*to live a life I don't want...

Anonymous wrote:“Progress”

Thank goodness I'm not expected life that I don't want like my grandmothers were. Progress to me means you can live happily in your 5, 4, and a door; and I can live happily in my apartment. If you snipe at my choice it probably means you're not as happy as you think you are.

It's interesting how the only people slinging insults on this thread are those who are offended by the thought of a single woman. Hm.

I showed the magazine to my family. Comments were as follows:

DS#1 (grad student): "She's on a Zoom date. Why is that so controversial?"

DS#2 (college student): "She has cats -- I think the dog/cat thing is always controversial. Personally, I would never date a woman with cats."

DD (college student): "She looks like your basic college student or grad student, like someone who'd be my friend, but not my roommate -- her apartment looks like DS#1's room."

DH: "She's living her pandemic life. Oh, and she hasn't shaved her legs."

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let me clear this up. Pile of books on her left, silhouette of a man on screen...BUT, the dead giveaway is the size of her hoop earrings (age 25). The medical gloves on floor hints that she may be in the medical field. The disarray is funny, but not unmanageable. Couple of prescription bottles may indicate a chronic illness; immuno issue, migraines, anxiety, whatever. Two cats doesn't mean a thing, yet it's purposely done to create maniacal speculation that her life is somehow less gratifying than yours.

Grad student on a zoom date.

She’s a woman of color. Hoop earrings are not a hard marker for age. I’m Afro-Latina and late 40s. I will be buried in my hoops.

I love you.

Amen! There are a lot of assumptions being made

Anonymous wrote:I like that she's clearly not shaving her legs as often. That part is accurate.

They’re likely sores and scabs from anxious skin picking.

Anonymous wrote:“Progress”

What? I’m mid 40s white woman and I wear gold hoops. I am kind of fashiony but I literally had not idea these were not for my age group. I also have very long hair which I’m sure the pearl clutchers would balk at.

Anonymous wrote:Surrounded by garbage and cats, living a lonely, solitary life. To me, it’s a statement on modern social media culture, and having to put on a facade for the camera, while your life crumbles around you. The happiness is false, and fleeting. Once the camera shuts off, the smile fades with it. This young lady is a cautionary tale, and I pity her, and anyone who glorifies this empty lifestyle.

I lived this lifestyle from my early 30s until my early 30s, minus the garbage (usually), and let me tell you, my happiness was just as real as it is now, as a mother and a wife. Living life on my own terms, everything my way all the time, lots of free time for fun and friends and anything else? Yes, just terrible.

“Progress”

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let me clear this up. Pile of books on her left, silhouette of a man on screen...BUT, the dead giveaway is the size of her hoop earrings (age 25). The medical gloves on floor hints that she may be in the medical field. The disarray is funny, but not unmanageable. Couple of prescription bottles may indicate a chronic illness; immuno issue, migraines, anxiety, whatever. Two cats doesn't mean a thing, yet it's purposely done to create maniacal speculation that her life is somehow less gratifying than yours.

Grad student on a zoom date.

She’s a woman of color. Hoop earrings are not a hard marker for age. I’m Afro-Latina and late 40s. I will be buried in my hoops.

I’m white and I have the same hoops. Why are you so focused on her race/ethnicity? It’s not really the point.

The PP claimed the hoops set the woman’s age at 25. Makes sense if the woman was not black or Latina. Hoops are trendy for young white women. Not the norm for white and Asian women over 30. You are clearly super-edgy and a fashion icon.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let me clear this up. Pile of books on her left, silhouette of a man on screen...BUT, the dead giveaway is the size of her hoop earrings (age 25). The medical gloves on floor hints that she may be in the medical field. The disarray is funny, but not unmanageable. Couple of prescription bottles may indicate a chronic illness; immuno issue, migraines, anxiety, whatever. Two cats doesn't mean a thing, yet it's purposely done to create maniacal speculation that her life is somehow less gratifying than yours.

Grad student on a zoom date.

She’s a woman of color. Hoop earrings are not a hard marker for age. I’m Afro-Latina and late 40s. I will be buried in my hoops.

I love you.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let me clear this up. Pile of books on her left, silhouette of a man on screen...BUT, the dead giveaway is the size of her hoop earrings (age 25). The medical gloves on floor hints that she may be in the medical field. The disarray is funny, but not unmanageable. Couple of prescription bottles may indicate a chronic illness; immuno issue, migraines, anxiety, whatever. Two cats doesn't mean a thing, yet it's purposely done to create maniacal speculation that her life is somehow less gratifying than yours.

Grad student on a zoom date.

She’s a woman of color. Hoop earrings are not a hard marker for age. I’m Afro-Latina and late 40s. I will be buried in my hoops.

Got you, mija.

Ha love this exchange pp's. I'm poster above. It isn't a marker of race, only age. I guess I stand corrected on hoop size. If I could figure out how to post a gif, I'd sent some funny ones that I sent to my best friend who indulged on hoops (diamond). I tortured her with memes and gifs. She's very young 50 and white.

I mentioned gloves not masks bc that (to me) hints of medical profession, plus the pile of books. Most of us are wearing masks. Few of us are wearing medical gloves.

Anyway, be safe out there.

You too, babe. Also, check out this week's Shouts and Murmurs and the article from last week's New Yorker about environmental racism in Alabama and Mississippi. Both make for excellent reading.

Thanks! Will read tonight.

This is why I don’t eat food other people made.

Anonymous wrote:Hope she will not refuse the mask on the floor. Something tells me she will run out in a hurry and wear it again after being on the floor.

FYI-- At this point, I believe most are reusing dirty masks. Even the disposable kind. Also, of course the woman in the picture is reusing the masks from the floor. What does the picture tell you to the contrary?

The constantly nitpicking of women's choices is so boorish and stale.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let me clear this up. Pile of books on her left, silhouette of a man on screen...BUT, the dead giveaway is the size of her hoop earrings (age 25). The medical gloves on floor hints that she may be in the medical field. The disarray is funny, but not unmanageable. Couple of prescription bottles may indicate a chronic illness; immuno issue, migraines, anxiety, whatever. Two cats doesn't mean a thing, yet it's purposely done to create maniacal speculation that her life is somehow less gratifying than yours.

Grad student on a zoom date.

She’s a woman of color. Hoop earrings are not a hard marker for age. I’m Afro-Latina and late 40s. I will be buried in my hoops.

Got you, mija.

Ha love this exchange pp's. I'm poster above. It isn't a marker of race, only age. I guess I stand corrected on hoop size. If I could figure out how to post a gif, I'd sent some funny ones that I sent to my best friend who indulged on hoops (diamond). I tortured her with memes and gifs. She's very young 50 and white.

I mentioned gloves not masks bc that (to me) hints of medical profession, plus the pile of books. Most of us are wearing masks. Few of us are wearing medical gloves.

Anyway, be safe out there.

You too, babe. Also, check out this week's Shouts and Murmurs and the article from last week's New Yorker about environmental racism in Alabama and Mississippi. Both make for excellent reading.