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Anonymous wrote:It's how God made me. But really I am petite with small boned. I don't have a huge appetite so I can eat what I want because I don't want much. 5 2 about 104. No boobs though.

So if it how God made you... how come you don't eat like a sumo wrestler and are still your size? Is it cause GOD had nothing to do with it? I mean you don't eat much, plain wrote it too!

DP - she said she has a small appetite. God made her appetite. That’s why she’s skinny. It’s not that complicated; some people are naturally in tune with their hunger cues. By the way, ALL babies are naturally “thin”, in the sense that their appetites are perfectly calibrated. They eat when they are hungry and stop when they are full, and don’t become overweight until an adult teaches them to ignore those cues and overeat.

Really? So no personal agency? No will of your own? So even not having an adult to overrides her hunger regulation was a gift from God? Or maybe....just maybe.... she knows when to put the fork down and has agency over her own choices and GOD had nothing to do with that either?

The poster said she eats what she wants because she doesn’t want much. That is by definition not discipline, it is following the natural appetite that governs your eating behavior. This is why comparing the experience of obese people with the naturally thin is analogous to comparing the occasional drinker with alcoholics; one requires zero discipline to stop drinking, the other experiences incredible urges to continue drinking.

Hmm this is a great point. I can easily stop after one or two drinks or not drink at all.

My alcoholic friends and family are unable to do that - hence why they can’t drink at all.

It would be more interesting to assess how healthy skinny people who eat junk food are on the inside.

Fat doesn't exclusively build around the abdomen. It also builds around the organs, which you obviously can't see.

Looks can be deceiving.

I think it is not eating. I'm not a skinny minnie, if I told you my height and weight you'd tell me I was fat. But I wear a size 4-6, so I'm small/average. I can be a size 2-4 if I choose not to eat. It is simply that. I have to Not.Eat.

I exercise regularly. I'm fit, so not jiggly.

To the previous poster, 5'7" is not "relatively" slim. It is slim.

A lot of it is genetics. I did not get perfect genes, so instead I work very, very hard to stay (relatively) slim. I am 5'7", 120lb. It requires a lot of exercise and self-control. I also fast one day a week.

I think the PPs who talk about skinny people craving less food are right. I was super skinny in my 20s - 5’3” and 102lb with DD size chest so clinically underweight. I just didn’t want to eat and would sometimes forget to eat and feel faint; my friends knew to ask me if I had something to eat that day if I wasn’t feeling well.

Then I got married to a man who was a foodie and had kids and was on a schedule and would eat to keep them company. I put on a lot of weight (I went up to 175) and developed a big appetite. When the kids got bigger I decided to lose it all and went on a very strict 1200 calorie diet and exercise regimen. I went do to 120 which is what I am now in my mid-40s which is not skinny Minnie but good enough for me. The thing I remember is how I craved both sugar and big quantities of food when I first started dieting - I went from a woman who literally forgot to eat to someone who could eat a restaurant meal at a sitting. And once I lost even 20lb, I not only lost carb cravings but the amounts of food I wanted were significantly less. In fact, about midway into the weight loss, I found myself not hungry on a 1200 calorie diet which would have been unimaginable for 170lb me. And now at 120lb I haven’t gone to my forget meals days but I not only eat about 1400 calories a day, that is actually all I want. I sometimes crave the kind of food I don’t allow myself much of (I still limit carbs) but I never feel hungry per se. A smaller body requires less food to keep going and honestly, you get used to it.

My family is divided pretty evenly into overweight and not people - the only difference is that the latter watch what they eat constantly and the rest do not. Unless you are a very lucky person whose metabolism is still amazing once you hit middle age, that’s what you have to do - find a means to lose withdrawals if you need to and then stick to a regimen that makes sure it doesn’t go up again. There aren’t really any long term magic tricks, alas.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a good friend. We lived together. She never cheated on a diet, works out every day, very hard working personality. She's not married mostly because she is very obese. I can't get any normal guys to date her.

Meanwhile, I ate nothing but junk. Potato chips and twizzlers from the candy machine for lunch. And have always been slim. I just had my 3rd child and a few weeks later I'm almost down to my pre pregnancy weight (I'm not nursing). I never exercise. And it's just genetics. I don't feel hungry.

You have a "very obese" friend who works out every day and never cheated on a diet. You are writing pure fantasy.

NP but I’m thin (5’5” and 120, after 3 kids) with little effort, though I enjoy working out and being active and I don’t like overeating. But my dad was obese most of his life, even though he worked out daily and ate healthful foods (though too much of it I think). He didn’t lose weight until he effectively starved himself and started to walk for two hours a day. He didn’t want to die young and found his motivation. But it was crazy hard for him, and even now, ten years later, he has to continue with the same habits (eating basically lettuce and like half an egg for a meal!) just to maintain his healthy weight.

Being obese is no joke. Losing weight is hard. Your body turns against you. It’s definitely more than calories in, calories out. And it’s more than genetics, because so far, neither I nor my siblings are even overweight.

