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Anonymous wrote:12/13 for condoms

I am a coach for club travel and most of those boys are having sex before they enter high school.

1) how do you know this?
2) how do 12/13 year olds have enough totally unsupervised free time that “most” of them are able to be having sex?
3) honestly sounds like you are a sketchy “coach” if *most* of your mid-puberty boys are having sex

How does anyone know anything? - is a really dumb response.

The county school system surveys kids and teens every single year; the surveys are evidence and compared year over year. OF COURSE there is a margin of error; everyone knows that.

But we also know with a fair degree of certainty, at what age kids in the county are having sex, what type of sex, and how they compare nationally.

Stop with the dumb “how do you know?” crap.

This is an unhinged response. Coach claims to have factual knowledge of kids on his (her) team having sex at 12 or 13 years old. “How do you know that!” is the obvious question that one SHOULD ask such an adult - because they sound like a freaking pervert.

(Also, you know kids lie on surveys, don’t you? Especially middle school aged boys? Were you never in middle school yourself?)

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Anonymous wrote:39% had 10 or more partners on their wedding night

That’s one hell of a wedding!

LOL reminds me of the bar scene in Super Bad when they cop was talking about his wedding night

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Anonymous wrote:12/13 for condoms

I am a coach for club travel and most of those boys are having sex before they enter high school.

1) how do you know this?
2) how do 12/13 year olds have enough totally unsupervised free time that “most” of them are able to be having sex?
3) honestly sounds like you are a sketchy “coach” if *most* of your mid-puberty boys are having sex

How does anyone know anything? - is a really dumb response.

The county school system surveys kids and teens every single year; the surveys are evidence and compared year over year. OF COURSE there is a margin of error; everyone knows that.

But we also know with a fair degree of certainty, at what age kids in the county are having sex, what type of sex, and how they compare nationally.

Stop with the dumb “how do you know?” crap.

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Anonymous wrote:WTF? Never. If he can’t buy his own condoms he’s not ready to have sex.

This is not a thought a 15 year old would have. Ever.

Newsflash: 15 year olds should not be having sex. If yours are, you are 100% failing them as parents.

This thread is so gross and pathetic.

The average age of first sex is 16 so there are plenty of 12-15yr olds having sex whether you like it or not. A 14 and 15yr old dating for a year are already having sex. As a parent, you can only talk to them so much and get books or send info. Ultimately teens are going to do things whether you like it or not. The stern parents are always the most clueless.

Jesus. Kids that young having sex are trashy kids raised by trashy parents. It is shocking to me that so many parents are okay with this. Bunch of cool moms, I guess?

My parents were ultra religious and conservative and I was having sex at 13. It was a way to rebel against their rules that I hated

Anonymous wrote:My parents didn't buy me condoms and I was never taught safe sex because they are religious and I assume ashamed and embarrassed to discuss sex.

I am bisexual and I had unprotected sex (as a man) with several men and several women before I ever used a condom for the first time.

But I bet your parents thought they had high moral values and were great parents. I had ones just like this too. It was awful and I went behind their backs with my clothing, friends, boyfriends, and they knew nothing. Went to church every Sunday and thought I was this innocent kid. I hated my family life and was always jealous of friends that could communicate with their parents.

Anonymous wrote:My parents didn't buy me condoms and I was never taught safe sex because they are religious and I assume ashamed and embarrassed to discuss sex.

I am bisexual and I had unprotected sex (as a man) with several men and several women before I ever used a condom for the first time.

Barrier methods are only partial protection for teens in a situation like yours, PP, where condoms can more frequently break.

A safer approach is PREP if teens are likely to engage in anal lovemaking, especially unprotected (aka “bareback”) anal intercourse.

If your pediatrician is unfamiliar with PREP, you can check with Planned Parenthood or just google providers who prescribe PREP.

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Anonymous wrote:WTF? Never. If he can’t buy his own condoms he’s not ready to have sex.

This is not a thought a 15 year old would have. Ever.

Newsflash: 15 year olds should not be having sex. If yours are, you are 100% failing them as parents.

This thread is so gross and pathetic.

The average age of first sex is 16 so there are plenty of 12-15yr olds having sex whether you like it or not. A 14 and 15yr old dating for a year are already having sex. As a parent, you can only talk to them so much and get books or send info. Ultimately teens are going to do things whether you like it or not. The stern parents are always the most clueless.

Jesus. Kids that young having sex are trashy kids raised by trashy parents. It is shocking to me that so many parents are okay with this. Bunch of cool moms, I guess?

How do you come to this conclusion? What could parents have done differently?
I was a virgin until I was 24. My 17yo daughter is a virgin, as is my 15yo son. We talk frequently and openly about sex in our house. My 15yo has a girlfriend and I am constantly drilling it into his head that when he decides to have sex he must use a condom. I told my daughter repeatedly that I will get her on the pill whenever she needs it.
Now I could have had these same conversations with my kids and they may have chosen to have sex earlier. But they didn’t.
So how exactly did my parenting affect their choice to have or not have sex?

