Anonymous wrote:Well-off men aren't looking for career women. They don't care about your money, or your job. They have their own money, they don't need yours. They're looking for a woman who represents them well among their peers. She is polite, well-spoken, friendly, cooperate, nice, attractive. She lets her husband be the leader, in public and at home. This man doesn't want to come home to another competitor, he slays those all day long at work. You are there at home to make his life calm and peaceful, away from his work.

He wants the woman willing to give up her career to raise his children, who he does not want going to daycare. You are in charge of raising his legacy. His kids do not go to daycare all day, full stop.

This is who a rich guy is looking for in a wife. He has a lot of options, women falling over themselves for him. If you can handle all of this, you have to figure out how to make it happen. What are you willing to give up to get this man?

Op here. This is exactly what I want.

Sorry, I am taken.

Anonymous wrote:I'll tell you what I did.

I found a guy, mid-thirties, making around 150k but ambitious and upwardly mobile. He had the vibe of a guy who could end up making a lot of money so I got him to fall in love with me.

Now he's making much more than that and is poised to make several million on a business deal in the not so far off future. I stay home and watch our kids but I'll work again eventually when they're all in school. Or I'll just volunteer at their school.

I think I helped push him toward his current earnings in several ways. I encouraged him to have financial goals and sort of "dream big", if you will. I always helped him sell himself when he was job hunting and I supported him when he made several moves that were risky.

So keep an open mind and an open heart. With the right encouragement and support (and luck!) people can really bolster their earnings in a relatively short period of time.

I love a heartwarming love story told DCUM style. Just color us a bunch of hopeless romantics.

Well-off men aren't looking for career women. They don't care about your money, or your job. They have their own money, they don't need yours. They're looking for a woman who represents them well among their peers. She is polite, well-spoken, friendly, cooperate, nice, attractive. She lets her husband be the leader, in public and at home. This man doesn't want to come home to another competitor, he slays those all day long at work. You are there at home to make his life calm and peaceful, away from his work.

He wants the woman willing to give up her career to raise his children, who he does not want going to daycare. You are in charge of raising his legacy. His kids do not go to daycare all day, full stop.

This is who a rich guy is looking for in a wife. He has a lot of options, women falling over themselves for him. If you can handle all of this, you have to figure out how to make it happen. What are you willing to give up to get this man?

I'll tell you what I did.

I found a guy, mid-thirties, making around 150k but ambitious and upwardly mobile. He had the vibe of a guy who could end up making a lot of money so I got him to fall in love with me.

Now he's making much more than that and is poised to make several million on a business deal in the not so far off future. I stay home and watch our kids but I'll work again eventually when they're all in school. Or I'll just volunteer at their school.

I think I helped push him toward his current earnings in several ways. I encouraged him to have financial goals and sort of "dream big", if you will. I always helped him sell himself when he was job hunting and I supported him when he made several moves that were risky.

So keep an open mind and an open heart. With the right encouragement and support (and luck!) people can really bolster their earnings in a relatively short period of time.

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Anonymous wrote:We stay to our own, meaning we feel comfortable with others like us, and we tend to date friends of our friends or people in the same circles. I met my husband at a DAR function my family chaired. I was introduced properly and found he had friends in my circles. We understand each other. Fore example, do you know how to run a household? Manage the staff? Get your children into the right preschool and school? Do you know where to find a driver, chef, the perfect summer camp in upstate NY for the kids? Keeping a house pretty and looking pretty is not enough. Are you cultured? Do you have knowledge of living overseas? A global entry card? You must at least have two leisure homes, because what will you do if he wants to weekend with you? You definitely are not going to stay in and get takeout. Stick to your own and be happy.

You are spending your time posting on DCUM. You are not especially cultured, and you definitely ain’t special.

Lol. Weekend as a verb! You're killing me!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is easy. All you need to do is follow a few simple steps:

1) Never, under any circumstance, should you kiss on the lips. It is too intimate.
2) Get yourself a new wardrobe. Include a variety of frocks that can be worn to events such as high-class dinners and polo matches (don't forget sensible shoes for divot stomping).
3) Learn how to properly knot a men's necktie.
4) Find a well-educated, jovial concierge to teach you the proper order of using silver in fine dining situations.

Please report back.

You've been watching too much tv. No one in our extended family plays polo, lol. She can go on Youtube for the dinner and tie stuff.

Oh, PP! “No one in our extended family plays polo, lol.” - Not quite the burn you thought it would be! The poster was obviously making a Pretty Woman joke (kudos to that PP). You really thought she was advising someone to find a jovial concierge? 🙄

I mean the real problem is that if the jovial concierge is Hector Elizondo, she might just fall in love with that silver fox and consign herself to working class life! Richard Gere is an obvious catch but has clear mental health concerns he has only just begun to address. High reward but also high risk! The concierge is stable and funny and obviously quite good at his job.

