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Anonymous wrote:I am sorry, but a newborn baby and a toddler when you're not doing anything else is just not that hard. It just is not. I realty don't care if you wildly disagree, for most people, it is not a big deal.

How obtuse. I don’t think staying calm when you’re surrounded by screaming children is hard. My husband doesn’t think doing complicated things in excel is hard. Some people don’t think differential calculus or writing a thesis is hard. Just because something isn’t hard for you doesn’t mean its not hard for everybody. You can’t just disagree that something is hard for somebody else.

And for the vast majority of people, caring for a 3-year old and a newborn for a weekend when you’re alone is hard. For me it would be massively difficult because my 3-year old was inconsolably jealous when I had my second.

If it isn’t for you, that’s fine, but learn to accept the fact that everybody is different.

No.

I would say for the vast majority of people caring for an infant and 3 yo is NOT hard but who cares if it’s hard for OP. If she can’t care for her own child for 3 days alone she just needs to communicate that to her H and that’s the situation he is living with.

This. It’s only hard because we act like omg! Jealous toddlers! Not sleeping 8 hours straight! Mommy life amiright! But no. It’s not that hard.

Not everyone has your low standards or is a martyr like you. Must suck to have such a crappy partner but then you’re too dumb to even realize that.

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Anonymous wrote:I am sorry, but a newborn baby and a toddler when you're not doing anything else is just not that hard. It just is not. I realty don't care if you wildly disagree, for most people, it is not a big deal.

How obtuse. I don’t think staying calm when you’re surrounded by screaming children is hard. My husband doesn’t think doing complicated things in excel is hard. Some people don’t think differential calculus or writing a thesis is hard. Just because something isn’t hard for you doesn’t mean its not hard for everybody. You can’t just disagree that something is hard for somebody else.

And for the vast majority of people, caring for a 3-year old and a newborn for a weekend when you’re alone is hard. For me it would be massively difficult because my 3-year old was inconsolably jealous when I had my second.

If it isn’t for you, that’s fine, but learn to accept the fact that everybody is different.

No.

I would say for the vast majority of people caring for an infant and 3 yo is NOT hard but who cares if it’s hard for OP. If she can’t care for her own child for 3 days alone she just needs to communicate that to her H and that’s the situation he is living with.

This. It’s only hard because we act like omg! Jealous toddlers! Not sleeping 8 hours straight! Mommy life amiright! But no. It’s not that hard.

Wow. I think you guys aren’t expecting enough of life if you don’t think of being sleep deprived for months on end while also attending to the needs of a toddler isn’t hard. Do you know about the research on the impact of sleep deprivation on our ability to function, and on our emotional health? (And, less important because it’s only three days but still important, the research on helping older siblings who feel threatened by a newborn?) Raising kids, raising them well anyway, takes a lot of effort even when you’re not sleep deprived. Of course you can do it alone, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t difficult. The motivational phrase is “we can do hard things” not “life isn’t hard, stop complaining.”

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Anonymous wrote:I am sorry, but a newborn baby and a toddler when you're not doing anything else is just not that hard. It just is not. I realty don't care if you wildly disagree, for most people, it is not a big deal.

How obtuse. I don’t think staying calm when you’re surrounded by screaming children is hard. My husband doesn’t think doing complicated things in excel is hard. Some people don’t think differential calculus or writing a thesis is hard. Just because something isn’t hard for you doesn’t mean its not hard for everybody. You can’t just disagree that something is hard for somebody else.

And for the vast majority of people, caring for a 3-year old and a newborn for a weekend when you’re alone is hard. For me it would be massively difficult because my 3-year old was inconsolably jealous when I had my second.

If it isn’t for you, that’s fine, but learn to accept the fact that everybody is different.

No.

I would say for the vast majority of people caring for an infant and 3 yo is NOT hard but who cares if it’s hard for OP. If she can’t care for her own child for 3 days alone she just needs to communicate that to her H and that’s the situation he is living with.

This. It’s only hard because we act like omg! Jealous toddlers! Not sleeping 8 hours straight! Mommy life amiright! But no. It’s not that hard.

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Anonymous wrote:I am sorry, but a newborn baby and a toddler when you're not doing anything else is just not that hard. It just is not. I realty don't care if you wildly disagree, for most people, it is not a big deal.

How obtuse. I don’t think staying calm when you’re surrounded by screaming children is hard. My husband doesn’t think doing complicated things in excel is hard. Some people don’t think differential calculus or writing a thesis is hard. Just because something isn’t hard for you doesn’t mean its not hard for everybody. You can’t just disagree that something is hard for somebody else.

And for the vast majority of people, caring for a 3-year old and a newborn for a weekend when you’re alone is hard. For me it would be massively difficult because my 3-year old was inconsolably jealous when I had my second.

If it isn’t for you, that’s fine, but learn to accept the fact that everybody is different.

No.

I would say for the vast majority of people caring for an infant and 3 yo is NOT hard but who cares if it’s hard for OP. If she can’t care for her own child for 3 days alone she just needs to communicate that to her H and that’s the situation he is living with.

