Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Slowest breakup rollout EVER.

https://people.com/jennifer-lopez-ben-affleck-remain-friendly-see-each-other-every-few-days-amid-marital-strain-exclusive-8661477

“They’re still friendly and see each other every few days,” the source close to Lopez says.

Every few days?

Why can’t they live separate lives but together in that huge compound? People do that in regular sized homes

Yup i know from experience! When I was younger my ex and I decided to finish out our lease for our bedroom apartment. I could go a good week without seeing him because of our schedules.

If they're still "friendly" and only working through issues then he wouldn't be renting a q 100k house. She's been traveling non stop anyway.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did they announce divorce ?

Two year contract. They got married July 16th. They'll announce in five weeks.

Contract? This isn’t pro sports.

Why would anyone jointly buy a 60m house cash then sell it after just a year? Their house search was longer than their actual stay

Call it what you want, but a prenup is in fact a legal contract.

Essentially , she’s a careerist at heart when it comes to her relationships . Who she’s with directly related to where she was at or trying to be career wise.

Not sure if it’s a bad thing but I don’t ever see that changing. Every relationship will be a commodity to Jen. This time, it just happened to work against her with Ben.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:LOL, so a high IQ doesn’t prevent being an alcoholic man-child who can’t keep his shit together. Sounds great.

Intellectual capacities and emotional capacities are two separate developmental tracks. Healthy people don't have huge gaps in the two but lots of people do have some gaps. And the high intellect actually makes for a mind that can defend with more complex, elaborate defenses that actually may not serve a person. Lots of disturbed "geniuses" out there as we all know. She certainly is slow to learn and or take counsel. That's her grandiosity and omnipotence in play. She's got a web of magical thinking in that mind that reminds me of what you see in scientologists. (Not surprised her father was one, because she resembles the character one sees there). Lots of omnipotent belief in her powers, operates like there are no limits in life, believes in herself as the controller (of herself and other people) and demanding and oppositional when challenged. Hugely entitled. I've said it before and I'll say it again: She's a female Tom Cruise. He's superficially more charming, and friendlier to the general public. Her facade has had more frequent cracks. But a similar psychology.

I think she’s smarter than Tom. At least her relationships are all advantageous.

Ojani Noa was born in Cuba and spoke Spanish. At the time, she wanted to win the role of a lifetime Selena but she didn’t know any Spanish. Marrying Ojani (even though he was a waiter) helped her (probably in her mind) prepare for that role.

Then, she wanted a music career. She knew she couldn’t sing but she could dance and since she is from the Bronx so she needed a hip hop makeover Ala In Living Color. Who better for that than Diddy? He branded her J Lo and helped her get her clothing and perfume lines together and she admitted he gave her great advice about doing all the genres together (Pop, Latin, dance R&B/hip hop). Her first album On the 6 is still regarded as her best one by fans. Waiting for Tonight, Let’s get Loud, and If you had my Love were number 1 songs establishing her as a debut pop star at the rare age of 30.

Then, she wanted to erase the scandal of the arrest so she chose nice boy Cris to marry and distract the press .

Then, she wanted to marry Ben to cement her Hwood romance delusions and power couple fantasy .

After Hwood chewed and spit her out bashing Gigli and cut her scenes out from the movie Jersey Girl, she thought she was getting blacklisted so she ran away from Hwood and into Latin music star Marc Anthony’s arms to try to reinvent once again .

I see the vision with all her relationships so I don’t think she’s stupid.

But she is very rash when it comes to jumping into new relationships and marriages . I think she’s too enamored with the role of J Lo and keeping up appearances that even this movie and album about Ben seems like she’s trying to play a role rather than actually live her life as a married woman as Jane Fonda said.

Anonymous wrote:Slowest breakup rollout EVER.

https://people.com/jennifer-lopez-ben-affleck-remain-friendly-see-each-other-every-few-days-amid-marital-strain-exclusive-8661477

“They’re still friendly and see each other every few days,” the source close to Lopez says.

Every few days?

Why can’t they live separate lives but together in that huge compound? People do that in regular sized homes

Anonymous wrote:I think she announced the A Rod breakup on a late Friday in the summer.

She tends to slowly announce all her breakups . She was clearly over with Marc early 2011. He rolled his eyes at her while presenting at the Grammys that year and that’s when separation rumors began. They didn’t officially split till summer 2001.

With A Rod, they were over after the Southern Charm reality contestant exposed her correspondence from Arod but they didn’t officially announce till a few months later.

Similar late announcements occurred with her first engagement to Ben and marriage to Cris Judd. She married him in a super lavish wedding in late Sept 2011 (which many fans derided as she’s a native NY’er and this was 2 weeks after 9/11) and by the time she met Ben on the set of Gigli in Dec 2001, it was already over. She didn’t even spend New Years with Cris. Lol. She is such a mess.

The over the top wedding /marriage to Cris was all a way to clean up / distract the press with a shiny new object and erase her past from her previous relationship with P. Diddy. The Grammy dress and the Cris Judd wedding were all ways to repair her image but poor Cris Judd was genuinely in love with her and was heartbroken he was dumped for Ben. Ben made passes to a married woman and she quickly separated and paid Cris to go away quietly.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did they announce divorce ?

