Anonymous
Post 05/15/2023 14:04     Subject: Celebrating Everyone but actual mother's on mother's day?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don't actually care that anyone is celebrating being a dogmom. I just resent that I am supposed to remember to text these people on mother's day to pretend they are moms, too.

Come on...do you really think people expect you to text them for this? And if they do, I would imagine their issues go way beyond#dogmom stuff.


Yes, I have some single friends in their 40s that def will be offended if I do not play along.


Then get new friends. Seriously. I'm in my 40s and I wouldn't be friends with someone this ridiculous.
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2023 14:03     Subject: Re:Celebrating Everyone but actual mother's on mother's day?
Anonymous wrote:I blame social media.

If it were not for social media, people who aren't moms or who might have a difficult relationship with social media would not see so much "happy mothers day" stuff which gives them fomo or makes them feel sad.

And if it were not for social media, OP and others who are bothered by stuff like Mother's Day cards "from" dogs or celebrating childless women wouldn't see it either.

The answer is of course to just stay off social media. But even as someone who no longer uses most social media, I get why this is hard (as here I am on DCUM, my social media replacement I can't seem to quit). So instead people go on these platforms and get annoyed by stuff they otherwise wouldn't even be aware of.

For instance, I was single and childless for a long time as an adult but during a time when Facebook and Instagram barely existed and certainly people weren't posting a million photos of their engagements, weddings, pregnancies and kids on them. So even when I was sad about being single or not having a kid, I didn't feel inundated with the feeling that everyone else had what I wanted. It was so much easier.


Then get off social media. It's not obligatory. Or skip it for the day of and day after Mother's Day if you're so sensitive. I have zero tolerance for people who get upset about stuff they see on social media. It's optional. If you can't handle it, get off it. Problem solved. It's not "hard" to get off social media. I don't know how old you are, but many of us (I'm 44) grew up just fine without it.
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2023 13:57     Subject: Celebrating Everyone but actual mother's on mother's day?
Bunch of snowflakes. So sensitive against others moms like furmoms, etc.

Let others be happy with what they choose to celebrate mothers day. I prefer women's day.

Most older men usually religious *unts just sees women as breeding machines. They don't care after the baby is born and even worse if is brown from the border. Hypocrites
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2023 13:56     Subject: Re:Celebrating Everyone but actual mother's on mother's day?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The impression I got from the "those who have chosen not to be mothers" bit of the flower meme is that it is either referring to birth mothers who have given up children for adoption (albeit with odd wording) or women who have undergone an abortion. I don't think it is referring to the childfree.


Thank you for this explanation! The birth mother thing makes at least some sense. The abortion thing does not.

OP, I am bothered by it as well. There is all this pressure in society for mothers to sacrifice their time, energy, careers, own interests, bodies, etc. for their children and now we’re made to feel guilty for being celebrated one day a year. Not me. I enjoyed Mother’s Day and didn’t let them make me feel one bit guilty.

You know what other holidays are hard for people suffering from infertility and who’ve lost their mom? Christmas, Easter, Halloween, etc. Should we stop celebrating any holiday because it makes someone sad?


Where the f@(% are you getting this from? I've been a mom for 9 years, and not once have I ever thought, damn, someone is trying to make me feel guilty for wanting to sleep in/go to the spa/have breakfast in bed today. Seriously, who are you people?
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2023 13:55     Subject: Celebrating Everyone but actual mother's on mother's day?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wow, I think some of you have way too much time on your hands if this offends you. You kind of sound like children yourselves. It’s MY day!

Nothing about what others want to consider to be part of a commercial holiday makes me any less of a mother. I am lucky to have a family who loves me and shows me appreciation more than one day a year, though, so I don’t have to dwell on it.


But....it kind of is? Mother's Day is a day to celebrate mother's, not women who are childfree by choice or women who have no children but own pets. I just think it's getting ridiculous.


+1

it IS *my* day! Mother’s work so, so hard. It is a completely thankless job, even if you have a wonderful and kind and attentive husband and kids. It is NICE to be recognized and appreciated. FOR ONE DAY.


OP (and I know it's OP because she can't seem to tell the difference plural and possessive), just give it a rest. Maybe focus on being a happier person, because for you to think being a mother is a thankless job is just sad.
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2023 13:54     Subject: Celebrating Everyone but actual mother's on mother's day?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Please learn to distinguish the plural from the possessive.

And then step away from social media.

