Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let me summarize once again: no one is saying healthy eating and exercise aren’t good practices. People are saying that OP’s post reeked of her own disordered thinking - SEPARATE from those practices - and likely caused her kids issues in the first place.

Yes, this is a perfect description.

No, I think only one or a couple of you are doing this, and you're admitting that you're making assumptions about what you think is really going on. YOU sound like you have baggage around this and are projecting it onto OP.

Let's try again.

OP posted on social media.
She started with "cured"
She stated that "infant never left a drop"
She stated that 'apples & grapes in her mind" were not reasonable snacks.
She feels 90 minutes of exercise daily is required, every single day. Like this is some revelation that DD has to do for the absolute rest of her life. If it's less than "90 minutes" daily??
She is way too focused on BMI. That is better to use as a guideline not an absolute metric.

It's great to give healthy choices. It's great to be supportive of your DC. It's not great that the child is constantly aware of her mother's sensitivity to weight gain, which is so completely obvious from her original post.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let me summarize once again: no one is saying healthy eating and exercise aren’t good practices. People are saying that OP’s post reeked of her own disordered thinking - SEPARATE from those practices - and likely caused her kids issues in the first place.

Yes, this is a perfect description.

No, I think only one or a couple of you are doing this, and you're admitting that you're making assumptions about what you think is really going on. YOU sound like you have baggage around this and are projecting it onto OP.

Huh? You think it’s normal to act like grapes and bananas are unhealthy?

The kid I knew whose mom was like OP would literally eat crumbs from under the table in pre-K because she’d internalized that there wasn’t going to be enough food given to sustain her and also that eating was shameful.

Anonymous wrote:Let me summarize once again: no one is saying healthy eating and exercise aren’t good practices. People are saying that OP’s post reeked of her own disordered thinking - SEPARATE from those practices - and likely caused her kids issues in the first place.

Yes, this is a perfect description.

No, I think only one or a couple of you are doing this, and you're admitting that you're making assumptions about what you think is really going on. YOU sound like you have baggage around this and are projecting it onto OP.

Let me summarize once again: no one is saying healthy eating and exercise aren’t good practices. People are saying that OP’s post reeked of her own disordered thinking - SEPARATE from those practices - and likely caused her kids issues in the first place.

Yes, this is a perfect description.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A healthy diet eaten in moderation and daily exercise cures obesity. Who knew? lol

Some people in this thread think this is a disordered approach.

No they don’t. They think someone acting like this is a revelation (and dropping other flags all over the field) clearly is struggling to overcome disordered thinking.

THIS.

Well if it’s so obvious why don’t more people do it?

Do what? Why are you responding to?

Let me summarize once again: no one is saying healthy eating and exercise aren’t good practices. People are saying that OP’s post reeked of her own disordered thinking - SEPARATE from those practices - and likely caused her kids issues in the first place.

Thank you.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A healthy diet eaten in moderation and daily exercise cures obesity. Who knew? lol

Some people in this thread think this is a disordered approach.

No they don’t. They think someone acting like this is a revelation (and dropping other flags all over the field) clearly is struggling to overcome disordered thinking.

THIS.

Well if it’s so obvious why don’t more people do it?

Do what? Why are you responding to?

Let me summarize once again: no one is saying healthy eating and exercise aren’t good practices. People are saying that OP’s post reeked of her own disordered thinking - SEPARATE from those practices - and likely caused her kids issues in the first place.

No her own disordered thinking likely comes from her own genetic tendencies to overeat and gain weight - which she rigorously controls with a good food/bad food narrative. Her daughter has those same genetics which led to her weight gain. OPs solution to the problem is great, and I hope OP is following it too though I would bet good money no grape or banana has passed OP's lips, but she has yet to let go of her own disordered thinking. There is nothing wrong with what she is doing but there is something wrong with the way she talks about food. Posters are noting this is all. Hopefully OP is listening. Great job, OP, with behavior (and wonderful that you aren't telling your dd to eat less). Now tackle the deeper issue.

