Anonymous
Post 07/06/2021 14:13     Subject: shared family beach house - issue with damaged item
My siblings and I share a family beach house and it sure can create headaches. It sounds like you have more people coming into and out of the house than we do - we just have the 3 families - but especially for that reason, I would never leave stuff at the house that was off-limits for others who use it. I don't see how you would function if you had to request permission to use the toaster or a volleyball net or some other object in the house.

If I broke something that one of my relatives bought, I'd pay for it. OTOH I know that if I went after one of my siblings to pay to replace some inanimate object at the house, it would cause a blow-up that wouldn't be worth the trouble.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2021 14:08     Subject: shared family beach house - issue with damaged item
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:I wonder if it ever crossed OP's mind that they had no idea it was such a valuable item and truly cannot afford the full replacement cost.


^^ I mean who would ever envision something as simple as a boogie board could cost that much? I wouldn't.




Good question.




I guarantee you this 100% never crossed OP's mind.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2021 14:08     Subject: Re:shared family beach house - issue with damaged item
Anonymous wrote:They couldn’t have possibly guessed that the boogie board was THAT expensive. So when it broke, I’m sure they had every intention of replacing it. But after finding out it costs a ridiculous amount of money, they offered to pay half. Don’t make them pay $275 for an accident, it will sow resentment. It’s really not worth it- just take the half and be grateful they offered at all.


I don’t know how much a nice bike costs these days so I take yours for a spin without asking permission and end up totalling it. My bad. So you tell me how much it costs and I had NO idea, so will you please accept half and be grateful?
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2021 14:05     Subject: shared family beach house - issue with damaged item
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wonder if it ever crossed OP's mind that they had no idea it was such a valuable item and truly cannot afford the full replacement cost.


^^ I mean who would ever envision something as simple as a boogie board could cost that much? I wouldn't.




Good question.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2021 14:04     Subject: Re:shared family beach house - issue with damaged item
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:I will note that we only buy $15 boogie boards which we leave at the beach house WE ACTUALLY OWN. No one needs a $275 boogie board.


No one needs a beach house either.


You both are missing the point. If this was a mountain vacation home and it was $300 snowboard involved, the cousin should still not have borrowed it and absolutely paid for its replacement. The cousin is in the wrong here.


Second PP. Totally agree. But it's a little hypocritical of a beach house owner criticizing someone for splurging on a $275 boogie board, no?


True, good point.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2021 14:03     Subject: Re:shared family beach house - issue with damaged item
They couldn’t have possibly guessed that the boogie board was THAT expensive. So when it broke, I’m sure they had every intention of replacing it. But after finding out it costs a ridiculous amount of money, they offered to pay half. Don’t make them pay $275 for an accident, it will sow resentment. It’s really not worth it- just take the half and be grateful they offered at all.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2021 14:01     Subject: shared family beach house - issue with damaged item
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wonder if it ever crossed OP's mind that they had no idea it was such a valuable item and truly cannot afford the full replacement cost.


^^ I mean who would ever envision something as simple as a boogie board could cost that much? I wouldn't.



True. But you know who can afford a $275 board? Someone who doesn't have to pay for beach house use.


So many envious posters...
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2021 14:00     Subject: shared family beach house - issue with damaged item
Anonymous wrote:Team OP. The DH and the cousin have equal right to the house. DH’s father is a co-owner. The cousin had a nerve offering to pay 50%. He should replace what broke as a result of him healing himself when he shouldn’t have. According to the social norms of the house, he should have asked first. I OP’s husband could have asked him to replace it and that would have cost the full amount. Aunt needs to butt out.


+1
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2021 14:00     Subject: shared family beach house - issue with damaged item
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:#firstworldproblems


We live in a first world country. So what is the issue?

We can't complain because we arent in Sierra Leone?


Okay, fine, I’ll change it to #richpeopleproblems. It’s akin to “omg I haven’t slept for DAYS because I’m up all night stressing over whether or not I picked the right tile for my backyard pool.” Sorry, I don’t feel sorry for you.

OP can afford a $275 boogie board. The “good ones” are $40-50 and you can get them as cheap is $5. Does a $275 boogie board operate that much differently than a $50 board? Doubtful.

Op has access to a FREE beach house for family vacations.
Op didn’t want to put forth the effort of bringing said expensive boogie board home or storing it in her house all year. Does it suck that it got broken? Sure. But this whole post reeks of privilege and entitlement.


Just because something is free doesn't mean all manners and rules go out the window. The cousin and guests also got a free week, that doesn't mean they can trash the place and break things that aren't theirs.


