Anonymous wrote:You need to throw money at this problem! If your DH is a big lawyer, use that money and get some help. Among my friend group - the ones with kids under five are by far the most miserable and you have a newborn dear god!

Do you have a nanny normally? If yes, bring her back - if no, call White House nannies tomorrow and get a nanny - is it more risk? maybe - but you might be able to find one who lives alone an dis taking isolation seriously -

You have to find someone to help you!!

+1. Or at least get a neighborhood high school girl to come in and help you out a bit. No one has been going anywhere for awhile so I don't think you have to worry tremendously about one person coming in and out to help. If it saves your sanity, it is worth it.

TV is and always has been an excellent babysitter. It's also very educational.

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By 12-14 pounds, babies don’t need night feedings. If your kid is at that point or nearly there, stop the night feedings. If you are breastfeeding, give the baby formula to supplement.

Just in case anyone reading doesn't realize -- this is NOT true. Some might, some might not, but weight does not determine when babies stop being hungry!!

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Anonymous wrote:If you guys aren't going to post helpful responses for OP, can you at least not give in to the temptation to be an asshole? Take that to the Real Estate forum or something.

People tried being helpful at first. OP balked at every possible solution to her problem.

Sometimes you just want to vent and be heard. OP has a newborn. I shudder when I recall the newborn days... newborns f-ing SUCK. Give me a toddler any day.

OP, you are doing fine. Tomorrow is a new day.

But most of us keep those memories in mind while having unprotected sex with out spouses. I’m just sayin’

Yes this and don’t have any more kids.

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Anonymous wrote:If you guys aren't going to post helpful responses for OP, can you at least not give in to the temptation to be an asshole? Take that to the Real Estate forum or something.

People tried being helpful at first. OP balked at every possible solution to her problem.

Sometimes you just want to vent and be heard. OP has a newborn. I shudder when I recall the newborn days... newborns f-ing SUCK. Give me a toddler any day.

OP, you are doing fine. Tomorrow is a new day.

But most of us keep those memories in mind while having unprotected sex with out spouses. I’m just sayin’

Eh, as awful as it is, it goes by relatively fast. My firstborn slept in 45 minute increments for the first 6 months of his life and I was pretty miserable. I still went on to have a second soon after, fully knowing I didn't enjoy the baby stage and was just going to suffer through it. My second slept as poorly as the first. I think OP just needs to find a different place to vent as DCUM is generally pretty unsympathetic. For me it was a birth month mom group I found on Reddit - my real-life close friends are either child free or way past the baby stage (I had kids later than my friend group).

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Anonymous wrote:If you guys aren't going to post helpful responses for OP, can you at least not give in to the temptation to be an asshole? Take that to the Real Estate forum or something.

People tried being helpful at first. OP balked at every possible solution to her problem.

Sometimes you just want to vent and be heard. OP has a newborn. I shudder when I recall the newborn days... newborns f-ing SUCK. Give me a toddler any day.

OP, you are doing fine. Tomorrow is a new day.

But most of us keep those memories in mind while having unprotected sex with out spouses. I’m just sayin’

Anonymous wrote:Your husband should quit his job. This situation is not sustainable. You are not feeling well, mentally or physically. You have three very young dependents whose safety and health could be at risk if they are not attended to moment to moment. Sorry, but there is something to do here. He is the one who needs to step up and fix this.

If he hasn't stepped up before, he won't step up now. He should stay earning money, and OP should take that money and throw it at the problem. Hire help, outsource cooking, take several spa days until she feels back to normal. OP -- you can't believe the number of moms I see routinely in spa rooms just sleeping. Sometimes its the only place you can get some guaranteed rest.

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Anonymous wrote:If you guys aren't going to post helpful responses for OP, can you at least not give in to the temptation to be an asshole? Take that to the Real Estate forum or something.

People tried being helpful at first. OP balked at every possible solution to her problem.

Sometimes you just want to vent and be heard. OP has a newborn. I shudder when I recall the newborn days... newborns f-ing SUCK. Give me a toddler any day.

OP, you are doing fine. Tomorrow is a new day.

Anonymous wrote:If you guys aren't going to post helpful responses for OP, can you at least not give in to the temptation to be an asshole? Take that to the Real Estate forum or something.

People tried being helpful at first. OP balked at every possible solution to her problem.

If you guys aren't going to post helpful responses for OP, can you at least not give in to the temptation to be an asshole? Take that to the Real Estate forum or something.

Look into hiring a nanny now because you eventually have to go back to work yourself. I work as an occasional nanny and had to take Covid 19 training through my agency in order to accept any jobs through them. I was impressed by how quickly they developed the training course. Anyway call a local agency (White House Nannies is good) and get the ball rolling. I don't know if you mentioned when you have to go back to work but the process takes time.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do people have 3 kids so close in age if it’s universally acknowledged (on this thread at least) to be “hell.”?

I stopped at two. Why? Because two was hard enough. Did my heart want 3 or 4? Definitely. But I didn’t want to end up in OP’s current situation, even without the pandemic. My husband too works a lot (though not like OP’s husband) and I recognized the limits to our sanity, and also that I did not want to sacrifice the quality of care my first two children were receiving, which would have surely happens with a third.

What is wrong with you? Go away

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Please, don’t fall off that high horse. We have three because our second was twins and it’s so effing hard. OP, please hire a nanny and don’t listen to all the icky posters.

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP -- hang in there. There will be better days.

Yes, once she doesn’t have to care for her own kids anymore.

Sorry OP -- hang in there. There will be better days.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. My other kids are 3 and 5. They are being awful. My husband works 12-15 hours a day 7 days a week.

I have gotten 4 hours of broken sleep today. Today is going to be horrible.

Why would you be forcing 3 and 5 year olds to do worksheets?! At that age kids learn best through play. Worksheets are not age appropriate.

This. You don't sound very smart. The choices aren't all day TV or worksheets.