Anonymous wrote:People post on this forum constantly looking for career advice and never get anywhere near this many responses. It’s fascinating to me how many are/were genuinely trying to help this woman who already has so much in place, and are continuing to come to her defense long after she’s gone. It’s like this weird rich damsel in distress thing.

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds like OP's trust is pumping out $50k per year at most. Which explains why she was able to keep up when her friends were poor students, but now that they're in their 30s with decent jobs, she can no longer keep up (nice apartment, vacations, nice things etc).

I find it incredible someone would blow off their whole working life responsibility based on this paltry sum. DC is literally FILLED with people getting this kind of support from something other than a job. Lots of people with trust funds, and inheritances. But even more common is just people in their 20s and 30s whose parents still pay the credit card bills. A a huge chunk of DC people in their 30s and 40s whose parents buy them a $1m-$2m house (which is the equivalent of more than a $50k annual payment), or pay for multiple kids' private schools at $40k a pop, for instance. People getting five and six figure payments from parents in perpetuity, much like OP. And these people all still work regular DC jobs and still hustle.

That OP never bothered to work hard speaks way more to OP's personality and core qualities, and not because OP has a trust fund.

Thank you. I know people in DC who are in line to inherit billions, and more who are in line to inherit many millions, who still work hard every day. I also know people with minimal or no trust funds and multiple advanced degrees who have done absolutely nothing with their lives.

I'm willing to believe that someone can change, but I don't think OP cares about finding "meaning and purpose." I think OP is just mad that their friends are living better and wants to find a way to get there that doesn't involve drudgery.

This is so DC area puritanical work ethic coming out.  In most cultures around the world it’s considered fine for someone to live off family wealth, or to do things that they love that don’t make them money.  Good for OP for not signing up for a job she hated of endless drudgery.
Besides, there’s more than one way to skin a cat. If you got outside the DC bubble, and lived in a major city, you would see there are plenty of people who manage to make lots of money from a passion.  Desk work is not for everyone, nor does it have to be.  But most people here are government drones and they have one very narrow minded idea of what it is to have a career, passion, or to make money

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Anonymous wrote:What Color is Your Parachute didn't help me at all, and I've been in the same position. You're in a great position to volunteer for whatever cause you think you might be passionate about, and that could lead you down a path to that kind of work. Causes are worth getting up for, and a good network of people working for what they believe in can be better than vacations, etc. Community is important, and in those kinds of jobs, no one has much money or spends lavishly. Another degree isn't a bad idea. Law school? Film/communications? AU has a good program and you can do it on weekends. It would be marketable because there are lots of jobs for communications/video savvy people. And you can take those skills into an interesting, cause oriented nonprofit. You may not make a ton of money but you will have meaning, useful skills, and a way to contribute.

Don't be hard on yourself. You're in a unique situation without much of a sense of community--it's not like there's a support group for people with trust funds. And I believe you, they bring with them their own downsides. Think about what would make you most happy and fill your life most. Don't judge yourself by your resume or your income.

Exactly. You are lucky and in a great spot, which is probably why you raised the ire of so many of the DCUM “I hate my job and life crowd”

OP has the same family cash access as easily 10% of the DC area, who as other posters have noted, get moderate family help. But all those others get up every day and go for jobs. OP is just a million times more lazy and entitled. Sorry, but OP's cash situation does not make her unique. Again, just lazy.

I doubt it’s anywhere near that high of a percentage, but even if it is, that’s still a pretty low percentage. She is very lucky, and that’s why she has gotten the anger of the miserable people that make up DCUM. She’s in a great spot. Anytime you get the jealous harpies of DCUM engaged you’re doing pretty well

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds like OP's trust is pumping out $50k per year at most. Which explains why she was able to keep up when her friends were poor students, but now that they're in their 30s with decent jobs, she can no longer keep up (nice apartment, vacations, nice things etc).

I find it incredible someone would blow off their whole working life responsibility based on this paltry sum. DC is literally FILLED with people getting this kind of support from something other than a job. Lots of people with trust funds, and inheritances. But even more common is just people in their 20s and 30s whose parents still pay the credit card bills. A a huge chunk of DC people in their 30s and 40s whose parents buy them a $1m-$2m house (which is the equivalent of more than a $50k annual payment), or pay for multiple kids' private schools at $40k a pop, for instance. People getting five and six figure payments from parents in perpetuity, much like OP. And these people all still work regular DC jobs and still hustle.

That OP never bothered to work hard speaks way more to OP's personality and core qualities, and not because OP has a trust fund.

