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Anonymous wrote:What job does he have that he cannot have a Nanny in his home?

He should not force you to quite if you do not need to, Either find a share in someone elses home, or do daycare.

OP here. My husband works for the federal government and is on the phone all day talking about very top every information. He does not feel comfortable having someone in the home who could possibly overhead certain things. He’s not a spy or anything, but he manages a handful of programs for the government.

That's really irrational. Your husband wants you to quit your job because he can't figure out how to have a confidential conversation at home? Come on.

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Anonymous wrote:Keep trying for a nanny share--I bet there's a family out there who either has a big enough house for the kids not to be a disruption to the day, or who prefer not to pack up the kids and get them out of the house. I'm a nanny and there's one day a week where I bring the kids to my place which is a fun diversion from the same ol' same ol'. I've done shares full time at my place in the past because both moms were post part and the dads worked from home. If you really want a nanny share, I promise there's a way to make it work. Every pot has a lid.

OP here. I don’t really like the idea of a nanny share. Dropping my child off at a strangers home doesn’t make me feel right. Working with strangers to come up with logistics such as hours, pay, vacation, etc. Trying to find a family who follows similar parental philosophies, etc., can be tough. I’d rather my child be in daycare with lots of hands and cameras I can see. I had full access to cameras and an app at the old daycare.

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Anonymous wrote:Why does he not want to do daycare? Because of covid?

I don't see why you wouldn't just keep doing what you're doing then put the kids in daycare in say, May, when things are a bit better covid wise.

OP here. He doesn’t want our child in daycare because of Covid. We had in daycare in daycare before the pandemic.

Goodness gracious. He has too many excuses. Important confidential convos? Why can't he be in the basement or behind closed doors talking more quietly? He wants to talk loud? He just doesn't want the hassle of dealing with/sharing space with the nanny and hearing an infant crying several times a day. He wants the peace and quiet of his office. Tell him to mask on and go into the office.

Re: daycare covid excuse. Does he have data to back up his fear something will happen to your child? The fear of the child catching covid at daycare is based out of fear, not hard proof. Daycares HAVE BEEN OPEN for months locally and nationwide with hardly any problems reported. Think about the hundreds of thousands of kids in daycare nationwide. Mine is in one with over 100 kids, no problems.

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Anonymous wrote:Has your husband cheated on you before w/the Nanny?

Because I simply cannot think of any job that would prohibit your husband from employing a Nanny.....

OP here. No. We have never had a nanny. My husband has never cheated on me. He works for the feds and doesn’t want a nanny in our home since he is on calls all day discussing things that most can’t know.

Are you authorized to listen to his classified calls OP? Do you have the security clearance? If not, it is no better than if a basic background checked nanny hears

This makes absolutely no sense.

Yes, it does. If OP’s DH is really having confidential conversations at home she would not be able to hear them either. There is no spousal exception with government security. But OP is lying about her husband’s job so it really doesn’t matter.

No job like that would even allow him to do that work at home so the entire thing makes no sense.

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Anonymous wrote:Has your husband cheated on you before w/the Nanny?

Because I simply cannot think of any job that would prohibit your husband from employing a Nanny.....

OP here. No. We have never had a nanny. My husband has never cheated on me. He works for the feds and doesn’t want a nanny in our home since he is on calls all day discussing things that most can’t know.

Are you authorized to listen to his classified calls OP? Do you have the security clearance? If not, it is no better than if a basic background checked nanny hears

This makes absolutely no sense.

Yes, it does. If OP’s DH is really having confidential conversations at home she would not be able to hear them either. There is no spousal exception with government security. But OP is lying about her husband’s job so it really doesn’t matter.

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Anonymous wrote:Has your husband cheated on you before w/the Nanny?

Because I simply cannot think of any job that would prohibit your husband from employing a Nanny.....

OP here. No. We have never had a nanny. My husband has never cheated on me. He works for the feds and doesn’t want a nanny in our home since he is on calls all day discussing things that most can’t know.

Are you authorized to listen to his classified calls OP? Do you have the security clearance? If not, it is no better than if a basic background checked nanny hears

This makes absolutely no sense.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has your husband cheated on you before w/the Nanny?

Because I simply cannot think of any job that would prohibit your husband from employing a Nanny.....

OP here. No. We have never had a nanny. My husband has never cheated on me. He works for the feds and doesn’t want a nanny in our home since he is on calls all day discussing things that most can’t know.

Are you authorized to listen to his classified calls OP? Do you have the security clearance? If not, it is no better than if a basic background checked nanny hears