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Anonymous wrote:While I have always admired highly athletic kids and wish them the best, I am just so glad that mine never fell into that category. The commitment required for travel sports sounds exhausting, and many of the parents seem insufferable. And for what? The vast majority of the kids end up putting the sport largely behind them, more often than not before college. I just don't get the appeal.

I don’t understand why people care so much about what other kids do. But I’ll bite..our kids enjoyed travel sports because they loved their sport, got frustrated in rec when kids missed games and practice at the drop of a hat, liked the competitive nature and overall higher skill and commitment levels in travel. None of them had any interest or desire to play in college. But they made great friends, stayed fit, and had great time management skills which served them well in high school and college.

Why isn’t the same disdain shown to non athletic extracurriculars? It gets old.

I wouldn't say I have disdain for travel sports or other highly competitive expensive exracurriculars, but I would never let my child do them. Money aside, these activities are intense abd really don't allow kids to be kids and have a childhood. I don't want my child so busy that they do not have time for much else.

So if your kid developed a particular passion that they loved enough to put the time in to improve, be it music or sports or whatever, you'd discourage it?

Possibly, but its not like im putting a blanket ban on all activities or sometjing.. I'm not 100% sure. Do you really let your kids do whatever they wabt? No limitations anywhere? I think travel or high competitive activities are way too expensive and a time suck, not just for me, but for my kids. Like I said, I think for kids 14 and under free time and free play ate very important.

14 is too late to jump on the competitive sports bandwagon. If you wait that long, it's long over.

Then it's over. I'll listen to my kid and discuss things with them, but at the end of the day kids don't get to do everything they want.

Okay... why you are even posting on here then? You're clearly not an athlete yourself, nor will your kid(s) ever have a shot at being a successful athlete, so this board isn't for you. Do you have some kind of inferiority complex over it?

Oh, sweetie, no one has an “inferiority” complex about you. No one. We are totally unimpressed by you and your kids and your insecurity is showing.

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Anonymous wrote:You know, people used to criticize black families for investing time and energy into sports as though it was the ticket to college and financial stability when, of course, only a tiny fraction of even kids playing in competitive basketball leagues or playing football at those schools that get heavily recruited by top college football programs will go on to get a full scholarship, and even fewer will wind up playing professionally. Even among those that play professionally, only a small number will have a career long enough to actually transform their lives. And many, many of the kids in these programs were instead exploited for money and prestige by the adults who run the programs, and many kids dealt with serious injuries that torpedoed their athletic careers and may even have limited non-athletic careers. And white people used to stand around and tut-tut these families.

How is travel soccer or baseball different than that, other than I guess lower concussion risk than football (lower, but not non-existent, by the way)?

I think the difference is that the UMC parents who push their kids into travel soccer aren't expecting their kids to make a living out of it (the reality is, the kids who will end up going pro are in MLS academies, not travel soccer). Rather, they're using it as a line item on a college application, and a way to get an advantage in the university application death match.

MLS Next is absolutely travel soccer.

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Anonymous wrote:I've been through the sports wringer with my kids and as a volunteer. I have never, ever met parents of a kid on a travel team who did not assume that their kid was a potential star. I've never met one.

Also those posts about young kids being frustrated by playing with less talented peers. The parents are the ones who feel that way and teach it to their kids.

This. Like the people on another current thread who have CONVINCED themselves (and tried to convince others) that without spending all weekend every weekend shuttling around to endless sports, their elementary school kid simply won’t be able to get into a good college.

That’s what they *think* they’re doing. The reality is that being the 900th soccer player they see in the admission pool is meaningless.

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Anonymous wrote:While I have always admired highly athletic kids and wish them the best, I am just so glad that mine never fell into that category. The commitment required for travel sports sounds exhausting, and many of the parents seem insufferable. And for what? The vast majority of the kids end up putting the sport largely behind them, more often than not before college. I just don't get the appeal.

I don’t understand why people care so much about what other kids do. But I’ll bite..our kids enjoyed travel sports because they loved their sport, got frustrated in rec when kids missed games and practice at the drop of a hat, liked the competitive nature and overall higher skill and commitment levels in travel. None of them had any interest or desire to play in college. But they made great friends, stayed fit, and had great time management skills which served them well in high school and college.

Why isn’t the same disdain shown to non athletic extracurriculars? It gets old.

I wouldn't say I have disdain for travel sports or other highly competitive expensive exracurriculars, but I would never let my child do them. Money aside, these activities are intense abd really don't allow kids to be kids and have a childhood. I don't want my child so busy that they do not have time for much else.

So if your kid developed a particular passion that they loved enough to put the time in to improve, be it music or sports or whatever, you'd discourage it?

Possibly, but its not like im putting a blanket ban on all activities or sometjing.. I'm not 100% sure. Do you really let your kids do whatever they wabt? No limitations anywhere? I think travel or high competitive activities are way too expensive and a time suck, not just for me, but for my kids. Like I said, I think for kids 14 and under free time and free play ate very important.

14 is too late to jump on the competitive sports bandwagon. If you wait that long, it's long over.

Then it's over. I'll listen to my kid and discuss things with them, but at the end of the day kids don't get to do everything they want.

Okay... why you are even posting on here then? You're clearly not an athlete yourself, nor will your kid(s) ever have a shot at being a successful athlete, so this board isn't for you. Do you have some kind of inferiority complex over it?

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Anonymous wrote:Our kids play travel sports because DH and I both played travel sports then a college sport, so for us it is just a lifestyle that we love and are comfortable with spending our time and money to support. Ironically, our youngest son chose about the only 2 sports that neither of us played growing up (ice hockey and lacrosse), so we're having fun learning along the way, but the level of athleticism and parental commitment required is the same across most sports (though hockey is really expensive). Older kids played travel sports then D1 and D3 athletics (no scholarship for either). Wouldn't change it for the world. We just love sports.

Translation: we like it, so we forced it on our kids.

Yes, this. Because kids can't have a childhood or be functional adults without all of these extras.

Exactly. I love how the poster says her youngest chose a sport "neither of us played growing up." What she really means is: we made clear to the kids that they had to pick at least one sport to participate in and didn't give them a choice in the matter because that's how important we think playing a sport is. Because we all know that that is exactly what happened.

Kids who do sports when they are young learn the value of moving their bodies for the fun of it and it carries over into adulthood. Most people I know who didn't do any sports as kids are frumpy in their middle age. I'm guessing you're one of them. Have fun enjoying the health problems that come with being sedentary. I'm sure you'll lie here and say you exercise every day. I call BS.

Most of the people I know who have played sports are fat and walk with difficult because of old injuries.

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Anonymous wrote:I've been through the sports wringer with my kids and as a volunteer. I have never, ever met parents of a kid on a travel team who did not assume that their kid was a potential star. I've never met one.

Also those posts about young kids being frustrated by playing with less talented peers. The parents are the ones who feel that way and teach it to their kids.

This. Like the people on another current thread who have CONVINCED themselves (and tried to convince others) that without spending all weekend every weekend shuttling around to endless sports, their elementary school kid simply won’t be able to get into a good college.

Anonymous wrote:I've been through the sports wringer with my kids and as a volunteer. I have never, ever met parents of a kid on a travel team who did not assume that their kid was a potential star. I've never met one.

Also those posts about young kids being frustrated by playing with less talented peers. The parents are the ones who feel that way and teach it to their kids.