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Anonymous wrote:Wow I did not expect this to have so many responses! To update, I spoke with the other mom and we agreed that the girls will order matching outfits and even shoes online so they can have their twin idea. I will braid my daughter's hair into pigtails and I will offer to add ribbons in the same color as her friend's beads. Then we will do a twin day and they can choose their activities they want to do, like a project or ice cream. I already have talked to my daughter about her hair being a different kind and that the braids will not work the same.

(I'm OP)

Still not comfortable with this. Strays too close to the line.

Pigtails with ribbons aren't okay? White people have been doing that forever.

Who did they steal it from?

Marie Antoinette. And look how it ended for her.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not a complete idiot though I feel like one now. I know better than to let my kid have braids to match her friend. Could I do french braids instead and put beads in her hair that way? I'm so lost on this. I am an immigrant, sorry for not understanding. I am trying.

French braids would be cute. Get them friendship bracelets or something that can match.

Tell your daughter "Cornrows are for black girls. White girls wear French braids. Girls of all colors can wear friendship bracelets."

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Anonymous wrote:Wow I did not expect this to have so many responses! To update, I spoke with the other mom and we agreed that the girls will order matching outfits and even shoes online so they can have their twin idea. I will braid my daughter's hair into pigtails and I will offer to add ribbons in the same color as her friend's beads. Then we will do a twin day and they can choose their activities they want to do, like a project or ice cream. I already have talked to my daughter about her hair being a different kind and that the braids will not work the same.

(I'm OP)

Still not comfortable with this. Strays too close to the line.

Pigtails with ribbons aren't okay? White people have been doing that forever.

Who did they steal it from?

Pigtails and pony tails with ribbon have been used by caucasian women for thousands of years. I suspect it came about from farm safety and to keep your hair out of your face when working in the fields.

Anonymous wrote:Wow I did not expect this to have so many responses! To update, I spoke with the other mom and we agreed that the girls will order matching outfits and even shoes online so they can have their twin idea. I will braid my daughter's hair into pigtails and I will offer to add ribbons in the same color as her friend's beads. Then we will do a twin day and they can choose their activities they want to do, like a project or ice cream. I already have talked to my daughter about her hair being a different kind and that the braids will not work the same.

(I'm OP)

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Anonymous wrote:Wow I did not expect this to have so many responses! To update, I spoke with the other mom and we agreed that the girls will order matching outfits and even shoes online so they can have their twin idea. I will braid my daughter's hair into pigtails and I will offer to add ribbons in the same color as her friend's beads. Then we will do a twin day and they can choose their activities they want to do, like a project or ice cream. I already have talked to my daughter about her hair being a different kind and that the braids will not work the same.

(I'm OP)

Still not comfortable with this. Strays too close to the line.

Pigtails with ribbons aren't okay? White people have been doing that forever.

Who did they steal it from?

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Anonymous wrote:Wow I did not expect this to have so many responses! To update, I spoke with the other mom and we agreed that the girls will order matching outfits and even shoes online so they can have their twin idea. I will braid my daughter's hair into pigtails and I will offer to add ribbons in the same color as her friend's beads. Then we will do a twin day and they can choose their activities they want to do, like a project or ice cream. I already have talked to my daughter about her hair being a different kind and that the braids will not work the same.

(I'm OP)

Still not comfortable with this. Strays too close to the line.

You can't be serious.

I don’t think the PP is. I do appreciate that this thread has taken a humorous turn. The initial idea-that braids on a white child- isn’t “culturally appropriate” is so ridiculous on its own, that I thought OP was a troll.

I cannot even imagine thinking a bunch of small braids on a child is offensive. I’m curious about the type of person who even thinks this. I don’t think they have good intentions. I just don’t. Sounds like they’re trying to stir up shit.

Something about the OP is off. Making small things into “racial” questions makes me feel uneasy.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow I did not expect this to have so many responses! To update, I spoke with the other mom and we agreed that the girls will order matching outfits and even shoes online so they can have their twin idea. I will braid my daughter's hair into pigtails and I will offer to add ribbons in the same color as her friend's beads. Then we will do a twin day and they can choose their activities they want to do, like a project or ice cream. I already have talked to my daughter about her hair being a different kind and that the braids will not work the same.

(I'm OP)

Still not comfortable with this. Strays too close to the line.

You can't be serious.

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Anonymous wrote:We are in a less white area and the kids tend to imitate each other in style- just like in more racially homogeneous areas. At school after lunch, the girls often put braids in each other's hair. What I'm not going to do is intervene and say to my white daughter, "honey, only let your black friends do euro-centric braid styles on you because you don't want to be a cultural imperialist. Here, pick out something from Hanna Anderssen." Call me unenlightened, I don't care, but I am not going to make my daughter show her friends how woke she is by not participating in normal kid stuff.

"Cultural Imperialist?" Now we're just making sh*t up ...

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Anonymous wrote:Teach your child to say we don’t do cultural appropriation.

Teach your child to say "Cultural appropriation is a social construct invented by white academics in the 1980s in order to meet publishing quotas."

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Anonymous wrote:Wow I did not expect this to have so many responses! To update, I spoke with the other mom and we agreed that the girls will order matching outfits and even shoes online so they can have their twin idea. I will braid my daughter's hair into pigtails and I will offer to add ribbons in the same color as her friend's beads. Then we will do a twin day and they can choose their activities they want to do, like a project or ice cream. I already have talked to my daughter about her hair being a different kind and that the braids will not work the same.

(I'm OP)

Still not comfortable with this. Strays too close to the line.

Pigtails with ribbons aren't okay? White people have been doing that forever.

Who did they steal it from?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow I did not expect this to have so many responses! To update, I spoke with the other mom and we agreed that the girls will order matching outfits and even shoes online so they can have their twin idea. I will braid my daughter's hair into pigtails and I will offer to add ribbons in the same color as her friend's beads. Then we will do a twin day and they can choose their activities they want to do, like a project or ice cream. I already have talked to my daughter about her hair being a different kind and that the braids will not work the same.

(I'm OP)

Still not comfortable with this. Strays too close to the line.

Pigtails with ribbons aren't okay? White people have been doing that forever.

Anonymous wrote:We are in a less white area and the kids tend to imitate each other in style- just like in more racially homogeneous areas. At school after lunch, the girls often put braids in each other's hair. What I'm not going to do is intervene and say to my white daughter, "honey, only let your black friends do euro-centric braid styles on you because you don't want to be a cultural imperialist. Here, pick out something from Hanna Anderssen." Call me unenlightened, I don't care, but I am not going to make my daughter show her friends how woke she is by not participating in normal kid stuff.