I’m sure they didn’t break it on purpose! If I visited a beach house and my kid accidentally broke a boogie board I would be happy to buy a new one….a $50 one to replace it. $275 is absurd—and apparently not that great of a board if it breaks that easily.


If you can't afford the cost to replace something your kid is playing with, he shouldn't be playing with it. You are like that woman who lost Carrie's shoes in SATC.


Do you think anyone in that house actually expected the board to cost that much? Do you think the kid or cousin was thinking “oh heeeeyyllll yeah ima gonna ride this sweet sweet $300 boogie board and hope I don’t break it!”

No, they thought it was a $20 board like the rest of us get


"We" get the styrofoam kind. This HAS to be made of surf board material, don't you think? And the cousin said he wanted to see "how it rode." Cousin knew it wasn't your run-of-the-mill boogie board. That was the entire reason he took it out to begin with.

Normally I would agree, don't leave crap behind. But a boogie board at a beach house makes sense. And, if there's an actual designated area of "don't touch unless yours" that all families agree to, this never should have happened. Cousin is totally wrong here.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2021 14:00     Subject: shared family beach house - issue with damaged item
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Cousins and parents of the brat who broke it should split the full replacement cost.


Agreed. Why is this kid/parents absolved entirely in the discussion? The kid jumped on it. Didn't even "use as intended." Jumped on it, broke it, and the parents should contribute.


You don’t let a kid jump on a boogie board that isn’t his/hers to break. Period.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2021 13:59     Subject: shared family beach house - issue with damaged item
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wonder if it ever crossed OP's mind that they had no idea it was such a valuable item and truly cannot afford the full replacement cost.


^^ I mean who would ever envision something as simple as a boogie board could cost that much? I wouldn't.



True. But you know who can afford a $275 board? Someone who doesn't have to pay for beach house use.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2021 13:58     Subject: shared family beach house - issue with damaged item
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have a feeling that this shared time at the beach is going to come to an end. Way to ruin it OP.


+1 it’s not going to last once the first sibling passed away. If op likes going to the house she best hope the first to die isn’t her fil.


Sounds like cousin and aunt are the ones ruining the harmony.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2021 13:57     Subject: shared family beach house - issue with damaged item
Anonymous wrote:Cousins and parents of the brat who broke it should split the full replacement cost.


Agreed. Why is this kid/parents absolved entirely in the discussion? The kid jumped on it. Didn't even "use as intended." Jumped on it, broke it, and the parents should contribute.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2021 13:56     Subject: shared family beach house - issue with damaged item
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:#firstworldproblems


We live in a first world country. So what is the issue?

We can't complain because we arent in Sierra Leone?


Okay, fine, I’ll change it to #richpeopleproblems. It’s akin to “omg I haven’t slept for DAYS because I’m up all night stressing over whether or not I picked the right tile for my backyard pool.” Sorry, I don’t feel sorry for you.

OP can afford a $275 boogie board. The “good ones” are $40-50 and you can get them as cheap is $5. Does a $275 boogie board operate that much differently than a $50 board? Doubtful.

Op has access to a FREE beach house for family vacations.
Op didn’t want to put forth the effort of bringing said expensive boogie board home or storing it in her house all year. Does it suck that it got broken? Sure. But this whole post reeks of privilege and entitlement.


Just because something is free doesn't mean all manners and rules go out the window. The cousin and guests also got a free week, that doesn't mean they can trash the place and break things that aren't theirs.


I’m sure they didn’t break it on purpose! If I visited a beach house and my kid accidentally broke a boogie board I would be happy to buy a new one….a $50 one to replace it. $275 is absurd—and apparently not that great of a board if it breaks that easily.


If you can't afford the cost to replace something your kid is playing with, he shouldn't be playing with it. You are like that woman who lost Carrie's shoes in SATC.


Do you think anyone in that house actually expected the board to cost that much? Do you think the kid or cousin was thinking “oh heeeeyyllll yeah ima gonna ride this sweet sweet $300 boogie board and hope I don’t break it!”

No, they thought it was a $20 board like the rest of us get
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2021 13:56     Subject: shared family beach house - issue with damaged item
Anonymous wrote:For the people googling the 275 boogie board, I found them!!
https://hubboards.com/collections/boards

For the record, I think the cousin shouldn’t have touched or taken the board but also, who the heck buys a boogie board for 275 dollars?


Are you a serious boarder or surfer? No? Then you know nothing.