Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What is surprising to me are the number of people who apparently think fancy hotel black tie gala weddings are actually fun instead of something to be endured because you like your family and friends. I find them so boring!
Me too! X1000 when it’s a destination. Forgive me for not wanting you to dictate where I spend my one vacation per year.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I guess for many people here cost, childcare is a concern. I think also that since the divorce rates are so high, there is no reason to inconvenience oneself and take the whole family?
I really haven't taken into account divorce rates. Out of the 40 or so weddings I have been to, only one has ended in divorce, but that wedding was FUN and I have never thought twice about going. Most of my friends got married in their late 20s / 30s - is the divorce rate that high for people who get married a little later?
I can see how the equation would be different if a friend is getting married to someone you REALLY don't like. We had some friends who were getting married last year and no one was particularly thrilled for them. He was a serial cheater and treated her like crap, so a lot of people thought pretty hard about not going to the wedding. They ended up calling it off a week before the wedding, thankfully.
OT but who do you think called it off, the bride or the groom?
Anonymous wrote:I like my kid and I don’t care that much about your wedding.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What is surprising to me are the number of people who apparently think fancy hotel black tie gala weddings are actually fun instead of something to be endured because you like your family and friends. I find them so boring!
Most weddings I go to - fancy black tie, beach, barn, museum, winery, etc. - are kid-free. How fun they are depends on the people who are there (and maybe how good the band/dj is). I think it's odd to assume that kid-free weddings are automatically super fancy ones, that definitely has not been true in my experience.
Mine either. Kid free is the default of all the weddings I have been to, of all different types.
Out of curiosity, where are you located? I am in California and this is not my experience at all. Kid free is relatively unusual.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What is surprising to me are the number of people who apparently think fancy hotel black tie gala weddings are actually fun instead of something to be endured because you like your family and friends. I find them so boring!
Me too! X1000 when it’s a destination. Forgive me for not wanting you to dictate where I spend my one vacation per year.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What is surprising to me are the number of people who apparently think fancy hotel black tie gala weddings are actually fun instead of something to be endured because you like your family and friends. I find them so boring!
Most weddings I go to - fancy black tie, beach, barn, museum, winery, etc. - are kid-free. How fun they are depends on the people who are there (and maybe how good the band/dj is). I think it's odd to assume that kid-free weddings are automatically super fancy ones, that definitely has not been true in my experience.
Mine either. Kid free is the default of all the weddings I have been to, of all different types.
Out of curiosity, where are you located? I am in California and this is not my experience at all. Kid free is relatively unusual.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What is surprising to me are the number of people who apparently think fancy hotel black tie gala weddings are actually fun instead of something to be endured because you like your family and friends. I find them so boring!
Most weddings I go to - fancy black tie, beach, barn, museum, winery, etc. - are kid-free. How fun they are depends on the people who are there (and maybe how good the band/dj is). I think it's odd to assume that kid-free weddings are automatically super fancy ones, that definitely has not been true in my experience.
Mine either. Kid free is the default of all the weddings I have been to, of all different types.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What is surprising to me are the number of people who apparently think fancy hotel black tie gala weddings are actually fun instead of something to be endured because you like your family and friends. I find them so boring!
Most weddings I go to - fancy black tie, beach, barn, museum, winery, etc. - are kid-free. How fun they are depends on the people who are there (and maybe how good the band/dj is). I think it's odd to assume that kid-free weddings are automatically super fancy ones, that definitely has not been true in my experience.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Am I the only person who, as a child, LOVED when my parents went away for a night or weekend and left me with grandma or a relative? Kids don’t want/need you constantly up their ass all the time. Go to the wedding. It’s good for all involved. Enough with the “prioritizing family time” excuse. I’m quite certain your kids get enough of you.
I think we can agree that different families operate differently without throwing out insults like "I'm quite certain your kids get enough of you". I have no problem with anyone else's decision about how to celebrate their wedding, or how to accept/decline wedding invites that they get. I would never tell someone that they were a bad parent who didn't spend enough time with their kids because they went to some out of town weddings without them. But apparently you're telling posters that their kids have had enough of them and we should stop being "constantly up their ass" by having family time on weekends when they are small? Stop with the nastiness! It serves no purpose other than to make others think there is something fundamentally wrong with you.
Oh good. Mother Theresa is here.
Anonymous wrote:What is surprising to me are the number of people who apparently think fancy hotel black tie gala weddings are actually fun instead of something to be endured because you like your family and friends. I find them so boring!
Anonymous wrote:LOLing at OP of the other thread hopping on here to state her case, as though she's not completely absurd.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I guess for many people here cost, childcare is a concern. I think also that since the divorce rates are so high, there is no reason to inconvenience oneself and take the whole family?
I really haven't taken into account divorce rates. Out of the 40 or so weddings I have been to, only one has ended in divorce, but that wedding was FUN and I have never thought twice about going. Most of my friends got married in their late 20s / 30s - is the divorce rate that high for people who get married a little later?
I can see how the equation would be different if a friend is getting married to someone you REALLY don't like. We had some friends who were getting married last year and no one was particularly thrilled for them. He was a serial cheater and treated her like crap, so a lot of people thought pretty hard about not going to the wedding. They ended up calling it off a week before the wedding, thankfully.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Guy here: I sense these invitees responding who boycott weddings that don’t include their kids really don’t like to go to weddings sans spouse. My DW is like that, but when we had little kids I went to lots of weddings solo and had a great time. So they’re mad partly because they see going solo is a terrible option.
I don't think anyone on this thread has said they are mad about getting a wedding invite that doesn't include kids- they are just saying they wouldn't go. Which is totally different.