Anonymous wrote:I have a good friend. We lived together. She never cheated on a diet, works out every day, very hard working personality. She's not married mostly because she is very obese. I can't get any normal guys to date her.

Meanwhile, I ate nothing but junk. Potato chips and twizzlers from the candy machine for lunch. And have always been slim. I just had my 3rd child and a few weeks later I'm almost down to my pre pregnancy weight (I'm not nursing). I never exercise. And it's just genetics. I don't feel hungry.

You have a "very obese" friend who works out every day and never cheated on a diet. You are writing pure fantasy.

Weight Watchers seems to work for a lot of people formey overweight...and it's all about consciously wstching what you eat. If WW works, then being heavy has to be about quantity of consumption. But, I will agree that the cravings, physical metabolism, and mental pieces may be different for heavy people. Still, WW's model seems to support a conclusion that reducing calories = weight reduction.

I am 5-3 and about 115 pounds. Pear shaped though. Always been skinny. I had to adjust my diet when getting older (around 40) once i started getting flabby. But all it took was a few diet adjustments (cut out most processed sugars) and I went back to being skinny. I also do some exercise but don’t overdo it.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 34 and have had an eating disorder since I was 17. Obviously not bragging but answering honestly. Most people would probably never know, I hide it well. I've had friends comment about how lucky I am that I eat what I eat and remain skinny. I had DH fooled for years.

+1 Had an eating disorder since I was in my 20’s. My husband and friends never know how well I hide it.

Are you PP’s being treated for your eating disorder? I worry because it can be life threatening and a poor example to any children you may have.

I’m in my 50’s with no children. Guess you can say it’s an overextended intermittent fasting. Have no intentions of changing, wanted to share how I achieve the skinny Minnie body.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 34 and have had an eating disorder since I was 17. Obviously not bragging but answering honestly. Most people would probably never know, I hide it well. I've had friends comment about how lucky I am that I eat what I eat and remain skinny. I had DH fooled for years.

+1 Had an eating disorder since I was in my 20’s. My husband and friends never know how well I hide it.

Are you PP’s being treated for your eating disorder? I worry because it can be life threatening and a poor example to any children you may have.

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Anonymous wrote:So much blah on this thread! People that are skinny don't eat that much, or much at all. As clearly established by all pps claiming it is genetic and proceeded to describe their minimal eating habits.
I wonder why that is? In fact all this "it is genetic" bull sh*t makes overweight people feel justified that clearly, it is not a choice but an error of nature.
No, it is not. Skinny people simply put the fork down when they are not hungry.

No,-no-no, they don't eat because they are not hungry. I have been skinny - I lost my appetite when I got under 125 pounds.Not sure why this "losing appetite" can't happen now that I am 175 pound. I didn't start eating more or exercise less to deserve extra 50 pounds, I had 2 kids. I also didn't produce any milk, or you can say, "my kids chose to put the fork down".

I saw a doctor who specialized in weight loss and something he said stuck with me: you’re not fat because you’re hungry, you’re hungry because you’re fat.

I think this is the premise of the Obesity Code by Dr Fung (intermittent fasting). The obesity itself causes your body to crave sugar, but IF breaks that cycle. People who are not overweight to begin with eat less because they crave food less.

Anonymous wrote:I'm 34 and have had an eating disorder since I was 17. Obviously not bragging but answering honestly. Most people would probably never know, I hide it well. I've had friends comment about how lucky I am that I eat what I eat and remain skinny. I had DH fooled for years.

+1 Had an eating disorder since I was in my 20’s. My husband and friends never know how well I hide it.

I have a good friend. We lived together. She never cheated on a diet, works out every day, very hard working personality. She's not married mostly because she is very obese. I can't get any normal guys to date her.

Meanwhile, I ate nothing but junk. Potato chips and twizzlers from the candy machine for lunch. And have always been slim. I just had my 3rd child and a few weeks later I'm almost down to my pre pregnancy weight (I'm not nursing). I never exercise. And it's just genetics. I don't feel hungry.

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Anonymous wrote:So much blah on this thread! People that are skinny don't eat that much, or much at all. As clearly established by all pps claiming it is genetic and proceeded to describe their minimal eating habits.
I wonder why that is? In fact all this "it is genetic" bull sh*t makes overweight people feel justified that clearly, it is not a choice but an error of nature.
No, it is not. Skinny people simply put the fork down when they are not hungry.

No,-no-no, they don't eat because they are not hungry. I have been skinny - I lost my appetite when I got under 125 pounds.Not sure why this "losing appetite" can't happen now that I am 175 pound. I didn't start eating more or exercise less to deserve extra 50 pounds, I had 2 kids. I also didn't produce any milk, or you can say, "my kids chose to put the fork down".

I saw a doctor who specialized in weight loss and something he said stuck with me: you’re not fat because you’re hungry, you’re hungry because you’re fat.