I honestly don’t understand your point. Are you upset that your kids AREN’T having sex?

My point is how did my parenting affect their decisions to not have sex?

PP was talking about the “cool mom” and shitty parenting being to blame. Am I one of those? Both? Neither?

I think you qualify for “the dumb mom” if you can’t understand 1) the previous post, or 2) how parenting choices may or may not influence children’s behavior…

It also sounds like you actually aspire to be “the cool mom” but through some accident of nature your kids are wise enough to reject your aspirations for them to have sex before they’re ready (and I assume you want this for them because you feel some kind of illogical shame at having not lost your own virginity until 24).

I don’t know, lady, I think there’s a lot to unpack here.

What part of the post made you come to that conclusion?

The part where she said she is “constantly” and “repeatedly” telling her kids how she is ready and willing to facilitate their sex lives. Her overall tone reads (to me, anyway) as almost disappointed that neither of her kids seem inclined to take her up on her offer of having parent-approved teenage sex.

I personally think having the conversation about sex and birth control with your teens is appropriate and necessary, but it’s weird to bring it up all the time (unless you really think your kids are stupid, seriously, they heard you the first time).

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Anonymous wrote:WTF? Never. If he can’t buy his own condoms he’s not ready to have sex.

This is not a thought a 15 year old would have. Ever.

Newsflash: 15 year olds should not be having sex. If yours are, you are 100% failing them as parents.

This thread is so gross and pathetic.

The average age of first sex is 16 so there are plenty of 12-15yr olds having sex whether you like it or not. A 14 and 15yr old dating for a year are already having sex. As a parent, you can only talk to them so much and get books or send info. Ultimately teens are going to do things whether you like it or not. The stern parents are always the most clueless.

Jesus. Kids that young having sex are trashy kids raised by trashy parents. It is shocking to me that so many parents are okay with this. Bunch of cool moms, I guess?

How do you come to this conclusion? What could parents have done differently?
I was a virgin until I was 24. My 17yo daughter is a virgin, as is my 15yo son. We talk frequently and openly about sex in our house. My 15yo has a girlfriend and I am constantly drilling it into his head that when he decides to have sex he must use a condom. I told my daughter repeatedly that I will get her on the pill whenever she needs it.
Now I could have had these same conversations with my kids and they may have chosen to have sex earlier. But they didn’t.
So how exactly did my parenting affect their choice to have or not have sex?

I honestly don’t understand your point. Are you upset that your kids AREN’T having sex?

My point is how did my parenting affect their decisions to not have sex?

PP was talking about the “cool mom” and shitty parenting being to blame. Am I one of those? Both? Neither?

I think you qualify for “the dumb mom” if you can’t understand 1) the previous post, or 2) how parenting choices may or may not influence children’s behavior…

It also sounds like you actually aspire to be “the cool mom” but through some accident of nature your kids are wise enough to reject your aspirations for them to have sex before they’re ready (and I assume you want this for them because you feel some kind of illogical shame at having not lost your own virginity until 24).

I don’t know, lady, I think there’s a lot to unpack here.

What part of the post made you come to that conclusion?

Why stop at condoms? Bad dragons, gag balls, whips, chains, fleshlights...

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Anonymous wrote:WTF? Never. If he can’t buy his own condoms he’s not ready to have sex.

This is not a thought a 15 year old would have. Ever.

Newsflash: 15 year olds should not be having sex. If yours are, you are 100% failing them as parents.

This thread is so gross and pathetic.

The average age of first sex is 16 so there are plenty of 12-15yr olds having sex whether you like it or not. A 14 and 15yr old dating for a year are already having sex. As a parent, you can only talk to them so much and get books or send info. Ultimately teens are going to do things whether you like it or not. The stern parents are always the most clueless.

Jesus. Kids that young having sex are trashy kids raised by trashy parents. It is shocking to me that so many parents are okay with this. Bunch of cool moms, I guess?

How do you come to this conclusion? What could parents have done differently?
I was a virgin until I was 24. My 17yo daughter is a virgin, as is my 15yo son. We talk frequently and openly about sex in our house. My 15yo has a girlfriend and I am constantly drilling it into his head that when he decides to have sex he must use a condom. I told my daughter repeatedly that I will get her on the pill whenever she needs it.
Now I could have had these same conversations with my kids and they may have chosen to have sex earlier. But they didn’t.
So how exactly did my parenting affect their choice to have or not have sex?

I honestly don’t understand your point. Are you upset that your kids AREN’T having sex?

My point is how did my parenting affect their decisions to not have sex?

PP was talking about the “cool mom” and shitty parenting being to blame. Am I one of those? Both? Neither?

I think you qualify for “the dumb mom” if you can’t understand 1) the previous post, or 2) how parenting choices may or may not influence children’s behavior…

It also sounds like you actually aspire to be “the cool mom” but through some accident of nature your kids are wise enough to reject your aspirations for them to have sex before they’re ready (and I assume you want this for them because you feel some kind of illogical shame at having not lost your own virginity until 24).

