I care only that they be minimally OK looking, but it's not important to me that they be stunning. As long as they are not attention-grabbingly ugly, I am fine.

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Anonymous wrote:People want everything for their children. I think everyone wants their children to be happy, rich, intelligent and beautiful. It doesn’t always work out but everyone wants it for their kids. At least most parents.

Also, in anthropology babies and baby animals are “cute” so their adults will care for them.

This is so true but so many people act like it's not.

It is so not true for me. I want my kids to be happy. I want them to be good people. I do not care at all if they are beautiful or rich.

Carolinesayshi wrote:On another message board, a poster expressed worry that her new baby girl wouldn't be beautiful or grow up to be beautiful. I thought this was strange, but wondered also if it's a common worry.

So, I thought I'd ask here. Do you care about what your kids look like? Is it important that they be beautiful, extremely good looking, or good looking at all? I'm not talking about how well dressed they are or how well groomed they are. I'm talking about the actual looks they were born with.

No, I don't. Not at all.

Looks can be a double edged sword, especially for girls. I was an average/cute kid and then I moved to a new high school as a freshman. I had grown into my looks and was very pretty that year and my whole life experience changed. Suddenly, everyone was telling me I was “hot” and with that came a lot of expectations I didn’t understand. Basically I was put up on a pedestal and any move I made was the wrong one. I felt judged all the time, people called me a slut even though I was not sexually active, and basically everyone had their own idea of how I should conduct myself. I feel like it really stifled ,y development and made me obsessed with my looks and weight. I starved myself down to a stick and have always felt pressure to remain thin and pretty. I am now almost forty and attractive for my age, but not a model or anything. My daughter is 4 and stunningly pretty...strangers comment on her all the time. Both my kids are very attractive now because they have facial features that look great on kids. But they will likely just be moderately attractive later in life. I also worry they will struggle with weight, like their father. It is what it is, can’t control it really, but I don’t think being seen as the pretty person is always what it is cracked up to be.

Anonymous wrote:They may be cute now but wait until puberty hits.

God yes lol

I’m blonde with green eyes, even in my 30s I’m still blonde

I was hoping my kids got my genes but nope, both have brown hair and brown eyes lol. They are still the cutest to me!

My kids are nice looking but no one is signing them up for modeling contracts. That's good as far as I'm concerned. I got way too much attention for my looks and it made me very uncomfortable and self conscious - not confident at all, sadly. I'm glad they are not going to go through all that BS.

They may be cute now but wait until puberty hits.