Anonymous wrote:My 11-year-old son vomited on my mother-in-law's lap during dessert -- just completely, unexpectedly projectile vomited. Needless to say, dinner ended promptly.

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Anonymous wrote:I realized that my brother and SIL cut me off from seeing their social media. Everyone kept asking about their vacation and other things that they had posted pics of on Instagram but I had not seen any posts or stories. I said I must have missed seeing the pics and a younger cousin said that stories disappear after 24 hours. I already knew this and saw my brother looking very uncomfortable. I asked my husband privately if he had seen anything from them recently and he had not. I don’t know why they would hide their pictures from us, but it was very hurtful to realize that is what they did.

It's pretty clear there must be a reason. Are you judgmental in some way or making negative comments? They are traveling and you are not, could it be because you have different ideas about what's safe or not? This can't be a giant mystery.

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Anonymous wrote:I realized that my brother and SIL cut me off from seeing their social media. Everyone kept asking about their vacation and other things that they had posted pics of on Instagram but I had not seen any posts or stories. I said I must have missed seeing the pics and a younger cousin said that stories disappear after 24 hours. I already knew this and saw my brother looking very uncomfortable. I asked my husband privately if he had seen anything from them recently and he had not. I don’t know why they would hide their pictures from us, but it was very hurtful to realize that is what they did.

Are you—or they—anti-vaxxer, Fox News types, etc.?

Anonymous wrote:I realized that my brother and SIL cut me off from seeing their social media. Everyone kept asking about their vacation and other things that they had posted pics of on Instagram but I had not seen any posts or stories. I said I must have missed seeing the pics and a younger cousin said that stories disappear after 24 hours. I already knew this and saw my brother looking very uncomfortable. I asked my husband privately if he had seen anything from them recently and he had not. I don’t know why they would hide their pictures from us, but it was very hurtful to realize that is what they did.

Anonymous wrote:I realized that my brother and SIL cut me off from seeing their social media. Everyone kept asking about their vacation and other things that they had posted pics of on Instagram but I had not seen any posts or stories. I said I must have missed seeing the pics and a younger cousin said that stories disappear after 24 hours. I already knew this and saw my brother looking very uncomfortable. I asked my husband privately if he had seen anything from them recently and he had not. I don’t know why they would hide their pictures from us, but it was very hurtful to realize that is what they did.

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Anonymous wrote:Just…being at my ILs. Loud-ass clocks everywhere. FIL was put out because he had to stop the cuckoo clocks, because they keep DH and I up and they wake our kids. He resets them every morning and pouts when we ask him to turn them off at night. Like, maybe just turn them off when we arrive and turn them back on when we leave. It’s not like you don’t also have a wristwatch, digital clocks on the TV display, oven, microwave, etc., not to mention your phone.

I’m sorry you’re dealing with this, truly, but I have to say I kinda love it. So charming in a Christmas Vacation kind of way.

I wouldn’t mind if he just set them and turned them off. It’s the burdened sighs and commentary. Like, no one likes your cuckoo clocks at night, you have like 12 of them, this happens every damn visit, it’s time to GET OVER IT.

Anonymous wrote:I want to show my kid the Charlie Brown Thanksgiving movie but it only aired for one night on PBS for free and WETA didn’t air it (nor did they air the Charlie Brown Halloween like the
Other PBS stations). So now I have to sign up for another DUMB streaming service - Apple TV - to watch the blasted program and then remember to cancel it because paying for cable, Amazon, Hulu, HBO, and Disney Plus doesn’t get you the only stupid thing you want to watch!

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Anonymous wrote:Interfaith family; we’re Jewish, in-laws are Protestant. Young adult nephew told me a Holocaust joke, didn’t understand why I didn’t see it as funny. BIL and SIL just sat there, then SIL finally told him to apologize for hurting my feelings. None of them seemed to get that it’s not my personal feelings that make this wrong.

I’m a POC and had to explain to my white in laws why brands like Aunt Jemima and Uncle Bens are problematic. It ended up being quite a heated discussion with them saying things like “but I see those people as POSITIVE characters”. SMH

I had to look it up why they are problematic. To me Aunt Jemima was no different different than the myriad of Italian Mama’s on pasta sauce brands.

Anonymous wrote:We helped our host in the kitchen and noticed one ingredient in a dish looked spoiled. They insisted it wasn’t. We both have upset stomachs today.

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Anonymous wrote:Interfaith family; we’re Jewish, in-laws are Protestant. Young adult nephew told me a Holocaust joke, didn’t understand why I didn’t see it as funny. BIL and SIL just sat there, then SIL finally told him to apologize for hurting my feelings. None of them seemed to get that it’s not my personal feelings that make this wrong.

I’m a POC and had to explain to my white in laws why brands like Aunt Jemima and Uncle Bens are problematic. It ended up being quite a heated discussion with them saying things like “but I see those people as POSITIVE characters”. SMH

I had to look it up why they are problematic. To me Aunt Jemima was no different different than the myriad of Italian Mama’s on pasta sauce brands.

…Psst, hey dummy, the Italian “mama” stereotype is pretty insulting, too.

-White woman

It’s insulting to ignorant white progressives living in a bubble.

This “dummy” is married into an Italian family. Being a fantastic cook is a great source of pride. Everyone has a Nona, mama, papa, zio who is a great cook, some of the recipes are legendary.

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Anonymous wrote:Interfaith family; we’re Jewish, in-laws are Protestant. Young adult nephew told me a Holocaust joke, didn’t understand why I didn’t see it as funny. BIL and SIL just sat there, then SIL finally told him to apologize for hurting my feelings. None of them seemed to get that it’s not my personal feelings that make this wrong.

I’m a POC and had to explain to my white in laws why brands like Aunt Jemima and Uncle Bens are problematic. It ended up being quite a heated discussion with them saying things like “but I see those people as POSITIVE characters”. SMH

I had to look it up why they are problematic. To me Aunt Jemima was no different different than the myriad of Italian Mama’s on pasta sauce brands.

I am white and I didn’t try to understand, I just added it to the list of hot topics to avoid in any conversation. Why would people even discuss sauce brands?!

How do you get through life with such lack of curiosity or interest in understanding.

I am not going to argue with the POC pp because I understand why it’s offensive to her. Just letting her know that for many people the stereotype she thinks is being perpetuated does not even register.