Why the extreme defensiveness about puffs?

Generations grew up without them, after all.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A healthy diet eaten in moderation and daily exercise cures obesity. Who knew? lol

Some people in this thread think this is a disordered approach.

No they don’t. They think someone acting like this is a revelation (and dropping other flags all over the field) clearly is struggling to overcome disordered thinking.

THIS.

Well if it’s so obvious why don’t more people do it?

Do what? Why are you responding to?

Let me summarize once again: no one is saying healthy eating and exercise aren’t good practices. People are saying that OP’s post reeked of her own disordered thinking - SEPARATE from those practices - and likely caused her kids issues in the first place.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A healthy diet eaten in moderation and daily exercise cures obesity. Who knew? lol

Some people in this thread think this is a disordered approach.

No they don’t. They think someone acting like this is a revelation (and dropping other flags all over the field) clearly is struggling to overcome disordered thinking.

THIS.

Well if it’s so obvious why don’t more people do it?

I agree. I think people are just jealous that op was able to do something

No not jealous. "cured" is a terrible vocabulary word to have used.

Why is it terrible?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A healthy diet eaten in moderation and daily exercise cures obesity. Who knew? lol

Some people in this thread think this is a disordered approach.

No they don’t. They think someone acting like this is a revelation (and dropping other flags all over the field) clearly is struggling to overcome disordered thinking.

THIS.

Well if it’s so obvious why don’t more people do it?

I agree. I think people are just jealous that op was able to do something

No not jealous. "cured" is a terrible vocabulary word to have used.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A healthy diet eaten in moderation and daily exercise cures obesity. Who knew? lol

Some people in this thread think this is a disordered approach.

No they don’t. They think someone acting like this is a revelation (and dropping other flags all over the field) clearly is struggling to overcome disordered thinking.

THIS.

Well if it’s so obvious why don’t more people do it?

I agree. I think people are just jealous that op was able to do something

Anonymous wrote:you people are lunatics. OP is keeping her daughter healthy with exercise and a healthy diet, and this is somehow disordered?! Good job OP, you are instilling healthy habits in your daughter that will hopefully last her a lifetime!

If OP DD was already obese, and is already in elementary school, chances are she has instilled horrible eating habits with an unlikely chance of being changing at this point without causing serious food/body issues, and an obsession.

you people are lunatics. OP is keeping her daughter healthy with exercise and a healthy diet, and this is somehow disordered?! Good job OP, you are instilling healthy habits in your daughter that will hopefully last her a lifetime!

Anonymous wrote:Is there only one pp who is going bat s*it crazy that OP didn't leave her obese dd to her own means(which the child does not have) and actually blames op for getting her dd's obesity under control?! I mean, I've seen a lot of crazy on dcum, but this takes the cake.
Plus OP honestly admitted she had some wrong ideas about food and she worked on herself as well to fix it. Isn't that how most people that are overweight or overly thin get there? And their kids in tow?

Not really. It sounds like th dd girl is only eating bananas on vacation because otherwise it would be too hard to stick to 5-7 fruits and veggies.

It is really hard to boil it all down to good decisions because so much is genetics. I wish people would stop thinking about weight as a motivation and start focusing on eating well and exercising. The end result here is good. The motivation is problematic and likely to result in a low key ED. That said, 95% of the women I know in thier 40s have a low key ED, so it's not the end of the world. Just a gigantic waste of time and mental/emotional energy. Plus lost of life deferment.

Good luck OP. What you are doing is fine but please please never let yourself mention weight (your own or your dds). Do it for health only.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A healthy diet eaten in moderation and daily exercise cures obesity. Who knew? lol

Some people in this thread think this is a disordered approach.

No they don’t. They think someone acting like this is a revelation (and dropping other flags all over the field) clearly is struggling to overcome disordered thinking.

THIS.

Well if it’s so obvious why don’t more people do it?