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Anonymous wrote:A lot of Vietnamese refugees like myself came to the US in the 80's and lived in the ghetto of Seven Corners Virginia. Fast forward to 2022, about 99% of my Justice high school (formerly Stuart) Vietnamese classmates are now living in Great Falls, Langley or Mclean 3M homes. All of them are making at least 500K/yr. All of their offspring are also raking in that same amount, or at least mine does.

YES. Immigrants get the job done! *high five* (south-eastern european here)

DH is an immigrant. All of his cousins born here are in the same category. Went to a HS in NoVa which is scoffed at and now are making serious bank. Immigrants and their kids learn to hustle.

Sometimes the older generation sponges off the younger. I knew someone whose immigrant parents "borrowed" her credit card and charged $15k of stuff to it, and left her with a debt.

Anonymous wrote:I think what the poster who said “settle” may have been trying to say is that women want good honest men, who make $200+, in the same way (some) men want thin, accommodating women who want to watch sports— often one of the factors has to be abandoned and so some women will abandon the finance attribute in the same way some men marry heavy women.

No--Guys with low self-esteem are the MOST vicious, misogynistic scum. If you are nice to a guy who deems himself inferior he thinks "This is someone I can walk on because she's obvious desperate and has low standards." He then kisses butt to the most repulsive women so long as she treats him like dirt. The problem is OP is a genuinely horrible person ON THE INSIDE who looks down upon women who date men for having morals, paternal skills, etc. He NEEDS BADLY for women to be golddiggers in a town full of successful female careerists. His favorite lie is "I'm VIVIDLY aware that once women get to know me I'm too much an @$$h0le to date is 100% of the reaso I'm constantly dumped. However, I'm going to call them golddiggers instead of seeing my own faults because I'm that immoral."

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot of Vietnamese refugees like myself came to the US in the 80's and lived in the ghetto of Seven Corners Virginia. Fast forward to 2022, about 99% of my Justice high school (formerly Stuart) Vietnamese classmates are now living in Great Falls, Langley or Mclean 3M homes. All of them are making at least 500K/yr. All of their offspring are also raking in that same amount, or at least mine does.

YES. Immigrants get the job done! *high five* (south-eastern european here)

DH is an immigrant. All of his cousins born here are in the same category. Went to a HS in NoVa which is scoffed at and now are making serious bank. Immigrants and their kids learn to hustle.

I thought this but it turned out he could not cope here and had very little skills and motivation. It depends on the family. A lot of immigrants are fine staying poor and not doing much to grow themselves. And it was confusing because he owned his own home and had a job. But basically he could never get beyond an entry level position.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot of Vietnamese refugees like myself came to the US in the 80's and lived in the ghetto of Seven Corners Virginia. Fast forward to 2022, about 99% of my Justice high school (formerly Stuart) Vietnamese classmates are now living in Great Falls, Langley or Mclean 3M homes. All of them are making at least 500K/yr. All of their offspring are also raking in that same amount, or at least mine does.

YES. Immigrants get the job done! *high five* (south-eastern european here)

DH is an immigrant. All of his cousins born here are in the same category. Went to a HS in NoVa which is scoffed at and now are making serious bank. Immigrants and their kids learn to hustle.

Anonymous wrote:A lot of Vietnamese refugees like myself came to the US in the 80's and lived in the ghetto of Seven Corners Virginia. Fast forward to 2022, about 99% of my Justice high school (formerly Stuart) Vietnamese classmates are now living in Great Falls, Langley or Mclean 3M homes. All of them are making at least 500K/yr. All of their offspring are also raking in that same amount, or at least mine does.

YES. Immigrants get the job done! *high five* (south-eastern european here)

Anonymous wrote:the term “Washington metropolitan region” includes the District of Columbia, the Counties of Montgomery and Prince Georges in the State of Maryland, the Counties of Arlington and Fairfax and the Cities of Alexandria and Falls Church in the Commonwealth of Virginia.

The Washington MSA includes the core counties, and counties out to Calvert, Frederick, Jefferson, WV, Warren, and Stafford. It doesn't include Baltimore or Howard County.

The federal government's duty station for Washington DC includes a commuting area that goes nearly to Richmond, and up into Pennsylvania.

Anonymous wrote:The problem with this thread is the word “settle”. Some people determine others’ worth by income. Some (like me) don’t. I would feel like I am settling if I married a man who is cold, distant, and doesn’t care for others. I would be settling regardless of his income level. Similarly, I would feel like I won the jackpot by marrying a loving man who contributes positively to our home and to the greater society, regardless of income level.
Give me a good, honest man making $80K over anybody angry, unethical, or cold. (Disclaimer: I am not saying wealth=bad or that people who make more can’t be “good” people. I’m merely saying that a certain combination of factors is more important to me personally than others.)

I think what the poster who said “settle” may have been trying to say is that women want good honest men, who make $200+, in the same way (some) men want thin, accommodating women who want to watch sports— often one of the factors has to be abandoned and so some women will abandon the finance attribute in the same way some men marry heavy women.

The problem with this thread is the word “settle”. Some people determine others’ worth by income. Some (like me) don’t. I would feel like I am settling if I married a man who is cold, distant, and doesn’t care for others. I would be settling regardless of his income level. Similarly, I would feel like I won the jackpot by marrying a loving man who contributes positively to our home and to the greater society, regardless of income level.
Give me a good, honest man making $80K over anybody angry, unethical, or cold. (Disclaimer: I am not saying wealth=bad or that people who make more can’t be “good” people. I’m merely saying that a certain combination of factors is more important to me personally than others.)

A lot of Vietnamese refugees like myself came to the US in the 80's and lived in the ghetto of Seven Corners Virginia. Fast forward to 2022, about 99% of my Justice high school (formerly Stuart) Vietnamese classmates are now living in Great Falls, Langley or Mclean 3M homes. All of them are making at least 500K/yr. All of their offspring are also raking in that same amount, or at least mine does.

I was making very little as a graduate school research assistant and my DH was making even less as a PhD teaching assistant when we married. I had a job offer I was about to start and an inheritance and was able to marry my college sweetheart. We now both make low 6 figures but it took awhile. On one hand, there are times more money would be nice. On the other hand, we still made it work for me to go part-time for awhile (plus two unpaid absences from work when we had kids). We live in a 3 bedroom apartment, drive a 10 year old car, and send kids to public school. But we’ve lived off our salaries / haven’t needed to touch the inheritance.

As long as my partner is hard working, has some sort of steady path, contributing to our family in terms of income and time with kids, housework, etc and doing something they - hopefully - enjoy, I’m fine. I make six figures. Life is full of trade offs. You can marry someone who’s rich but miserable.

OP not every one is attractive enough to have a high earning man as I’m sure you know. And some women don’t care. What’s the point of posting this? It’s all about choices or realizing if you want a high earning man you probably can’t get one, so some women settle. Like I said, some women don’t care and they’re fine making money themselves. Some women you know are higher earners than their husbands and that’s okay.