Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please spare me. It’s very interesting to note how women have fought so hard over the years to become free, liberated and empowered, but yet, still want to absolve men of their duty of care to their wives and children by honoring their vows. They still want women to coddle men and hold them harmless in these situations. It’s still the role of women to help men to control their d*cks.
No, the women who partake in this behavior are not morally upstanding and should not be heralded as martyrs. However, she owes no loyalty or respect to the woman (and kids) who is the victim of her cheating husband’s poor choices. Women, please decide if you truly want to be free, liberated and empowered, or if you still want to coddle men and play the role of apologist and mammy for low-life men.

And if she want to be the side-whore or actually have some self-respect.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please spare me. It’s very interesting to note how women have fought so hard over the years to become free, liberated and empowered, but yet, still want to absolve men of their duty of care to their wives and children by honoring their vows. They still want women to coddle men and hold them harmless in these situations. It’s still the role of women to help men to control their d*cks.
No, the women who partake in this behavior are not morally upstanding and should not be heralded as martyrs. However, she owes no loyalty or respect to the woman (and kids) who is the victim of her cheating husband’s poor choices. Women, please decide if you truly want to be free, liberated and empowered, or if you still want to coddle men and play the role of apologist and mammy for low-life men.

I hold the man in equal contempt. They are both pond scum.

+1
Skeevy relationship between two losers

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I really don’t see how you can make a case that the AP woman (assuming she is not married herself) is as equally at fault as the cheater since she made no vows of fidelity. Fwiw I have no problem with women or men who play the AP role and place 100% of the blame on the individual who broke his/her vows. You can’t force someone to cheat.

THIS^

Anonymous wrote:I really don’t see how you can make a case that the AP woman (assuming she is not married herself) is as equally at fault as the cheater since she made no vows of fidelity. Fwiw I have no problem with women or men who play the AP role and place 100% of the blame on the individual who broke his/her vows. You can’t force someone to cheat.

Anonymous wrote:Because it’s 2022 and we’re done blaming women for the transgressions of men. What an affair partner does is not good, but they’re not the one breaking their vows, taking away their spouses informed consent, and harming their children.

Anonymous wrote:I am a widow who was happily married and I have been floored by the number of married men who show interest….and pursue…..I never realized how many bored, unhappy, unappreciated men there are out there. If I didn’t object morally, it would be EASY.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please spare me. It’s very interesting to note how women have fought so hard over the years to become free, liberated and empowered, but yet, still want to absolve men of their duty of care to their wives and children by honoring their vows. They still want women to coddle men and hold them harmless in these situations. It’s still the role of women to help men to control their d*cks.
No, the women who partake in this behavior are not morally upstanding and should not be heralded as martyrs. However, she owes no loyalty or respect to the woman (and kids) who is the victim of her cheating husband’s poor choices. Women, please decide if you truly want to be free, liberated and empowered, or if you still want to coddle men and play the role of apologist and mammy for low-life men.

I hold the man in equal contempt. They are both pond scum.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please spare me. It’s very interesting to note how women have fought so hard over the years to become free, liberated and empowered, but yet, still want to absolve men of their duty of care to their wives and children by honoring their vows. They still want women to coddle men and hold them harmless in these situations. It’s still the role of women to help men to control their d*cks.
No, the women who partake in this behavior are not morally upstanding and should not be heralded as martyrs. However, she owes no loyalty or respect to the woman (and kids) who is the victim of her cheating husband’s poor choices. Women, please decide if you truly want to be free, liberated and empowered, or if you still want to coddle men and play the role of apologist and mammy for low-life men.

I hold the man in equal contempt. They are both pond scum.

Anonymous wrote:Please spare me. It’s very interesting to note how women have fought so hard over the years to become free, liberated and empowered, but yet, still want to absolve men of their duty of care to their wives and children by honoring their vows. They still want women to coddle men and hold them harmless in these situations. It’s still the role of women to help men to control their d*cks.
No, the women who partake in this behavior are not morally upstanding and should not be heralded as martyrs. However, she owes no loyalty or respect to the woman (and kids) who is the victim of her cheating husband’s poor choices. Women, please decide if you truly want to be free, liberated and empowered, or if you still want to coddle men and play the role of apologist and mammy for low-life men.

Anonymous wrote:Please spare me. It’s very interesting to note how women have fought so hard over the years to become free, liberated and empowered, but yet, still want to absolve men of their duty of care to their wives and children by honoring their vows. They still want women to coddle men and hold them harmless in these situations. It’s still the role of women to help men to control their d*cks.
No, the women who partake in this behavior are not morally upstanding and should not be heralded as martyrs. However, she owes no loyalty or respect to the woman (and kids) who is the victim of her cheating husband’s poor choices. Women, please decide if you truly want to be free, liberated and empowered, or if you still want to coddle men and play the role of apologist and mammy for low-life men.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a widow who was happily married and I have been floored by the number of married men who show interest….and pursue…..I never realized how many bored, unhappy, unappreciated men there are out there. If I didn’t object morally, it would be EASY.

+1. Married men are the worst; a very aggressive bunch who show blatant disregard for their wives/marriages. It is very appalling and rampant. I had no clue it was like this until I got divorced, but I am of the opinion that the married men are the aggressors, and wives are none the wiser.

--Signed, single and reporting from the field

I believe you, but there are divorced women who are the aggressors, too. They effed up their lives, and have no qualms trying to eff up someone else's life. Not saying this is you. The moms in my circle tend to know who is on the prowl. It's gross and obvious.

Anonymous wrote:Please spare me. It’s very interesting to note how women have fought so hard over the years to become free, liberated and empowered, but yet, still want to absolve men of their duty of care to their wives and children by honoring their vows. They still want women to coddle men and hold them harmless in these situations. It’s still the role of women to help men to control their d*cks.
No, the women who partake in this behavior are not morally upstanding and should not be heralded as martyrs. However, she owes no loyalty or respect to the woman (and kids) who is the victim of her cheating husband’s poor choices. Women, please decide if you truly want to be free, liberated and empowered, or if you still want to coddle men and play the role of apologist and mammy for low-life men.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On a different note, why do married men profess that they are happily married but cheat? I don’t think you can be happily married and do and say nasty things behind your wife’s back but I hear it all the time. Memo to yourself if you are a cheater - you are not happily married just fyi

They are not a good/happy person but their marriage is good/their wife is good.

Stop hoping their marriage is bad and they are leaving her for you.

Not hoping their marriage is bad but think its better to say nothing at all the profess how great it is. Obviously it isn't that great. I suppose people tell themselves the things they want to hear.

It’s often situational. In my cheating years, midlife, I was struggling inside. I had death of a college friend and a parent. I had a lot of unresolved stuff..and I went out and cheated. Zero to do with my wife or kids.

I hit the lottery with my wife, in-laws and kids. I truly did. I would tell you and told my AP then that my marriage was great. I needed to deal with my demons.

That’s in the past and I do have a marriage and partnership and kids that are incredible. I’m very happy.

It wasn’t “me” when I went through that phase if that makes sense. I was not a good person then and what I was doing did not make me happy. It made things worse.

Most cheating men straight out lie to their AP about their marriage - and try to tell the AP that it is (negative this or that). AP's are too stupid to know the truth.