Anonymous
Post 04/16/2022 18:59     Subject: Is it a status symbol to marry young?
Anonymous wrote:I don’t think marriage limits your life as much as kids do, at least not a good marriage between two compatible friends with reasonable means.

Do avoid kids until you have at least $100k income and a reliable support system. That is either in the form of relatives, a nanny, or a stay at home parent. It’s tough to have kids if you don't have outside help, especially with 2 working parents. It can put lot of strain on your marriage as well.


What should poor people do? Just get jobs as nannies?
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2022 17:37     Subject: Is it a status symbol to marry young?
Anonymous wrote:People with less education tend to marry younger


More education does not always lead to a higher net worth.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2022 17:35     Subject: Is it a status symbol to marry young?
People with less education tend to marry younger
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2022 17:28     Subject: Re:Is it a status symbol to marry young?
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Anonymous wrote:If you're headed to med school at ~22, especially as a woman (because of fertility), you may not have much time to date again for a long time.


Majority of med students marry during med school or during residency.

I recently attended a match day ceremony where students would go on stage and announce where they were headed for residency. Over half of the students had spouses (and a handful even with children!) come on stage with them...


The average med school first-year student is 24, so 24 + 4=28. Not abnormal to be married at 28, especially if you don't have kids immediately.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2022 17:27     Subject: Re:Is it a status symbol to marry young?
Anonymous wrote:Go ahead and marry at 33. You’ll be in IVF in no time.


Doesn’t matter, dcum is overrun with forum of mid 40’s women trying to have babies when they already have children.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2022 17:26     Subject: Is it a status symbol to marry young?
Anonymous wrote:Not reading other replies. Maybe in a rural (think Morgantown west VA or Deep Creek Maryland) or some such place.


It is indeed common to marry young among wealthy deep southerners. By that I mean straight out of college.

Mormons marry in college.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2022 17:23     Subject: Is it a status symbol to marry young?
Not reading other replies. Maybe in a rural (think Morgantown west VA or Deep Creek Maryland) or some such place.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2022 18:21     Subject: Is it a status symbol to marry young?
Anonymous wrote:I don’t think marriage limits your life as much as kids do, at least not a good marriage between two compatible friends with reasonable means.

Do avoid kids until you have at least $100k income and a reliable support system. That is either in the form of relatives, a nanny, or a stay at home parent. It’s tough to have kids if you don't have outside help, especially with 2 working parents. It can put lot of strain on your marriage as well.


Those issue will be there even if you marry at 35 and have kids at 40 and by that time your parents won’t be in physical shape to help out.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2022 17:53     Subject: Is it a status symbol to marry young?
I don’t think marriage limits your life as much as kids do, at least not a good marriage between two compatible friends with reasonable means.

Do avoid kids until you have at least $100k income and a reliable support system. That is either in the form of relatives, a nanny, or a stay at home parent. It’s tough to have kids if you don't have outside help, especially with 2 working parents. It can put lot of strain on your marriage as well.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2022 17:53     Subject: Re:Is it a status symbol to marry young?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you're headed to med school at ~22, especially as a woman (because of fertility), you may not have much time to date again for a long time.


Majority of med students marry during med school or during residency.

I recently attended a match day ceremony where students would go on stage and announce where they were headed for residency. Over half of the students had spouses (and a handful even with children!) come on stage with them...
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2022 17:46     Subject: Is it a status symbol to marry young?
It doesn’t matter if you marry early or late but if you want kids, do freeze your eggs.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2022 17:33     Subject: Re:Is it a status symbol to marry young?
According to Mr. Doolittle in My Fair Lady, it is middle class morality to get married. Lower classes live together.
Anonymous
Post 04/12/2022 21:59     Subject: Re:Is it a status symbol to marry young?
Anonymous wrote:If you're headed to med school at ~22, especially as a woman (because of fertility), you may not have much time to date again for a long time.


Majority of med students marry during med school or during residency.
Anonymous
Post 04/12/2022 21:57     Subject: Is it a status symbol to marry young?
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Anonymous wrote:We are middle class and married young at 24/25. We didn’t have kids until 32/33. It worked for us - we are very established now. Own a $6m home and a vacation home worth $2m. We spent a lot of our 20s travelling and having fun but did it together and also got into the property market early. We aren’t religious but very committed to our families


Good for you. You are not an example for overwhelming majority of people at that age. Don’t promote it like it works.


I’m a DP. Married at 27, spouse was 25. We’ve been married over 25 years. What age do you suggest “works” best?


That’s like saying you had sex in high school and it worked out because you never got pregnant.


FYI, 27 is pretty average for marriage.


Not pretty average, it’s literally the average age of females for marriage in US.
Anonymous
Post 04/12/2022 21:29     Subject: Re:Is it a status symbol to marry young?
Go ahead and marry at 33. You’ll be in IVF in no time.