Anonymous wrote:I’m a stay at home mom. When forms ask my occupation I usually write “first wife”. I like what I do with my days, I value it and so does my family that’s all that matters to me. Call me whatever you want just don’t call me late for dinner.

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Anonymous wrote:You can say “I take care of my kids full time” as that is a counterpart for “I work full time”. Children need full-time care. That is a fact. That care can be provided by a parent, nanny, daycare, elementary school, karate class, etc.

Btw, “parenting” is not something that needs to happen 24/7.

How about working moms just stop getting so triggered about other women’s choices?

I’m not going to twist myself into pretzels trying to find a way to describe being home with my kids that doesn’t offend you. I’m also not going the self deprecating route and saying “I’m unemployed” just to placate you. Get over yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:Tell me please —
Is this supposed to imply that moms who work are “part time” moms? Or is it just to tell the world that one is on full time duty? Maybe I’m being dense; just want to know if this is a dig....

np Maybe stop asking the question, "what do you do?" That in itself can also be seen as "judgement" As if your work equals your self worth.

You are way too sensitive!

DP. You can't simultaneously tell people to stop asking the question "what do you do?" and say that someone else is way too sensitive.

Anonymous wrote:If the person is referring to themselves like on a Facebook profile, I generally see something along the lines of "part-time nurse, weekend warrior, full-time mom" or whatever it is. It's just a phrase.

Anonymous wrote:I’m a stay at home mom. When forms ask my occupation I usually write “first wife”. I like what I do with my days, I value it and so does my family that’s all that matters to me. Call me whatever you want just don’t call me late for dinner.

Anonymous wrote:You can say “I take care of my kids full time” as that is a counterpart for “I work full time”. Children need full-time care. That is a fact. That care can be provided by a parent, nanny, daycare, elementary school, karate class, etc.

Btw, “parenting” is not something that needs to happen 24/7.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, please point out instances where this phrase has been used. Because it’s not.

I'm a SAHM who has never used the term, but older gentlemen have used it towards me ("oh, you are a full time mom") in conversation. I've always thought of it as an outdated phrase.

I have really only heard the terms SAHM, housewife, full time mom, etc. used to describe other people. It’s pretty rare that I hear anyone describe themselves this way. Usually people say something like “I’m a pediatrician, but I’m home with the kids right now.” Or “I retired from the army last year.” Or “I was a nurse, but I am thinking of switching into accounting when the kids get older.”
It’s rare that I hear someone respond to a question about their own paid work with answers about unpaid work.

OP here. I noticed someone from my kid’s school (a mom) who is an acquaintance of mine described herself on her Facebook profile as a “Full-time mom.”

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Anonymous wrote:Honest question to those who feel the phrase "Full-time mom" is a dig at WOHMs --- what word do you wish the "full-time moms" would use for themselves?

"I don't work."

But they do work- they do the work of child care. Instead of paying someone to do that work, they are doing it themselves.

Would it be better if they called themselves child care providers?

We aren't even necessarily talking about kids younger than school-age, though no SAHM who calls herself a full-time mom as answered what she then calls herself, though it's been asked a number of times.

Taking care or your own children is parenting. It's not a job. I don't call myself a chef when I make dinner for my family.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, please point out instances where this phrase has been used. Because it’s not.

I'm a SAHM who has never used the term, but older gentlemen have used it towards me ("oh, you are a full time mom") in conversation. I've always thought of it as an outdated phrase.

I have really only heard the terms SAHM, housewife, full time mom, etc. used to describe other people. It’s pretty rare that I hear anyone describe themselves this way. Usually people say something like “I’m a pediatrician, but I’m home with the kids right now.” Or “I retired from the army last year.” Or “I was a nurse, but I am thinking of switching into accounting when the kids get older.”
It’s rare that I hear someone respond to a question about their own paid work with answers about unpaid work.

OP here. I noticed someone from my kid’s school (a mom) who is an acquaintance of mine described herself on her Facebook profile as a “Full-time mom.”

I'm certain she didn't mean to offend.

No, I’m certain she was thinking of how to get a dog at PP when she made her profile. If there’s anything that I’ve learned from this thread, WOHM think other women’s choices are always about them.

Anonymous wrote:You can say “I take care of my kids full time” as that is a counterpart for “I work full time”. Children need full-time care. That is a fact. That care can be provided by a parent, nanny, daycare, elementary school, karate class, etc.

Btw, “parenting” is not something that needs to happen 24/7.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, please point out instances where this phrase has been used. Because it’s not.

I'm a SAHM who has never used the term, but older gentlemen have used it towards me ("oh, you are a full time mom") in conversation. I've always thought of it as an outdated phrase.

I have really only heard the terms SAHM, housewife, full time mom, etc. used to describe other people. It’s pretty rare that I hear anyone describe themselves this way. Usually people say something like “I’m a pediatrician, but I’m home with the kids right now.” Or “I retired from the army last year.” Or “I was a nurse, but I am thinking of switching into accounting when the kids get older.”
It’s rare that I hear someone respond to a question about their own paid work with answers about unpaid work.

OP here. I noticed someone from my kid’s school (a mom) who is an acquaintance of mine described herself on her Facebook profile as a “Full-time mom.”

I'm certain she didn't mean to offend.

Anonymous wrote:I know some people who say “full time mom” because SAHM makes it sound like they’re housebound. If you’re a SAHM, people, at least where I live, can’t seem to live with anything sort of a self-effacing description of how you spend your day.

They want me to say “I’m just a mom” or “I don’t work” and will press and press until they get those exact answers. I say “I’m unemployed” when I know someone’s going to play verbal games with me around the paid employment/parenthood question. It stops the conversation cold.