Two year contract. They got married July 16th. They'll announce in five weeks.

+1

There was no contract. They lasted two years the first time and two years the second time because that was the expiration date for the sex haze. Very strong physical attraction but not enough substance to build a foundation that could last.

+1

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did they announce divorce ?

Two year contract. They got married July 16th. They'll announce in five weeks.

+1

There was no contract. They lasted two years the first time and two years the second time because that was the expiration date for the sex haze. Very strong physical attraction but not enough substance to build a foundation that could last.

I think she announced the A Rod breakup on a late Friday in the summer.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did they announce divorce ?

Two year contract. They got married July 16th. They'll announce in five weeks.

+1

Anonymous wrote:Another article from the Nypost.

https://nypost.com/2003/09/12/seconds-after-ben-affleck-made-the-decision-to-postpone-his-wedding-to-jennifer-lopez-she-rushed-to-see-her-spiritual-godmother/amp/


It seems this spiritual godmother she had was right all along.

Seconds after Ben Affleck made the decision to postpone his wedding to Jennifer Lopez, she rushed to see her spiritual godmother, Mele Gonzalez – who told her that Affleck’s decision was correct.

“Mele told Jennifer from the beginning that her relationship with Ben was not going to be easy, nor was it going to be right,” a pal of Lopez’s said.


Gonzalez has such a hold over Lopez that when the Santeria adviser told Lopez that the release dates for “Gigli,” her first big-screen outing with Ben, were bad choices – spiritually speaking – Lopez lobbied to have Revolution Studios and Columbia change the days. But it was too late.


“Revolution did try to change the opening date of ‘Gigli’ but they couldn’t,” the pal noted.

“The decision to marry Ben was the only thing Jennifer did that Mele told her not to.”


I can see Ben mortified by such superstitious passions. It’s obvious Jennifer Hasn’t changed as even her movie with Fonda had some sort of zodiac love council as in astrology /sun signs preordaining romantic/love ties .

I am sure this is absurd to Ben and alcoholism and gambling is absurd to Jennifer

Thanks for finding these old articles. They're repeating the exact same cycle.

Anonymous wrote:LOL, so a high IQ doesn’t prevent being an alcoholic man-child who can’t keep his shit together. Sounds great.

Intellectual capacities and emotional capacities are two separate developmental tracks. Healthy people don't have huge gaps in the two but lots of people do have some gaps. And the high intellect actually makes for a mind that can defend with more complex, elaborate defenses that actually may not serve a person. Lots of disturbed "geniuses" out there as we all know. She certainly is slow to learn and or take counsel. That's her grandiosity and omnipotence in play. She's got a web of magical thinking in that mind that reminds me of what you see in scientologists. (Not surprised her father was one, because she resembles the character one sees there). Lots of omnipotent belief in her powers, operates like there are no limits in life, believes in herself as the controller (of herself and other people) and demanding and oppositional when challenged. Hugely entitled. I've said it before and I'll say it again: She's a female Tom Cruise. He's superficially more charming, and friendlier to the general public. Her facade has had more frequent cracks. But a similar psychology.

Another article from the Nypost.

https://nypost.com/2003/09/12/seconds-after-ben-affleck-made-the-decision-to-postpone-his-wedding-to-jennifer-lopez-she-rushed-to-see-her-spiritual-godmother/amp/


It seems this spiritual godmother she had was right all along.

Seconds after Ben Affleck made the decision to postpone his wedding to Jennifer Lopez, she rushed to see her spiritual godmother, Mele Gonzalez – who told her that Affleck’s decision was correct.

“Mele told Jennifer from the beginning that her relationship with Ben was not going to be easy, nor was it going to be right,” a pal of Lopez’s said.


Gonzalez has such a hold over Lopez that when the Santeria adviser told Lopez that the release dates for “Gigli,” her first big-screen outing with Ben, were bad choices – spiritually speaking – Lopez lobbied to have Revolution Studios and Columbia change the days. But it was too late.


“Revolution did try to change the opening date of ‘Gigli’ but they couldn’t,” the pal noted.

“The decision to marry Ben was the only thing Jennifer did that Mele told her not to.”


I can see Ben mortified by such superstitious passions. It’s obvious Jennifer Hasn’t changed as even her movie with Fonda had some sort of zodiac love council as in astrology /sun signs preordaining romantic/love ties .

I am sure this is absurd to Ben and alcoholism and gambling is absurd to Jennifer

They are both so impulsive. Apparently, they bought property together back then too.

In 2003, Ben and Jen purchased an estate in Savannah , GA

Found this article referencing the psychic . It’s from Entertainment Weekly, Sept 18, 2003


https://ew.com/article/2003/09/18/has-ben-returned-jen/

It seems even back then, they slowly announced the breakup. It was obvious things were over in Sept with the called off wedding but it wasn’t announced till early 2004.