Consider it, OP.

Don’t join a country club, though I don’t think you could afford one anyway. Plus you need to know at least one member to “recommend” you to the club. It is mostly all families. It won’t give you a good ROI.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is easy. All you need to do is follow a few simple steps:

1) Never, under any circumstance, should you kiss on the lips. It is too intimate.
2) Get yourself a new wardrobe. Include a variety of frocks that can be worn to events such as high-class dinners and polo matches (don't forget sensible shoes for divot stomping).
3) Learn how to properly knot a men's necktie.
4) Find a well-educated, jovial concierge to teach you the proper order of using silver in fine dining situations.

Please report back.

You've been watching too much tv. No one in our extended family plays polo, lol. She can go on Youtube for the dinner and tie stuff.

Oh, PP! “No one in our extended family plays polo, lol.” - Not quite the burn you thought it would be! The poster was obviously making a Pretty Woman joke (kudos to that PP). You really thought she was advising someone to find a jovial concierge? 🙄

What is your cup size?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Move to a nicer area. Learn to play golf, and join upper scale clubs. Make sure your English and speaking skills are excellent. Also, make new friends that can put you into contact with eligible men.
Definitely dress for taste. Don't buy many designer brands because that equals tacky. You could also join a singles professional dating club.

If you are far right or left in your politics I would move to the middle, and give a middle of the road vibe. You want to be stable to attract stable.

And above all be hot.

No. That can actually be a minus. Yes she should keep her down down and keep fit, but don't strive to be "hot".
Guys want real women versus a hot one for the long term.

down should be weight.

Anonymous wrote:Move to a nicer area. Learn to play golf, and join upper scale clubs. Make sure your English and speaking skills are excellent. Also, make new friends that can put you into contact with eligible men.
Definitely dress for taste. Don't buy many designer brands because that equals tacky. You could also join a singles professional dating club.

If you are far right or left in your politics I would move to the middle, and give a middle of the road vibe. You want to be stable to attract stable.

+1

It really boils down to one sentence above- make new friends who can put you in touch with eligible men. It’s really all about your social circles. I met my wonderful and wealthy Harvard husband through a set-up from a friend of a friend at age 33 when I was making an effort to broaden my social group.

I’m not sure if you’ve mentioned your social life details as much, OP, but I think everyone saying that ‘it’s too late’ and you should’ve found him in college are just getting at this whole social circle concept. It’s about who you spend time with, and it obviously can be much harder to make good friends post-college.

Don’t just sit around or get a drink with your nonprofit coworkers. And I’d focus not just on dating, but on making new female friendships. Join DAR or the U Club and hit up some happy hours and events. Meet eligible, high value women, not just men, since you never know who will have rich single brothers or coworkers or recently divorced old college friends. When I lived in Boston there were tons of young professionals groups for cultural orgs like the opera and museums full of really engaged people with great jobs. The Kennedy Center or National Gallery must have something along those lines.

Don’t move to the suburbs. You’ll feel more isolated and down on yourself surrounded by (seemingly) happy families. Plus, you couldn’t afford the really nice neighborhoods on your own.

Anonymous wrote:This is easy. All you need to do is follow a few simple steps:

1) Never, under any circumstance, should you kiss on the lips. It is too intimate.
2) Get yourself a new wardrobe. Include a variety of frocks that can be worn to events such as high-class dinners and polo matches (don't forget sensible shoes for divot stomping).
3) Learn how to properly knot a men's necktie.
4) Find a well-educated, jovial concierge to teach you the proper order of using silver in fine dining situations.

Please report back.

You've been watching too much tv. No one in our extended family plays polo, lol. She can go on Youtube for the dinner and tie stuff.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Move to a nicer area. Learn to play golf, and join upper scale clubs. Make sure your English and speaking skills are excellent. Also, make new friends that can put you into contact with eligible men.
Definitely dress for taste. Don't buy many designer brands because that equals tacky. You could also join a singles professional dating club.

If you are far right or left in your politics I would move to the middle, and give a middle of the road vibe. You want to be stable to attract stable.

And above all be hot.

No. That can actually be a minus. Yes she should keep her down down and keep fit, but don't strive to be "hot".
Guys want real women versus a hot one for the long term.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you need to reframe this conversation and look for an ambitious guy who works hard and is good with money. And based on conversations with well-off guys in my life, one element they take into consideration when looking at a life partner is the amount of debt they would inherit through marriage. If at all possible, I'd work to clean that up so that you can be proud of it when entering a relationship.

This. PP is dropping truth bombs and solid advice.

That's another good point. Making sure she is responsible. Also, don't tell them OP about all the artsy guys you wasted time with!