I can’t drink alcoholic beverages. They make my heart race and make me bloated. It is what it is. I have. i thing against those who want to reasonably enjoy such things, and I’m kind of jealous in a way.

I wish more bars served decent coffee. I don't drink and the only reason I go to a bar is when meeting friends, usually to see live music. I wish I could order a decent cup of coffee or even, should I dare to dream, a cappuccino.

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That we're normal?

No one in my circle drinks regularly. My American and European friends open a bottle of wine for Holidays with guests, but usually not for regular dinner parties. I also had Muslim friends who never drank, ever, and we're Asians who can't tolerate a lot of alcohol, so the rare times we drink alcohol we don't finish our glass.

That’s pretty weird, sorry.

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Anonymous wrote:Would you still want to go out or be friends with them?

I didn't read all 12 pages so maybe OP explained themselves already, but the implication of this question is really weird. OP are you suggesting you don't want to go out or be friends with non-drinkers?

OP said that they were disinvited from a work happy hour because they don't drink.

Oh, that's legitimately ridiculous.

Wait I went back and found OP's explanation. Someone told her not to attend a HH because "she would negatively change the vibe." I bet that's not actually about not drinking. I would guess her coworkers just don't like her or there was some specific conflict between her and another person attending.

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Anonymous wrote:Would you still want to go out or be friends with them?

I didn't read all 12 pages so maybe OP explained themselves already, but the implication of this question is really weird. OP are you suggesting you don't want to go out or be friends with non-drinkers?

OP said that they were disinvited from a work happy hour because they don't drink.

Oh, that's legitimately ridiculous.

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Anonymous wrote:Would you still want to go out or be friends with them?

I didn't read all 12 pages so maybe OP explained themselves already, but the implication of this question is really weird. OP are you suggesting you don't want to go out or be friends with non-drinkers?

OP said that they were disinvited from a work happy hour because they don't drink.

Anonymous wrote:Would you still want to go out or be friends with them?

I didn't read all 12 pages so maybe OP explained themselves already, but the implication of this question is really weird. OP are you suggesting you don't want to go out or be friends with non-drinkers?

That we're normal?

No one in my circle drinks regularly. My American and European friends open a bottle of wine for Holidays with guests, but usually not for regular dinner parties. I also had Muslim friends who never drank, ever, and we're Asians who can't tolerate a lot of alcohol, so the rare times we drink alcohol we don't finish our glass.

My honest opinion is those that don't drink alcohol are the only normal ones.

Anonymous wrote:Would you still want to go out or be friends with them?

I would think:

- moral majority / Jerry Falwell tee-totaler type people.

No way! Cool people drink.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t care. And it’s certainly the smarter and healthier choice.
It can feel a bit odd in some situations though, like the time I went to Chicago with a friend and night after night she sat in jazz clubs with me drinking water. I left massive tips every night to make up for the fact that she wasn’t purchasing anything. It was a bit strange. If I was out with a group I probably wouldn’t even notice.

I’m a non drinker and always order nice mocktails if they are offered, but unfortunately many bars and restaurants aren’t smart enough to do this...

Such a weird question OP. I do not drink coffee or alcohol because I hate the taste. Why would you care? It reminds me of what moms used to ask... if everyone jumped off the bridge, would you"?

Try to live and let live and not be so " judgey".Be a leader-- not a follower. Stop caring what others think.

It's interesting. I'm six months sober and a former "wine" mom. I just saw how drinking was crosses this line and basically keeping me from being my best version of me by numbing things. Life is brighter and I mean that in both the good way and not great way. Things are so vivid, it feels almost painful but I'd rather live in that pain to experience the joy I get from being more present as a mother, as a lover, as a friend, and daughter/sister, and even as an employee.

I am in AA and find it to be very helpful. I don't talk about it, though. It was just this slow realization during the pandemic my drinking was problematic and causing more pain than it helped obscure.

I don't know if this makes sense. But well, in the midst of all of these thoughts, I guess I'll find room for judgment? Nope.

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Anonymous wrote:I truly envy nondrinkers and especially teetotallers. I wish I didn’t love to drink as much as I do.

This right here. Oh, you can be in social situations without a buzz? Tell me your secrets!

Develop a tolerance for being a bit vulnerable in social settings. Tell that joke, even if not everybody is going to laugh at it.

Well yeah, no duh. If we were capable of doing that without the alcohol, we wouldn't need the alcohol in the first place, would we?

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Anonymous wrote:I truly envy nondrinkers and especially teetotallers. I wish I didn’t love to drink as much as I do.

This right here. Oh, you can be in social situations without a buzz? Tell me your secrets!

Develop a tolerance for being a bit vulnerable in social settings. Tell that joke, even if not everybody is going to laugh at it.