This. It’s only hard because we act like omg! Jealous toddlers! Not sleeping 8 hours straight! Mommy life amiright! But no. It’s not that hard.

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Anonymous wrote:I am sorry, but a newborn baby and a toddler when you're not doing anything else is just not that hard. It just is not. I realty don't care if you wildly disagree, for most people, it is not a big deal.

How obtuse. I don’t think staying calm when you’re surrounded by screaming children is hard. My husband doesn’t think doing complicated things in excel is hard. Some people don’t think differential calculus or writing a thesis is hard. Just because something isn’t hard for you doesn’t mean its not hard for everybody. You can’t just disagree that something is hard for somebody else.

And for the vast majority of people, caring for a 3-year old and a newborn for a weekend when you’re alone is hard. For me it would be massively difficult because my 3-year old was inconsolably jealous when I had my second.

If it isn’t for you, that’s fine, but learn to accept the fact that everybody is different.

No.

I would say for the vast majority of people caring for an infant and 3 yo is NOT hard but who cares if it’s hard for OP. If she can’t care for her own child for 3 days alone she just needs to communicate that to her H and that’s the situation he is living with.

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Anonymous wrote:I am sorry, but a newborn baby and a toddler when you're not doing anything else is just not that hard. It just is not. I realty don't care if you wildly disagree, for most people, it is not a big deal.

How obtuse. I don’t think staying calm when you’re surrounded by screaming children is hard. My husband doesn’t think doing complicated things in excel is hard. Some people don’t think differential calculus or writing a thesis is hard. Just because something isn’t hard for you doesn’t mean its not hard for everybody. You can’t just disagree that something is hard for somebody else.

And for the vast majority of people, caring for a 3-year old and a newborn for a weekend when you’re alone is hard. For me it would be massively difficult because my 3-year old was inconsolably jealous when I had my second.

If it isn’t for you, that’s fine, but learn to accept the fact that everybody is different.

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Anonymous wrote:I am sorry, but a newborn baby and a toddler when you're not doing anything else is just not that hard. It just is not. I realty don't care if you wildly disagree, for most people, it is not a big deal.

And it’s actually a nice time to get a few days alone with the kids.

Can also get some alone time with kids if he goes out and golfs or goes to a football game with friends during the day and comes home and gives the toddler a bath and puts them to bed while you’re taking care of the baby

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, still following. I think he really is just clueless. I nursed our first all of maternity leave (wouldn’t take a bottle until starting daycare) so he has no idea. I’m leaning toward suggesting his friends do a night at the MGM instead. I don’t see why he needs to fly out to Vegas again when he was just there, but I don’t care if he wants to go out for a night to the casino.

Sounds like he is clueless, and your offer of a local casino sounds kind and generous. I hope he takes you up on it, and you guys can move past this. Good luck, OP.

Anonymous wrote:I am sorry, but a newborn baby and a toddler when you're not doing anything else is just not that hard. It just is not. I realty don't care if you wildly disagree, for most people, it is not a big deal.

Anonymous wrote:OP here, still following. I think he really is just clueless. I nursed our first all of maternity leave (wouldn’t take a bottle until starting daycare) so he has no idea. I’m leaning toward suggesting his friends do a night at the MGM instead. I don’t see why he needs to fly out to Vegas again when he was just there, but I don’t care if he wants to go out for a night to the casino.

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Anonymous wrote:Just had baby #2 and DH and I are at home on parental leave with a 3.5 year old and a 4-week old. A couple of DH’s friends are going to Vegas for a weekend in a month and he wants to join them. I said no and that it seems pretty selfish and now he is acting cold. Seriously, what gives? Should he be able to go to Vegas and stick me with a newborn who is nursing around the clock and a 3 year old? I don’t understand why he would even ask. I doubt he’d want me to go for a weekend with friends and leave him with a new baby and a preschooler…
Has anyone else ran in to this? Am I the jerk for not letting him go blow a bunch of $$ in Vegas with his buddies while we are on leave?

He really doesn't need permission. He can do whatever he wants. It may not be convenient for you, and you don't have to like it, but that's life.
It's nice he gave you a heads up.

Oh, okay. Then OP should give her DH a heads up that she's going to spend her maternity leave taking a few classes at the local community college. It's what she wants and that's life. Her DH will just need to arrange his life so that he can be with their two children during her classes because she can do whatever she wants. It's nice she gave him a heads up instead of just assuming he'd be home to provide 100% of the childcare during that time, actually.

Why wouldn’t she take a class?

Both my BFF and I got our masters when are kids were young since we were home anyway. You can read while the baby is nursing and the kids are napping. You are kind of stuck in the house for hours.

My class was 2 nights a week and hers was Saturday morning for 4 hours.

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Anonymous wrote:I am sorry, but a newborn baby and a toddler when you're not doing anything else is just not that hard. It just is not. I realty don't care if you wildly disagree, for most people, it is not a big deal.

And it’s actually a nice time to get a few days alone with the kids.

Anonymous wrote:I am sorry, but a newborn baby and a toddler when you're not doing anything else is just not that hard. It just is not. I realty don't care if you wildly disagree, for most people, it is not a big deal.