That will fix all of your problems that can be fixed.



I made a typo in the subject, and you pointed it out! So edgy of you. It seems like a lot of people agree with my original rant, maybe it hit a little too close to home for you?


Nice try, OP. Many people disagree with you and think your post is stupid. Your bad grammar doesn't make your post "hit a little too close for home." What on earth does that even mean? You're the only one who is upset here.
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2023 13:49     Subject: Celebrating Everyone but actual mother's on mother's day?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It’s just an effort to be sensitive to people for whom Mother’s Day may be a sad day. Relax.


Not for child-free by choice women. I’m glad you have the life you want. But I’m not “honoring” you or “thinking of you” today.


Then don't!

I'm a mom and I also have dogs but would think it's really stupid of them to celebrate me on Mother's Day. However, I don't get my panties in a twist because someone else is getting a card from their dog. That doesn't affect me in the slightest. Why would it? Who cares?
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2023 20:23     Subject: Celebrating Everyone but actual mother's on mother's day?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It’s just an effort to be sensitive to people for whom Mother’s Day may be a sad day. Relax.


+1. I’m a mom of three, but my sister cannot biologically carry a child. I really don’t care if her husband gets her a card from her cat. Why do you care? Also, I don’t have a good relationship with my mom so even though I’ve had a lovely day with my kids, it’s also a sad day for me for that reason. Let people do what they need to do on this made up Hallmark holiday. If you want to feel celebrated as a mom let your spouse and children know and be grateful that you have a spouse and children.


This doesn’t make any sense. The origins of Mother’s Day were not made up in a Hallmark board room. It’s actually a touching story. You should educate yourself on topics you know nothing about before spouting off like you do.
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2023 19:38     Subject: Celebrating Everyone but actual mother's on mother's day?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have to admit I find it bizarre to get happy Mother’s Day sentiments from anyone except my child.


The worst is getting Happy Mothers Day from random strangers when my kids aren’t even with me. That happened to me a couple times last year when I was walking back from court in a suit and it was hilarious/I wanted to punch the person. It made me take a good look on the mirror to think about what was projecting MOM to others without my kids a present.


I think it's mostly because people just assume - female and 30+ = mother.
Must be hard if you want to be a mother and aren't. And annoying if you don't want to be and aren't.
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2023 19:31     Subject: Re:Celebrating Everyone but actual mother's on mother's day?
Anonymous wrote:Case in point. The dog moms are over in the pets section wishing themselves a happy Mother’s Day.


Oh the horror! Why can we do?
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2023 19:28     Subject: Celebrating Everyone but actual mother's on mother's day?
Some fool was wearing a Mother’s Day pet mom T-shirt at the grocery store today.
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2023 19:27     Subject: Celebrating Everyone but actual mother's on mother's day?
Anonymous wrote:If you aren't a mom, you still can play a motherly role by adoption, step mothering, fostering or mentoring a child, being a motherly aunt to your own or your husband's nieces and nephews.



Don’t forget dogs and cats!
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2023 19:26     Subject: Celebrating Everyone but actual mother's on mother's day?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you aren't a mom, you still can play a motherly role by adoption, step mothering, fostering or mentoring a child, being a motherly aunt to your own or your husband's nieces and nephews.

All these things still don’t make a person a mother.


You don’t think adoptive mothers are mothers?
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2023 19:20     Subject: Celebrating Everyone but actual mother's on mother's day?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have to admit I find it bizarre to get happy Mother’s Day sentiments from anyone except my child.


The worst is getting Happy Mothers Day from random strangers when my kids aren’t even with me. That happened to me a couple times last year when I was walking back from court in a suit and it was hilarious/I wanted to punch the person. It made me take a good look on the mirror to think about what was projecting MOM to others without my kids a present.


I had the same thing happen to me and I am childfree. So weird. Why are strangers doing this?
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2023 19:04     Subject: Celebrating Everyone but actual mother's on mother's day?
Anonymous wrote:It’s just an effort to be sensitive to people for whom Mother’s Day may be a sad day. Relax.


+1. I’m a mom of three, but my sister cannot biologically carry a child. I really don’t care if her husband gets her a card from her cat. Why do you care? Also, I don’t have a good relationship with my mom so even though I’ve had a lovely day with my kids, it’s also a sad day for me for that reason. Let people do what they need to do on this made up Hallmark holiday. If you want to feel celebrated as a mom let your spouse and children know and be grateful that you have a spouse and children.