters with strangers either so if the kid is being an out of control monster then I will say so. Don’t like it? Keep your own kids to themselves then.

That is a horrible thing to say to someone. I mean, I'm not against fighting fire with fire but this is just unnecessarily cruel.

People who make mean comments to others shouldn’t be surprised if they get it back.

yeah, people like that count on everyone else being polite. They're just "calling it like it is," but anyone who calls them on it is awful. The actual insults that the PP "hurled" was that the woman was cocky. Which is 100 percent accurate.

+1. Think of all the parents that were spared her mean remarks for the rest of her pregnancy.

You’re delusional. PP is not some kind of superhero and her nasty, childish snapback changed nothing about the other woman’s future behavior, except to laugh with her DH or her friends at happy hour about the delusional loon on the train who told her she might have a miscarriage.

This is really striking a nerve with you. How many struggling moms have you harassed?

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Anonymous wrote:My son was having a major meltdown on the metro after work one day, and a pregnant woman looked at me and said, “my child will never behave like that.”

It had been a bad day, after a bad week, and I was exhausted.

The exact same thing happened to me. At that point I’ve already decided to drop my filters with perfect strangers. I told her she may yet have a stillborn so let’s not get cocky. She almost sat down. I told her it would teach her to stop saying stupid shit to complete strangers and exited.

You are a terrible person. Try to get some control over your children and strangers won’t feel the need to comment.

Bet that woman learned a lesson that day.

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She “learned” that she encountered an insecure, unstable witch on public transit. The end.

She learned that like begets like. Don’t dish it if you can’t take it.

I shared with another mom (a friend, I thought) that our son had recently been diagnosed with dyslexia.

Her immediate response was "Can't you just take a pill for that?"


I wanted to tell her F-off, but I told her "No. You have to go through tutoring." I don't think she believed me.

She wasn't a mother yet but I occasionally chatted with this woman around my age who lived in the same building I did during my first pregnancy. I ran into her at the mailboxes and she asked me about the pregnancy and I don't remember exactly how it came up but she asked me something about results on a specific screening and I told her and she got very insistent that was very bad news for my baby's health and her friend had the exact same and that baby was born with a genetic disorder that my baby would have too. She hoped not,but she was genuinely concerned you guys 🙄

These days I'd laugh maniacally in her face but at the time? As a first time pregnant person? Already anxious about my baby? Just a really shitty and baseless thing to suggest. I'm comforted by the fact that someone almost certainly did something similar to her if/when she eventually did get pregnant.

It wasn't said to me, but a friend once told me that her sister was faking her PPD "to get attention."

The worst thing another GROUP of mothers ever said to me....

They had an intervention where they all got me in a zoom and told me that I needed to "suck it up" and "learn to cope" as a single mother in a pandemic and to stop advocating for school openings.

Your father gets to skip out on parenting, i should too. They divorced and according to HIS sister and cousin who went to court, he didn’t show up for the custody hearing and refused joint custody. His sister’s husband was the Friend of the Court. Dad went off to live his best life while purporting to support us. His sister and cousins on one side knew better thank God because there was so much gaslighting by him. Meanwhile my mom still waxed poetic about him though he wasn’t around 99% of the time and stood the kids up even day of making plans with us. She would go on and on about what a great dad he was, while endlessly complaining about how did her wrong, didn’t pay bills, etc. Funny thing though. The judge gave her a way to force him to accept custody but mom said it wasn’t a problem because he’d do right by the kids.

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Anonymous wrote:My son was having a major meltdown on the metro after work one day, and a pregnant woman looked at me and said, “my child will never behave like that.”

It had been a bad day, after a bad week, and I was exhausted.

The exact same thing happened to me. At that point I’ve already decided to drop my filters with perfect strangers. I told her she may yet have a stillborn so let’s not get cocky. She almost sat down. I told her it would teach her to stop saying stupid shit to complete strangers and exited.

That’s hilarious. I appreciate you. People on metro are often intolerant dicks. Even the pregnant ladies. I hope she didn’t swallow too many flies and learned her lesson (though I doubt it).

So you are an actual a hole then. Not only do you let your kid bother other riders on a train but then you hurl deeply offensive insults at the strangers that you were already bothering. What a jerk.

I don’t have filters with strangers either so if the kid is being an out of control monster then I will say so. Don’t like it? Keep your own kids to themselves then.

That is a horrible thing to say to someone. I mean, I'm not against fighting fire with fire but this is just unnecessarily cruel.

People who make mean comments to others shouldn’t be surprised if they get it back.

yeah, people like that count on everyone else being polite. They're just "calling it like it is," but anyone who calls them on it is awful. The actual insults that the PP "hurled" was that the woman was cocky. Which is 100 percent accurate.

+1. Think of all the parents that were spared her mean remarks for the rest of her pregnancy.

You’re delusional. PP is not some kind of superhero and her nasty, childish snapback changed nothing about the other woman’s future behavior, except to laugh with her DH or her friends at happy hour about the delusional loon on the train who told her she might have a miscarriage.

Yes, for all you know she's still riding metro scolding tired mothers! /s

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Anonymous wrote:My son was having a major meltdown on the metro after work one day, and a pregnant woman looked at me and said, “my child will never behave like that.”

It had been a bad day, after a bad week, and I was exhausted.

The exact same thing happened to me. At that point I’ve already decided to drop my filters with perfect strangers. I told her she may yet have a stillborn so let’s not get cocky. She almost sat down. I told her it would teach her to stop saying stupid shit to complete strangers and exited.

That’s hilarious. I appreciate you. People on metro are often intolerant dicks. Even the pregnant ladies. I hope she didn’t swallow too many flies and learned her lesson (though I doubt it).

So you are an actual a hole then. Not only do you let your kid bother other riders on a train but then you hurl deeply offensive insults at the strangers that you were already bothering. What a jerk.

I don’t have filters with strangers either so if the kid is being an out of control monster then I will say so. Don’t like it? Keep your own kids to themselves then.

That is a horrible thing to say to someone. I mean, I'm not against fighting fire with fire but this is just unnecessarily cruel.

People who make mean comments to others shouldn’t be surprised if they get it back.

yeah, people like that count on everyone else being polite. They're just "calling it like it is," but anyone who calls them on it is awful. The actual insults that the PP "hurled" was that the woman was cocky. Which is 100 percent accurate.

+1. Think of all the parents that were spared her mean remarks for the rest of her pregnancy.

You’re delusional. PP is not some kind of superhero and her nasty, childish snapback changed nothing about the other woman’s future behavior, except to laugh with her DH or her friends at happy hour about the delusional loon on the train who told her she might have a miscarriage.