I don’t know, lady, I think there’s a lot to unpack here.

I am the dumb mom. Please explain what I misunderstood about the previous post. Please explain what the crappy parenting is that makes kids have sex as teenagers.

Remember, please dumb it down to the idiot level.

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Anonymous wrote:WTF? Never. If he can’t buy his own condoms he’s not ready to have sex.

This is not a thought a 15 year old would have. Ever.

Newsflash: 15 year olds should not be having sex. If yours are, you are 100% failing them as parents.

This thread is so gross and pathetic.

The average age of first sex is 16 so there are plenty of 12-15yr olds having sex whether you like it or not. A 14 and 15yr old dating for a year are already having sex. As a parent, you can only talk to them so much and get books or send info. Ultimately teens are going to do things whether you like it or not. The stern parents are always the most clueless.

Jesus. Kids that young having sex are trashy kids raised by trashy parents. It is shocking to me that so many parents are okay with this. Bunch of cool moms, I guess?

How do you come to this conclusion? What could parents have done differently?
I was a virgin until I was 24. My 17yo daughter is a virgin, as is my 15yo son. We talk frequently and openly about sex in our house. My 15yo has a girlfriend and I am constantly drilling it into his head that when he decides to have sex he must use a condom. I told my daughter repeatedly that I will get her on the pill whenever she needs it.
Now I could have had these same conversations with my kids and they may have chosen to have sex earlier. But they didn’t.
So how exactly did my parenting affect their choice to have or not have sex?

I honestly don’t understand your point. Are you upset that your kids AREN’T having sex?

My point is how did my parenting affect their decisions to not have sex?

PP was talking about the “cool mom” and shitty parenting being to blame. Am I one of those? Both? Neither?

I think you qualify for “the dumb mom” if you can’t understand 1) the previous post, or 2) how parenting choices may or may not influence children’s behavior…

It also sounds like you actually aspire to be “the cool mom” but through some accident of nature your kids are wise enough to reject your aspirations for them to have sex before they’re ready (and I assume you want this for them because you feel some kind of illogical shame at having not lost your own virginity until 24).

I don’t know, lady, I think there’s a lot to unpack here.

Store a box in the hall closet. If there aren't any real young kids in the house. It's there. Just like the shampoo, toilet paper, soap, towels. There on the shelf, visible. And many of them in box, so it wouldn't look like it would be noticed if a few are taken - and then don't pay attention to it.

Btw, in my day (I'm a grandma, I'm that old we didn't have sex with a young man until he was man-enough to walk into a drug store and buy them himself. He had planned ahead. And we had talked about it as a couple (even as teens) And young women we were also using some protection bought from the drug store. Doubling-up on protection. Knowing no BC is 100%.

My parents didn't buy me condoms and I was never taught safe sex because they are religious and I assume ashamed and embarrassed to discuss sex.

I am bisexual and I had unprotected sex (as a man) with several men and several women before I ever used a condom for the first time.

Anonymous wrote:I didn’t realize parents ever bought condoms for their kids. Part of having sex was awkwardly going to buy condoms. We did it and were teen girls. No one got them from parents.

But if you are planning on it, then the bathroom idea that PP had sounds like a good one. I guess DH and I will have to have this discussion.

Buy him condoms and have a very straightforward uncomfortable conversation with him about sex, STDs, babies and consent. I wouldn't trust some teenagers to turn in their homework, there's no way I'd trust them to buy condoms.

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Anonymous wrote:WTF? Never. If he can’t buy his own condoms he’s not ready to have sex.

This is not a thought a 15 year old would have. Ever.

Newsflash: 15 year olds should not be having sex. If yours are, you are 100% failing them as parents.

This thread is so gross and pathetic.

The average age of first sex is 16 so there are plenty of 12-15yr olds having sex whether you like it or not. A 14 and 15yr old dating for a year are already having sex. As a parent, you can only talk to them so much and get books or send info. Ultimately teens are going to do things whether you like it or not. The stern parents are always the most clueless.

Jesus. Kids that young having sex are trashy kids raised by trashy parents. It is shocking to me that so many parents are okay with this. Bunch of cool moms, I guess?

How do you come to this conclusion? What could parents have done differently?
I was a virgin until I was 24. My 17yo daughter is a virgin, as is my 15yo son. We talk frequently and openly about sex in our house. My 15yo has a girlfriend and I am constantly drilling it into his head that when he decides to have sex he must use a condom. I told my daughter repeatedly that I will get her on the pill whenever she needs it.
Now I could have had these same conversations with my kids and they may have chosen to have sex earlier. But they didn’t.
So how exactly did my parenting affect their choice to have or not have sex?

I honestly don’t understand your point. Are you upset that your kids AREN’T having sex?

My point is how did my parenting affect their decisions to not have sex?

PP was talking about the “cool mom” and shitty parenting being to blame. Am I one of those? Both? Neither?