Anonymous wrote:What I have seen happen in FCPS is that admin treats the bully as a victim, and blames the victim in any way possible. They’ll say “oh, if it was really a problem, he would have told someone or gotten help”. Bullying has a paralyzing effect such that victims usually do not speak up. That’s why bystanders are so important. Recognize subtle signs and look out for each other. Do not blame victims! Do not assume they are ok, just because they aren’t crying/screaming for help. The long lasting psychological effects of extreme bullying are similar to being in a war-torn country.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Isn’t Oakton one of better high schools in Fairfax county? Hope this is an isolated incident.
Weird snob school back in the 90s. No idea now.
People who say stupid things like this are themselves, weird snobs. Go away.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I was just about to mention restorative justice policies, thanks.
Explain how this works? Does the victim have to come face to face with the kids who assaulted him? If so, is that one-on-one or what? If not, that would be very intimidating. If so, that would be intimidating and very time-consuming for him.
No, what happens is that the school tells the family they are dealing with it, so police isn't called, and the school then takes its sweet time to interrogate the main people involved and may confuse them thoroughly, since they are not trained to conduct such interviews. The school may handle any evidence and tamper with it, again because they are not trained to preserve evidence. School systems in the area have restorative justice policies, which means they believe minor perpetrators may have adverse life circumstances that affect their sense of right and wrong, and if given additional chances to redeem themselves, have better chances of becoming law-abiding adults. The result is that a lot of time is wasted before the victim's family realizes that the perpetrators will not be punished adequately, and the victim will likely not be separated from them in class. Then if/when the family finally decides to call the police, the investigators have to deal with witnesses who may have forgotten the exact timeline of events, because they were confused by the earlier interviews with school staff and some time has already elapsed. Videos that were circulated have had ample time to be deleted, and any physical evidence may have been washed off the floor (blood, etc) or otherwise handled in a way that makes it inadmissible in a court of law.
This is not because school systems purposefully set out to flout investigative processes and deny protections to victims. It's because there is zero clarity for administrators and staff to distinguish between minor events that should be appropriately handled by the school system, which understandably tends to err on the side of leniency, since they are dealing with children, and major events that require immediate police investigation.
That is absurd. What happened here is a felony assault with a dangerous weapon. It’s a serious crime. This type of incident should never be handled through a “restorative justice” process. Ridiculous.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:A couple of thoughts:
1) a stun gun is not lethal (unless there are underlying medical issues. So, it is not attempted murder.
2) this kind of behavior has been occurring for at least 40 years in FCPS schools to the kids who are "different". (40 years ago, I got a "Dirty Swirly" after gym class in a neighboring FCPS school; 20 kids were involved in the assault. Gym teacher did not care. school just moved me to another gym class. I still have nightmares about it. Police woere called but nothing happened.
3) The penalty for this (in criminal court) is suprisingly light for a first offense.
4) We do not know what the school is doing as punishments are usually private.
I am very sorry. What a horrible ordeal you suffered.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Isn’t Oakton one of better high schools in Fairfax county? Hope this is an isolated incident.
Weird snob school back in the 90s. No idea now.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I was just about to mention restorative justice policies, thanks.
Explain how this works? Does the victim have to come face to face with the kids who assaulted him? If so, is that one-on-one or what? If not, that would be very intimidating. If so, that would be intimidating and very time-consuming for him.
No, what happens is that the school tells the family they are dealing with it, so police isn't called, and the school then takes its sweet time to interrogate the main people involved and may confuse them thoroughly, since they are not trained to conduct such interviews. The school may handle any evidence and tamper with it, again because they are not trained to preserve evidence. School systems in the area have restorative justice policies, which means they believe minor perpetrators may have adverse life circumstances that affect their sense of right and wrong, and if given additional chances to redeem themselves, have better chances of becoming law-abiding adults. The result is that a lot of time is wasted before the victim's family realizes that the perpetrators will not be punished adequately, and the victim will likely not be separated from them in class. Then if/when the family finally decides to call the police, the investigators have to deal with witnesses who may have forgotten the exact timeline of events, because they were confused by the earlier interviews with school staff and some time has already elapsed. Videos that were circulated have had ample time to be deleted, and any physical evidence may have been washed off the floor (blood, etc) or otherwise handled in a way that makes it inadmissible in a court of law.
This is not because school systems purposefully set out to flout investigative processes and deny protections to victims. It's because there is zero clarity for administrators and staff to distinguish between minor events that should be appropriately handled by the school system, which understandably tends to err on the side of leniency, since they are dealing with children, and major events that require immediate police investigation.
Anonymous wrote:A couple of thoughts:
1) a stun gun is not lethal (unless there are underlying medical issues. So, it is not attempted murder.
2) this kind of behavior has been occurring for at least 40 years in FCPS schools to the kids who are "different". (40 years ago, I got a "Dirty Swirly" after gym class in a neighboring FCPS school; 20 kids were involved in the assault. Gym teacher did not care. school just moved me to another gym class. I still have nightmares about it. Police woere called but nothing happened.
3) The penalty for this (in criminal court) is suprisingly light for a first offense.
4) We do not know what the school is doing as punishments are usually private.
Anonymous wrote:No idea what happened here, as a factual matter, but does FCPS have a bullying policy?
Anonymous wrote:Not surprised Banbury is an exec principal. It is the FCPS way/ suck at your current job, no problem- we have a better one for you.