Thank you. I know people in DC who are in line to inherit billions, and more who are in line to inherit many millions, who still work hard every day. I also know people with minimal or no trust funds and multiple advanced degrees who have done absolutely nothing with their lives.

I'm willing to believe that someone can change, but I don't think OP cares about finding "meaning and purpose." I think OP is just mad that their friends are living better and wants to find a way to get there that doesn't involve drudgery.

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like OP's trust is pumping out $50k per year at most. Which explains why she was able to keep up when her friends were poor students, but now that they're in their 30s with decent jobs, she can no longer keep up (nice apartment, vacations, nice things etc).

I find it incredible someone would blow off their whole working life responsibility based on this paltry sum. DC is literally FILLED with people getting this kind of support from something other than a job. Lots of people with trust funds, and inheritances. But even more common is just people in their 20s and 30s whose parents still pay the credit card bills. A a huge chunk of DC people in their 30s and 40s whose parents buy them a $1m-$2m house (which is the equivalent of more than a $50k annual payment), or pay for multiple kids' private schools at $40k a pop, for instance. People getting five and six figure payments from parents in perpetuity, much like OP. And these people all still work regular DC jobs and still hustle.

That OP never bothered to work hard speaks way more to OP's personality and core qualities, and not because OP has a trust fund.

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Anonymous wrote:I am just wondering why no one pushed back on the OP's comments about lawyers not making much money? I mean....

OP, JDs or MBAs both have the potential to bring home $250-500 a year but it will require lots of work and focus. You take on debt, school will be demanding and then you will still land in roles like associate at a law firm or analyst at an investment bank. You will need to have discipline to pay back the loans also.

Why has no one suggested entrepreneur? Is there a business you are passionate about building? Lots of successful entrepreneurs did horrible in traditional workplaces, including my current boss. In your situation you can manage more risk than most. Do you have presence? Can you pitch investors?

Because it's true? Unless OP gets into a top-tier law school, performs very well, and gets a job in Big Law.

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Anonymous wrote:What Color is Your Parachute didn't help me at all, and I've been in the same position. You're in a great position to volunteer for whatever cause you think you might be passionate about, and that could lead you down a path to that kind of work. Causes are worth getting up for, and a good network of people working for what they believe in can be better than vacations, etc. Community is important, and in those kinds of jobs, no one has much money or spends lavishly. Another degree isn't a bad idea. Law school? Film/communications? AU has a good program and you can do it on weekends. It would be marketable because there are lots of jobs for communications/video savvy people. And you can take those skills into an interesting, cause oriented nonprofit. You may not make a ton of money but you will have meaning, useful skills, and a way to contribute.

Don't be hard on yourself. You're in a unique situation without much of a sense of community--it's not like there's a support group for people with trust funds. And I believe you, they bring with them their own downsides. Think about what would make you most happy and fill your life most. Don't judge yourself by your resume or your income.

Exactly. You are lucky and in a great spot, which is probably why you raised the ire of so many of the DCUM “I hate my job and life crowd”

OP has the same family cash access as easily 10% of the DC area, who as other posters have noted, get moderate family help. But all those others get up every day and go for jobs. OP is just a million times more lazy and entitled. Sorry, but OP's cash situation does not make her unique. Again, just lazy.

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Anonymous wrote:What Color is Your Parachute didn't help me at all, and I've been in the same position. You're in a great position to volunteer for whatever cause you think you might be passionate about, and that could lead you down a path to that kind of work. Causes are worth getting up for, and a good network of people working for what they believe in can be better than vacations, etc. Community is important, and in those kinds of jobs, no one has much money or spends lavishly. Another degree isn't a bad idea. Law school? Film/communications? AU has a good program and you can do it on weekends. It would be marketable because there are lots of jobs for communications/video savvy people. And you can take those skills into an interesting, cause oriented nonprofit. You may not make a ton of money but you will have meaning, useful skills, and a way to contribute.

Don't be hard on yourself. You're in a unique situation without much of a sense of community--it's not like there's a support group for people with trust funds. And I believe you, they bring with them their own downsides. Think about what would make you most happy and fill your life most. Don't judge yourself by your resume or your income.

Exactly. You are lucky and in a great spot, which is probably why you raised the ire of so many of the DCUM “I hate my job and life crowd”

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Anonymous wrote:I think OP lost interest in this thread already.

Heh. I mean, of course.

And here are us strivers still trying to fix the problem.

I literally laughed out loud.

Oh God, hilarious!!! I was just getting ready to tell OP to teach a dance class. Heck maybe even open up a barre studio. Or go into real estate. But oh well I guess she lost interest.

You all understand you are making fun of a non-NT person?